The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

shaggydoo

February :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 28 days AF

= target achieved



Arsenal Barney 8/21

Bangers69 4/14

Barny1979 22/27
Chloris 21/20

Chocolate Cupcake 8/20

CuppaTea 13/20

December Baby 4/20

FigTree 21/27

Gien 7/20

Imagnu 14/20

Jak 22/28

Kiittiej 10/28

Lilith 22/28

Mackeroo 9/TF

Maman 9/10

Mari 3/20
MrsDee 10/10

Mummy2threeboys /21

priceySOS 13/TF

Satchmo 23/24
Shaggy 19/17

StupotStu 5/12

Top Girl /24

Tracy 7/16

Unself /15

Warbonnet 15/26

WBF 3/11

41 and I know it 22/27


Everyone Welcome!

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've got your AFDs wrong!!!!!

Figtree

maman wrote: »

I make that about 4kg which is about 2lbs weightloss a week in old money. Don't scoff at that!:T

ETA: In fact, just don't scoff!:rotfl:

Oh, I know! I did really well from 1 Jan to 1 Feb, but I'm still at around the 81kg mark and less than a week to go til 1 March! I will persevere though

Lilith1980

Morning everyone, it's 23 AFD for me please Shaggy.

We went round to our friends' house last night for some mexican food, which was yummy but I was very bloated afterwards as some things trigger my IBS. I just accept that something will upset me when I go out to eat lol.

I bought some Elderflower Presse from Sainsburys and OH took some Ginger Beer and we had a really nice evening. Still proving that we can have a nice night without the alcohol.

Got the tyre sorted - £20. There is a place round the corner from us that are dirt cheap and fit used tyres (they are still legal etc but have come off cars that have been scrapped). So not bad cost-wise, just had to stand around in the cold for half an hour lol.

Still not managed to shake this cold, woke up this morning and my eyes were hurting and was very bunged up. Hoping it will shift soon

Have a chilled Sunday everyone

graemecarter

mrsdee wrote: »

I think you are right maman, a great extent of it is years and years of habit which is tough to break at first. I guess it's going to take a while.
I am now getting anxious about a planned night out next week. i have planned to drink (going out to dinner with husband) but am now wondering, how much and what, and what will it be like? Will I enjoy it or will I be worrying too much about when to stop. I guess the sensible thing is to set an amount in my mind and stop when i get to that point so it is pre-determined. But it kind of feels wrong to be thining like this when i presume that other "normal" people would just go out and enjoy themselves, have a couple of drinks and not give it minute's thought.....

It took me a long and painful time to realise that I am not a 'normal' drinker. However much I hoped that I would become one, it was not possible as I'm an alcoholic, and I cannot drink sensibly/in moderation at all. It is what it is. And I have to deal with it and get on with life.

graemecarter

41_and_i_know_it wrote: »

Hi everyone, feeling better today even though I am physically and emotionally drained (if that makes sense lol). Thinking about it it was a bit callous writing what I wrote yesterday as I didn't think that some people may have lost family or friends to drink so I am very sorry if I brought back bad memories, I did not want to go for the shock factor and I hope it didn't come across that way. I wanted to get across how upset and what a waste it was and so much regret and guilt, he was only just 67 hadn't even been retired 2 years after working for the NHS for 35 years in the same place. If they find liver disease when the PM is done, I think it will have an effect on me.
No-one is blaming my uncle for the way he chose to live, but they loved him so much and he chose not to go the doctors for 6 years and my cousin rung up for his blood pressure prescriptions every month and he said he was taking them but hadn't picked them up for 6 years. The doctor told him that he couldn't drink with the medication at all and that's why he told everyone he was taking them when he knew it would kill him to drink and take them, so it was an easy choice for him just drink and don't take the tablets. Alcohol is a drug of choice, we have also found out that he smoked in private. I love my uncle even though he wasn't so close to me as my cousin but his death will not be in vain because I can see that alcohol takes from everyone, not just the drinker but everyone that touches that drinker's lives, and that drinker is me, so when I drink I affect everyone around me, that surely can't be right. I don't to make everyone upset because they are watching me killing myself slowly and they can't do anything but watch.

I got sober as my drinking eventually became unacceptable to me. It had been unacceptable to other people for years (wife, parents, bosses, etc) but it was only when it was unacceptable to me that I was willing to take action to stop drinking.
The fact that others benefit from me not drinking is a bonus, but is not enough to keep me from drinking. I stopped for myself, not for others, and the moment I think that I have stopped for others and not myself, I would get resentful and then drink on that resentment.

maman

shaggydoo wrote: »

As the years have gone by I've learned lots of tricks to reduce my alcohol consumption

As lots of posters say - I enjoy AFDs these days. I like not drinking. But I enjoy having a drinking day too.

And I love this thread. It really helps me keep my drinking in check.

That's exactly how I feel about alcohol now too Shaggy.

mrsdee wrote: »

Had a planned alcohol day today and really enjoyed half a bottle of a really nice red wine with dinner. Then onto tea and later, horlicks. Now in bed with some water and feeling good.

This is one of my achievements too. I find that stop button and switch to tea or hot Ribena.

shaggydoo wrote: »

- I did hear a few bells when I got home as OH was drinking some red wine but resisted

Shaggyx

And this is another. I find going straight for the kettle when I get in really helps.

What I still find difficult is drinking that first glass too quickly. I'm fine when I'm out in a pub or a restaurant but at home in my kitchen on my own........:o

Chloris

Good Afternoon All. I am on 24 AFD now. I always half intended to have an AF February and I am so close to completing it. :j

I was up at silly o'clock today as I sprained my ankle yesterday and it was sore in the night. Anyhoo, I ended up reading a bit about the Whole 30 diet, where you basically have a paleo diet for thirty days to give your system a rest. I did a more gentle version of this last year and I lost weight and had better energy levels so I am starting it today. And guess what? It includes no alcohol as sugars are a big no-no. Sugar is a problem for me as I react very strongly to a small amount (hence controlling the alcohol). So I will have to see how I get on! Anyone else given this diet/lifestyle change a try?

Off to revise the meal plan.....:rotfl:

mackeroo

Roll UP Roll UP FOR THE
:ASchool Night Challenge aka SNC:A


Everyone one is welcome to join in

mrsdee

mackeroo wrote: »

Roll UP Roll UP FOR THE
:ASchool Night Challenge aka SNC:A


Everyone one is welcome to join in

Please could you put me down for 3 please? Thank you!

41_and_i_know_it

Thankyou to all the posters, graeme you are so right and shaggy thanks it means so much to hear from you. I love this thread too. I got up at 11.38am today can't believe it and I've had a really productive day cleaning and sorting things out, I feel like I have achieved something today. I'm sure if I had drunk last night I wouldn't have been able to say that. By the way when I woke up I felt like shut but within an hour I felt ok. Loving everyone's contributions, don't feel so alone. Thankyou.