Independent education?

notanewuser

Mojisola wrote: »

Surely, a decision like that has got to depend on the quality of the private school and the local schools? Not all private schools provide a good education.

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Just as not all state schools provide an inferior one!!!

notanewuser

SuzieSue wrote: »

You shouldn't consider your own political views when it comes to your children's education - you need to do what is best for them and if the best school for then is in the independent sector then that is where you should send them.

Pardon?!

"No darling, mummy doesn't believe in god, but is going to lie to get you into the local church school."

"No darling, mummy didn't go to private school, and I don't really agree with them, but I've agreed to send you because somebody else is paying."

What does this teach children?!

notanewuser

I would have to have exhausted every other educational option before I considered private education for my DD. Just because we can afford it doesn't make it the best option!!

SuzieSue

notanewuser wrote: »

Pardon?!

"No darling, mummy doesn't believe in god, but is going to lie to get you into the local church school."

"No darling, mummy didn't go to private school, and I don't really agree with them, but I've agreed to send you because somebody else is paying."

What does this teach children?!

It teaches the child that successive governments have decimated our state education system and that although her mummy would like to send her to a state school, she has to do what is best for her child because she loves her and wants to give her the best education she can.

SuzieSue

notanewuser wrote: »

I would have to have exhausted every other educational option before I considered private education for my DD. Just because we can afford it doesn't make it the best option!!

Good for you, but the OP needs to do what is best for her children.

thegirlintheattic

I'm in a similar position. OH privately educated and I went to state. I teach in a state school. We've decided that when we have kids we will send them private. We can afford it and for us the hours work better than state school hours. We also think that opportunities are easier to come by and behavior is better.

SuzieSue

thegirlintheattic wrote: »

I'm in a similar position. OH privately educated and I went to state. I teach in a state school. We've decided that when we have kids we will send them private. We can afford it and for us the hours work better than state school hours. We also think that opportunities are easier to come by and behavior is better.

Totally agree. Well done.

Miss_Poohs

My son is one of the first to be affected by CfE hes currently in 3rd year and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't concerned.
We thought long and hard about where to send him. We considered independant and secondary schools out with our catchment, believe me there's snobbery there as well, but we decided on the local secondary.
Is it perfect? No. Are the facilities adequate? Most definitely. Is he doing well? I'm pleased to say so far so good.
We've also complimented his education with tutoring which I'm more than happy to do.
You're a long way off having to consider any of this - in my experience a private education is no guarentee of exam/career success, it's all down to support and hard work.

Robisere

I knew two guys in army service who had attended independent schools. One had a double-barreled name and you might expect that he would have a superior attitude, but that was not the case. He had attended a top-drawer Public School, excelled in art but left before Uni to train as an Aircraft Technician, in the Ranks with the rest of us. He was one of the most intelligent, humorous and likeable people I ever met, with a very wide vocabulary and some of the daftest, funniest quotes I ever heard.

The other guy was a complete a----hole, having gone to a minor Public School he had been "sent down" as they call it, but we never found out why. A fairly big chap, he started bullying, which did not go down well with me and after I challenged him he tried to attack me, which ended in me knocking him down and him crying. Yes, crying. He then went AWOL and whilst he was away, as Senior Corporal in our block I and another soldier, were tasked with packing all his kit and taking it to storage. we found a great deal of stuff that had gone missing from our lockers and rooms. On his arrest and return some weeks later, I had to protect him from the rest before marching him to the Guard Room and eventual Court Martial.

Lesson here is that the education does not matter, nor the way we speak. It is the parental (and grand-parental) influence, the environment and the home life. And love. Lots of it.

My own opinion, for what it may be worth, is that the influence your in-laws are trying to bear upon your lives, in conjunction with your OH's apparent inability to recognise your concerns, may well become unpopular with you. If not now, then perhaps later in your lives together. Where you send your child or children may not matter as much as whether or not you have enough of a 'say' in your family matters.

Think about what is perhaps a vague worry or irritation now: it may develop over the years, into outright annoyance. You have to be able to have your own say in your own family.

sharnad

i would look at having the chld first and when she/he is born look at your circumstances financially and the local schools