The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

tracy_36

18AF please Shaggy, hope you are ok?

41 - your words are always so true, hope you are ok as well

gien

Managed an AF night last night and feel much better this morning even though I didn't have so much sleep. Must be good.

Slowdown

17/22 AF days but not another tonight as Im off out. That means I need another 5 in the next 6 days AF to the end of the month. I am going away on Sunday to Devon. I really can't see it happening but I might clock up a couple more. Feel a bit sad that I didn't save up more days at the start of the month then it wouldn't be so far off target. Still I have done better than I thought I would so it's a good start to it all. I can't believe its almost a month since I joined. Blimey.

Kind regards
Slowdown:)

Slowdown

:rotfl:Oh my. I started this about the 19th of April. Over a month. Wow! Where did that go?:rotfl:

shaggydoo

Evening

3 more AFDs to report....



I can't believe it's the bank holiday! The weather is atrocious here and my central heating is on!

Shaggyx

shaggydoo

May :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved




Barny1979 21/28

CuppaTea 16/24

Gien 3/TF

Imagnu 11/TF

Lilith 14/TF

Mackeroo 6/12

Macpep 9/21

Maman 6/10

Miskyn /25

MrsDee /TF

New Day /8

PurpleMumof2 1/5
Satchmo 19/20

Shaggy 12 /17

Slowdown 17/22
The Boss 23/31

TMD 4/TF
Tracy 18/12
41 and I know it 21/31


Everyone Welcome!

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've got your AFDs wrong!!!!!

41_and_i_know_it

Hi everyone, went to my auntie's funeral today, and my other auntie was getting buried an hour before. Lots of tears, my one auntie who died of septicaemia was only 58 years old. The other auntie who was in ICU for 7 weeks died of throat cancer aged 64. Two first cousins have both lost their mums, I am so grateful that I have a chance to breathe the fresh air and enjoy life still, even when it doesn't go according to plan, at least tomorrow may be different. Looking at the photo in my aunties house, Uncle David died in February and Auntie Shirley died in April, only my mum, Auntie June, Uncle Derek and Uncle Gordon left. That photo wasn't taken that long ago and now it's all changed. Treasure your family and friends who are the family we choose. Enjoy life for what it is and not what you have or have not, please try to relax and take time for yourselves, we need to love ourselves a little bit more.
24 AF days, definitely will not be drinking today, still no voice.

CuppaTea

Slowdown wrote: »

CuppaTea
Quite often once the kids get in from school I don't have another adult conversation until the next day, usually meaningless pleasantries with other mums or work colleagues.

I;ve examined my own behaviours and asked the few friends I have to be honest with me, but they are drawing blanks. I know I am very sensitive so try not to take things literally. E.g. one mum used to be very friendly to me but now will barely say hello. I try to think well the only thing we have in common is our kids at school, ordinarily our paths wouldn't cross. Its just hurtful when I just feel so on the outside of everything in every aspect in my life. But I do realise I need to take some responsibility for this

I found this really interesting as I felt exactly the same as this when my children were younger. I always needed to change my behaviours in order to fit in with the crowd and I really didn't feel comfortable. There were always the popular mums with many hangers on, the in - crowd who eyed you with suspicion and those like me who hung around the edges never really being part of any group.

I always felt awkward and never relaxed in their company even though I actively sought it.

Two things I have realised over the years:
1) that I have forced myself to realise I don't fit, have made a decision not to try to fit and have cultivated the very good friendships I have with the fewer close friends I have known for years. They don't live near me and I have to arrange to meet them but I feel happy and secure in their company.I have long given up the search for other friends and now feel content

2) that many, many people feel exactly the same way as me and that society puts undue pressure on us to live in some kind of social whirl and that we must be 'odd' or 'wierd if we don't. Its nonsense and I believe that if I have a few friends I can trust implicitly then I'm a very lucky girl.

It can be lonely bringing up kids and spending lots of time on your own. I always listened to the radio, particulary bbc4 or 5 as it makes you feel connected rather than the TV which can make you feel isolated.

You are like most other people I know, who feel that everyone else is having a better, more sociable, livelier, more fulfilled life than you. Fact is its usually not the case.

Kind regards
Slowdown:)

Thank you slowdown I found that really helpful and insightful! I'll try to remember that.

41_and_i_know_it

Hi everyone, 25 AF days.

CuppaTea

tracy_36 wrote: »

Just read back, meant my DD has the squits!
Trust me, you soon get used to doing it all yourself - I've just text their dad to let him know - I always keep him in the loop, and he was more concerned for me!
Like you, mine are rarely ill, and always help when one or the other throws up, tissue/sick bowl and water runs lol!
They've been asleep for a few hours now, so should go all the way through, fingers crossed
Tracy x

Hope the kids are feeling better now Tracy, been thinking of you all.

I did tempt fate by quoting that, DS threw up wednesday night, poor mite, had to miss his sports day and not been right really since. His appetite is still off and his energy levels are dropping off. He is with Bill tomorrow/monday and i wish he could stay here with me instead. I want him if he's not right, he doesn't feel "at home" at Bill's parents, but he is also entitled to see his dad too.