The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

41_and_i_know_it

Went to see dad today, I feel so much better for seeing him. Yesterday was a complete nightmare, I'm still not happy about this as reading between the lines, they want to keep him in residential care. He seems more lucid today and this is because he has been given enemas and has eaten and drunk and had a good scrub, which he wouldn't let me do. don't know how much it's going to cost as he is staying defiinitely till after the bank holiday but probably a lot longer, I know it's selfish but I want him home and with me, I miss him so much and my auntie and uncle and hopefully my brother will be at the review meeting next week.
Please accept my apologies for telling you all this, but I need to tell someone and unusually this is not sending me straight for the booze. Anyway some good news, I have lost a quarter of a stone in a week on slimming world so brilliant I am so chuffed.
And another AF day for my dad making it 2 AF days for May. Thanks everyone you are so very kind and I appreciate everything you do for me.

maman

41_and_i_know_it wrote: »

Went to see dad today, I feel so much better for seeing him. Yesterday was a complete nightmare, I'm still not happy about this as reading between the lines, they want to keep him in residential care. He seems more lucid today and this is because he has been given enemas and has eaten and drunk and had a good scrub, which he wouldn't let me do. don't know how much it's going to cost as he is staying defiinitely till after the bank holiday but probably a lot longer, I know it's selfish but I want him home and with me, I miss him so much and my auntie and uncle and hopefully my brother will be at the review meeting next week.
Please accept my apologies for telling you all this, but I need to tell someone and unusually this is not sending me straight for the booze. Anyway some good news, I have lost a quarter of a stone in a week on slimming world so brilliant I am so chuffed.
And another AF day for my dad making it 2 AF days for May. Thanks everyone you are so very kind and I appreciate everything you do for me.

I'm totally amazed at the strength of your willpower. All you've had to put up with and getting into SW too!:T:A

I'm having a drink tonight. I feel I should apologise but my DD had some good news (about her work) today and I've been so worried about her that I feel a little celebration is in order. It's not an excuse but I'm pleased that I'm celebrating rather than drinking in a stressy time. I think that's a good mindset. Ironically she doesn't drink herself so I'm doing it for her!:)

Barny1979

AFD Number 2 for me

Imagnu_2

maman wrote: »

Unless this is you imagnu



can I suggest having a good soak in the bath, putting PJs on and telling yourself you're not going out until next morning.

Bath soaking - done
Pj's on - done
Not going out - done
settled down with lime and soda to watch masterchef final

Slowdown

Sadly I could not clock up an AF day yesterday as I had a small glass of red while watching TV. I'm glad I stopped at one and will try to stay off it tonight instead. Going to a festival tomorrow so will be having drink there but I do not want a hangover on Sunday and so will try to moderate. Usually a festival writes me off for at least two days but this year I am determined to be careful. I read about the links between alcohol and breast cancer this morning and it gave me a kick in the pants to keep going. I am somewhat worried that the damage is already done but at least I know I'm trying now.
Kind regards
Slowdown:)

Imagnu_2

1 AFd to kick off my target free May.

macpep1

Morning All :wave:

Shaggy - Thinking of you today x

41 - Glad your dad is a bit more lucid, will put your mind at rest a wee bit & well done on your loss :T
Maman - Well done on your DD's news :T
Imagnu - :rotfl:

Well as I had got the wrong night for having a wee drink watching Masterchef final, I had a cup of tea last night with the actual final:rotfl: so I clocked up 1st Af for May, although the wine demons were calling I kicked their bums! Off out to a party tonight, I am driving so it should be fun. :rotfl:

1AFD please shaggy

Lilith1980

Hi all, no AFD for me to report from last night as I had a couple of glasses of wine with dinne. OH and I sat out in the garden in the sunshine, ate a chicken stir-fry I cooked and listened to the birds around us - I nearly got headbutted by a Robin who clearly lost his bearings lol.

So I took the plunge and despite my fears I have not suddenly started feeling like I *need* alcohol all the time. In fact, there is some wine left in the fridge and I'm not climbing the walls to have it at all. I have said that I will save it for tomorrow night and then that's me done for the week.

I still want to remain aware and save drink for when I really want it, rather than when I feel I need it. And also not get into any bad habits, like using it to help with stress like I was doing before.

I also talked about this to my therapist who said perhaps I need to trust myself, as I have recognised what was going on before and am aware now. I still feel I need to remain alert and listen to what is going on in my head and how I am feeling because when I stop and listen to those signals it gives me an idea of what is behind my wanting to drink/eat. So we will see. But I am very proud as I had all sorts of fears about spiraling out of control and drinking too much in one go

Hopefully going to the coast over the weekend, the weather is set to be nice so hope everyone enjoys it x

Barny1979

Day 3 of 28 for May

satchmo1

3 AFDs for me. Disaster with mum's freezer tonight. As I was getting the makings for dinner out, I thought "hang on, this fish isn't solid". The freezer is no more, it has shuffled off this mortal coil. Ah well, it was 25 years old. So, after a few chips for dinner, I emptied and cleaned out the freezer. I was glad that the food I had bought was still in the one carrier bag, as it had stayed frozen. I had stocked up on ready meals and chicken breasts for her. Had to throw out a small loaf, a box of magnums and a tub of toffee ice cream, some tuna and salmon steaks, a couple of bags of chips and a chocolate torte. Luckily the lovely cup cakes the her friend makes had been donated to my granddaughters birthday tea in April.

I've now ordered a new freezer (with 1.85% Topcashback, free delivery and a £50 Ocado voucher), it will be delivered on Sunday. I'll wait for it to arrive before setting off for home. Fingers crossed it arrives at a reasonable time.

Night all.