The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

maman

Rosepetal1701 wrote: »

I so agree - I had a drink tonight (planned) and I actually enjoyed it

stupotstu wrote: »

Good Weekend All! Stay Sober and if you are having a treat night then enjoy it!

SPS X

Thanks for all the advice and support. I just wanted to add to cutters-down that, for me, planned drinking nights are a 'treat night'.

365days

Fruball wrote: »

Thanks all. Words of encouragement are definitely helpful and yes, I did make target last month.

I hate this 'issue' and I want to knock it on the head and be permanently AF... I love my AF days so I don't understand why I drink wine...

Looking forward to tomorrow and a totally AF day xx

I drank wine because it was more powerful than me and for me it always will be. That's why I took the decision to stop completely, I knew I would never be able to control it. The decision took a long while though and even after I made the decisionI would test myself to see if i could control it yet. I never could so I stopped completely.

I had perfitiroles (sp?) about a year ago, given to me at a friends house, waitrose ones. I immediately tasted the booze in them. As soon as I tasted it I wanted more. That's why, for me, I know I can't have just one. Many can, many can't. What camp you fall into only you can decide!

365days

Waves back to Pippi!!

365days

Fruball wrote: »

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DFU1S07oe4I

Anyone?

Only just clicked the link on this one! One of my favourite bands. Many, many a drunken evening spent dancing to these guys. Saw them live a few times too.

Fruball

365days wrote: »

I drank wine because it was more powerful than me and for me it always will be. That's why I took the decision to stop completely, I knew I would never be able to control it. The decision took a long while though and even after I made the decisionI would test myself to see if i could control it yet. I never could so I stopped completely.

I had perfitiroles (sp?) about a year ago, given to me at a friends house, waitrose ones. I immediately tasted the booze in them. As soon as I tasted it I wanted more. That's why, for me, I know I can't have just one. Many can, many can't. What camp you fall into only you can decide!

Hence why I think I need to drop the alcohol completely. There is no middle ground with me... All or nothing.

The next stage is what??? Keep increasing my AF days or go cold turkey? I managed 15/15 last month and have a target of 17 this month...

Pippilongstocking

Hey there Fruball - I've certainly felt the same at times. And as 365 (waves back) says only you can decide where you're most comfy.

However, I'd just say this (and this is purely MY advice) - take each day as it comes and find your own ground just like others have said.

I've always said I was an 'all or nothing' kinda gal - but hard work and the occasional clear moment has let me find a balance which works for me. I know my limits (no alcohol in the house normally) and I limit my drinking to being a treat not an essential for life a bit like Maman and others.

I think you did amazing to achieve your goals last month, something to build on there. You DIDNT drink for a fair chunk of the month - brilliant! That takes willpower and strength.

If you stick with a target and make it, fab, if you exceed it - awesome. However if anyone doesn't achieve their target, each new day brings more opportunities.

Just remember to be nice to yourself and if it were me, I'd take each day as it comes.

I've learnt so much about myself through this thread and the support around, I hope you do too.



Wines an occasional treat for me now. I never thought I hear myself say that with some semblance of control.

Tomorrows a shiny new day - I'm planning on an AF weekend, starting with tomorrow and seeing how I go - happy to have some company.

Night chaps! Sorry for the waffling I napped earlier and now I'm wide awake but working tomorrow so I must get a snooze on.

x

satchmo1

For what it's worth, at my worst, I spent too many mornings saying "I won't drink today". I've cut down considerably, but last month slipped back.

I'll set my November target to 20 please and see how I get on. I don't like the fact that I've just given myself permission to drink for 10 days this month, though :-(

antonic

Fruball wrote: »

Hence why I think I need to drop the alcohol completely. There is no middle ground with me... All or nothing.

The next stage is what??? Keep increasing my AF days or go cold turkey? I managed 15/15 last month and have a target of 17 this month...

You sre describing me Fruball me and that was the reason why I choose to go AF and I have never regretted it since.

I feel much better every morning and more importantly I have nore money to spend on me !

Fruball

I am calling AF early 1/17 as I have wasted my day due to wine and I won't be spoiling tomorrow by drinking wine tonight.

Thanks for all the advice and support folks It really does help.

Have a great Saturday night and enjoy the rest of your weekend

Katzen

Hi all, mind if I join?
I've realised in the last couple of months that my grocery bill has been creeping up and I think it's largely down to buying more booze. Also, I know that as the days get darker I get more miserable. I think that I use alcohol to self medicate this misery, even though I know it upsets my sleep and makes me feel worse the next day; isn't it funny how you can spend the day feeling rotten then forget all about it once it's wine o'clock? I've got a wedding this month so it won't be totally alcohol free but I think i will aim for 25 days off. Wish me luck!