The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

Barny1979

9 AFDs for me tonight

satchmo1

10/20 AFDs for me. I've just checked my emails and my amazing brother, who is usually so curmudgeonly, has just sent me the money to cover the cost of a new freezer that I had to buy for our mum when hers packed in last weekend! OMG, I can't believe it!

maman

Pleased to report some success. I put off my first glass until just before 7 p.m. so a bit of a delay on the usual wine o'clock. It's progress but can do better.

41_and_i_know_it

Hi everyone, mwah to you all. At least you won't get the attached virus that has caused my laryngeal silence, no voice since Tues/Wed can't quite remember. My auntie had an independent post-mortem which it turns out to be throat cancer, she was in ICU for 6 weeks and they didn't know she had cancer, so we won't be able to bury her for another 6 weeks from now as she needs other tests etc, they are talking about negligence, it is a nasty business, so no RIP yet but at least she is not in pain or struggling to breathe. So glad to be alive, I have got my throat scan on the 21st so be nice to know why most of my life I have either had a sore throat or voice problems. 10 AF days, have not been out of an evening so easier to stay sober as now the booze in the house does not bother me at all, never thought I would say that. By the way I have been good on slimming world diet today, well hydrated and lots of healthy food, and I have not taken painkillers today or my anaesthetic spray. Yay!

graemecarter

Slowdown wrote: »

I was supposed to have an alcohol free night yesterday but let myself down badly. Between the lager and wine I drank a total of over 8 units, almost 3 times the government recommendations. I feel so fed up with myself.

Why can't I just stop at one or even two? I really want to be able to control it because I don't want to give up altogether, but I think I may have to go AF for a while if I want to sort this out. Does anyone have any advice on this?

I am so unhappy with myself that I feel like it is going to ruin my day off today.

Hope you are all getting on a bit better than me.
Kind regards from a rather miserable
Slowdown:(

I regularly drank more than intended to.
When I had the first drink, I wanted the second more than the first, the fifth more than the fourth etc etc
I rarely had a evening when I had a couple of pints and felt satisfied with that and didn't want any more. Very rarely.

I have will power and self discipline in many areas in my life, but none where alcohol is concerned. So for me, it's the first drink that gets me drunk as I will always have that second drink after the first, and so on.
Even though I knew this, I still wanted to drink regularly. I didn't know how to let off steam without alcohol, and always justified my drinking to myself.

So I have no advice regarding moderation. Despite trying for years, I cannot moderate. It's all or nothing for me, and for the last few years it's been nothing. I thought this would be hard and boring and frustrating. But it hasn't been. I've had to change myself (and stay changed) so I no longer even want to drink. If I always wanted something and denied myself it all the time, that would be miserable for me. I wouldn't be able to white-knuckle it for too long - eventually I would justify a drink and chuck it down my neck.

At least with no drinking at all, I don't have the debating society in my head discussing how much I can drink. My safe limit is zero units.

Hope you're feeling better

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

1 more AFD Thursday and I had 4 units last night.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

41_and_i_know_it wrote: »

My auntie had an independent post-mortem which it turns out to be throat cancer, she was in ICU for 6 weeks and they didn't know she had cancer,

My lovely Dad was told he had gallstones by his local hospital the day before he died : he was having a heartattack. I love the NHS but it makes you think doesn't it??? I feel quite scared at the thought of going near a hospital...

shaggydoo

satchmo1 wrote: »

DH is pushing for us to retire next year. My role being de-specialised should make that an easy decision, except that I don't want to retire. I'm not 60 for another three years (and two weeks). When we retire we plan to move to the North West to be nearer the grandchildren (we're currently 180 miles away). The job situation in the NW is worse than here.

I feel really conflicted, though, because if we moved to the NW now, I could become my mum's carer which would guarantee some income. We have just paid off our mortgage (woo-hoo), and selling our house here would allow us to buy a house outright in the NW and still bank £100k.

So why am I gloomy? I guess because I can see how incredibly bored I will be with the role that's left, and I know that I won't have the option to cherry pick the tasks I do like I can now. That will be 12 months of boredom.

What will you fill your retirement with? Time with your grandchildren? join a running club, rambling, time with your mum? Will you miss the area you currently live in? Will you miss your colleagues? Your local parish church? You're salary lol!

shaggydoo

May :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved




Barny1979 9/28

CuppaTea 5/24

Imagnu 4/TF

Lilith 6/TF

Mackeroo 2/12

Macpep 6/21

Maman 4/10

Miskyn /25

MrsDee /TF

New Day /8

PurpleMumof2 /5

Satchmo 10/20

Shaggy 5/17

Slowdown 6/22

The Boss 7/31

Tracy 6/12

41 and I know it 10/31


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satchmo1

shaggydoo wrote: »

What will you fill your retirement with? Time with your grandchildren? join a running club, rambling, time with your mum? Will you miss the area you currently live in? Will you miss your colleagues? Your local parish church? You're salary lol!

So much I want to do that I can't atm: time with mum whilst I still have her, time with grandchildren, drawing, learning the saxophone I've just bought, time with friends in that area. More time for running (not sure whether I'd join a running club as I love to run on my own). Beach walks - oh, how I've missed living by a beach. Will miss: the routine of work and I will miss getting immersed in projects that have such life-changing outcomes (I currently work for an international children's charity); the lovely lakes and safe "redways" for running; parkrun (sadly the nearest parkrun in retirement land is too far). Won't really miss my local church as I've already discovered that the Southport parish church is lovely, and the parishioners are friendly, plus my mum's church has a big place in my heart as it was my church throughout my childhood and was where I and my sisters got married.

We've both said we'd get part-time work, and I'd quite like to do volunteering. The pension pots are pretty healthy, so probably won't miss the salary