The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

CuppaTea

mackeroo wrote: »

Have only read back a few pages, but when reading your post Cuppa on feeling lonely my first thought was is there any room in your life for a dog at the moment?? Its a great way to meet people, and will also force you to go out. ((hugs))

Unfortunately not, but thanks for trying to help. We already have a cat and I know after the novelty wore off, the kids wouldn't want to be dragged out on walks before school everyday. They are too young to be left alone whilst I go too. Plus I can't afford any further expenses.

I have thought about it before, as we are ideally situated for a dog, but practically now isn't the right time and the cat would have a fit. Occasionally we have visiting friends dogs in the garden and he does take umbridge.

CuppaTea

tracy_36 wrote: »

13AF please Shaggy
Felt the closet to having a drink today, doing the gardening, sun out till gone 7, but I got a pint of squash instead

41/Cuppa - I joined a local group, but didn't end up going as I met my bf called 'Meetup', there's an app as well

They had loads going on, and I def would have gone to some of the outings, from walks, bowling, cinema etc
Have a look on your local website, it's ideal for people like us who struggle to get out - and cuppa - you can join events last minute

Tracy x

Hi Tracy, thanks for that suggestion, I am already a member of my local meet up, haven't been yet. My closest one has tended to be on nights when I can't get out and is held in a pub, ok in itself, but I don't want to get in a crowd of people I don't know and start drinking.

The other group is located in Bill's neck of the woods and whilst the odds are he wouldn't be involved or be in that area, the memories are still too raw to be going over that way.

I have been onto Net Mums though and posted an ad. Today me and kids went litter picking with a local group. We got to meet new people and have a fun morning. We will probably do it again and hopefully get past the hello and other pleasantries. Its easy enough to spend a few hours in other's company but I really want to expand and build myself a circle of friends which I am included in. Not watching in from the outside.

Oh btw, 15/24 AF's. They are creeping up and i had a AF weekend.

CuppaTea

gien wrote: »

Can I come back in after being MIA? I've had a bit of a mare recently and have been drinking far too much. Cuppa and 41, you are real
Inspirations, dealing with so much in your lives bug not just hitting the bottle. Thank you for your kindness.

I've been fretting about weight/exercise/employment etc. and realise that The biggest thing I can do to improve all pf these things is to cut right back on the amount I drink.
Last night I went to big fundraiser party with a band and only drank diet coke. My head thanks me today and I have the first AFD for weeks. Wow, that's a start, just stick here with us, i found once i made the changes and kept coming here, it motivated me to stick to my word/goals, then they habits changed over time. I never thought a year ago, I would be where I am now. I was drinking practically everyday from the afternoon. I was looking back, a person functioning on alcohol.

Lovely to see you back Gien. :j

41_and_i_know_it

Hi everyone, apart from headache and sore throat, and the annoying lack of voice everything is ok. Been out all day with kids and I'm shattered, just made a quorn cottage pie from scratch, it was ok but couldn't really taste it which is probably a bonus lol. Going to docs tomorrow had a script for amoxil last monday but he only give me that to shut me up thinking im a hypochondriac who has depression, so couldn't possibly be physically ill as well, felt tearful last week, when you need a doc to take you seriously it is terrible. Need my voice, need my voice, need my voice.19 AF days.

Slowdown

Fell off the wagon in a spectacular fashion on Friday night going from beer through the wine and into the port. Felt fed up on Saturday and then AF last night and today which I think makes 13/22Af days.

Got DH on board to stop me in future and we have declared a limit of 2 drinks on two nights. If I can't manage this then its time to give up altogether me thinks.

Kind regards
Slowdown:)

satchmo1

Cuppa, there's a charity that asks for dog foster carers for when owners are ill, trouble is I can't remember what it is called. I think I've got the name of it in work, so if you can wait a week I'll try to remember to post it then.

My liver is still objecting to Saturday's alcohol. Neither of us feel hungry, either - unheard of for DH who plans his life around food.

The sun is out here in Krakow, and we're booked to go on a tour of the Salt Mines this morning, we have to be at the Tourist office by 10am, but neither of us are entirely sure if we can remember the route to the Tourist office, so we'll set off half an hour earlier.

[Deleted User]

Morning,

Had a bad week last week due to various factors but getting back on the wagon this week.

Hope everyone is ok today? x

41_and_i_know_it

Saw GP at 9.40 am. Not allowed to talk, whisper or use voice for two weeks. Went up to see my dad in care home but I couldn't communicate with him as he's registered blind wears a hearing aid and has vascular dementia so had to leave as I got upset. Couldn't even get him to understand that I was going and he was staying there, because he can't read. Oh my God I feel so helpless, the only way I communicate with mydad is through speech and hugs which I gave him but he kept askinh me questions which I couldn't answer. So powerless its sick.

tracy_36

So excited, I miscalculated last night, so at 15AF now
So used to posting at lunchtime I got confused!!

tracy_36

41 - Isn't there anyone in the home that can explain you can't talk for you?
How will you cope, not shouting at the kids for 2 weeks lol
My DS has just thrown up, and my DS has the squits, it may be a long night