The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

CuppaTea

Oh and i'm on 8/24 AFS, not fantastic, 4 days down this early in!

I am going to have to make some ground to catch up.

41_and_i_know_it

Being ill is a good deterrent to drinking, throat feels so sore that it is hard to swallow, and don't want to dehydrate but hydrate, so no point.
However, added benefit alcohol no longer is my primary thought, it has not got me craving for it so much, since I been avoiding chocolate too my cravings for that have almost disappeared, maybe I have an all-or-nothing, or addictive personality, but I know that for me absence does not make the heart grow fonder. If I have a drink I know that I will think the whole month is a lost cause and give up, or slowly but surely the amount and frequency will increase. I have no self-control when it comes to put the chocolate in your mouth but don't swallow, so I have to have a chat with myself and say, tomorrow morning you will regret this for sure, it has been that way most of my life, apart from when I have had a good night out but those good nights became far and few between, and became me alone in the house so no more, I want to be able to feel emotions, interact and go through this journey of self-discovery and hopefully at the end will either choose to be tea-total or be the type of person who knows when I am tipsy or behaving wrong, drinking just for a celebratory toast, or as an enjoyable thing which I am in control of. I don't think this will happen as already I am thinking what's the point in just having one in a year, might as well abstain. I know when I drink the potential for trouble is there, when I don't it isn't.

shaggydoo

Morning :hello:

I had about 2 units Saturday and about 4 yesterday, back on the wagon today.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

May :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved




Barny1979 11/28

CuppaTea 8/24

Imagnu 4/TF

Lilith 7/TF

Mackeroo 2/12

Macpep 6/21

Maman 4/10

Miskyn /25

MrsDee /TF

New Day /8

PurpleMumof2 /5

Satchmo 11/20

Shaggy 5/17

Slowdown 8/22

The Boss 7/31

Tracy 6/12

41 and I know it 12/31


Everyone Welcome!

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've got your AFDs wrong!!!!!

tracy_36

Hi all

Posting in with 7AF, which I think sounds good, but in reality is awful
Fri and Sat I dread to think how many units I drank - so, I am planning a month off again...
Quite a few social things planned for the rest of May, but I do prefer nights out sober, so why have I been drinking so much again?!!?
ARGGHHHHH
Reading back since Fri, some of us are struggling at the mo - bring back the rain for hot choc weather lol
Hope everyone ok
Tracy xx

macpep1

Hi All :wave:

Very busy over the weekend, was AF Friday, didn't get out the church service until 8.45 (started at 6.30) :eek:. Ended up going to bed just after 11pm as DH still wasn't home. I can honestly say it didn't bother me. Drank a bottle on Saturday night, opened it at 8, & that was enough for me, was in the supermarket yesterday looking at the prices of red wine (I don't drink it but had won a bottle in a raffle, which will be given to my uncle for his birthday on Saturday :money:) . DH came up & says this wine is reduced from 8.99 to 4.00 "I don't want any wine" anyway; long story short, he bought it for me & I drank it . However, this weekend I am doing a buffet for my niece who is making her first communion as my sister is totally freaking so will be AF on Friday whilst doing most of the cooking & Saturday, we have the communion through the day & a party at night, wasnt planning on going to the party as its a good bit away from us but DH said "They were good enough to travel to mine" so I have offered to drive & not drink, this will be the first ever weekend in a [STRIKE]long time[/STRIKE] ever I have been AF :eek:. I am not scared though, I know I can do it. I am determined to make my target this month.

I will declare 8AF's now Shaggy please, declaring tonights early as DH is nightshift so I plan on an early night

satchmo1

13 AFDs for me - ooo nearly at the next smiley, goody goody.

Barny1979

12 AFDs for me

Lilith1980

Hi all,

8 AFDs for me please. Have bitten the bullet and emailed my mum to say I can't make the party. I have said money is tight as we've planned to go away in July (which we have) and can't afford to spend £60 on petrol two months on the trot.

OH said "What if she offers to pay for the petrol?"...I don't want to think about it. Then I will have no excuse, or have to use other legitimate ones, which won't look good :mad:

I think I am pressurising myself to make my mum happy because I sense a need in her. But that is her need and it's not my responsibility to meet it, otherwise I would bending over backwards all the time. I am seeing her twice more over the next couple of months so I would have thought she'd be happy with that. I like my life and live it fine without too much contact with family and, to be honest, that is how it has been for a number of years and how I prefer it. Seeing mum a few times a year is enough for me and she often says she knows I have my life and am busy so I think she will understand.

41_and_i_know_it

13 AF days, after the rain comes the rainbow.