The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

Slowdown

2 AF days now as I managed to resist tonight.

Slowdown:)

41_and_i_know_it

3 af days see you all in morning xxx

mrsrainman

maman wrote: »

At least he's got another job so not all bad news but it's hard to believe he's drinking more when he's out of work. I can see that he has the time but surely money's tight? I think you're amazing to cope with it.:)

We've been lucky that there will be no break in earnings due to MrR's notice period, but money is always tight and I could do without him hanging round the house with a drink in his hand!

I wish I could keep up with this thread more often. There are so many people I want to send hugs to or say well done to. Shaggy, 41, Lilith, maman, barney, macpep, satchmo, slowdown, and cuppa to name a few :rotfl: I do try to read everyday, even if I don't post.

Off on our hols on monday, can't wait!! Although I have made the mistake of looking on trip advisor at the park we're going to on the Isle of Wight. I'm just about to make a list of alternatives just in case we need to go elsewhere :eek:

MrsR xx

41_and_i_know_it

Morning everyone, feel really bad today. No support from my partner. Really feel like I'm losing it. I wish I could do something but I'm like a rabbit caught in the headlights, my heart is breaking and I don't know how to feel better. Sorry.

Lilith1980

Hi all, 2 AFDs for me Shaggy.

OH works on Saturday mornings, and as I gave up working (well, volunteering) on Saturdays I now have the morning free and weirdly enough, because I am so proud of our house I have set aside this time to give it a weekly clean!

Took me 2 hours this time, as OH was off last week so he helped me then. I am pooped! But it's very satisfying knowing that the house is nice and sparkly, and it's good exercise

We went for a run this morning, but I am still hurting a bit when I breath in so I think if this lasts another week I'll go back to the doctors as surely muscle ache doesn't last 3 weeks?? Not as bad as it was though so that is a good sign.

Been raining all this morning and the sun has just popped its head out so fingers crossed the rain clouds will move on

Lilith1980

41 - is there anything you could do just by yourself to have some quiet time (go for a walk or something?).

Sometimes it just helps to get out and take some time for ourselves ((hugs)).

maman

Lilith1980 wrote: »

41 - is there anything you could do just by yourself to have some quiet time (go for a walk or something?).

Sometimes it just helps to get out and take some time for ourselves ((hugs)).

I wondered that. What about a nice walk by the sea and blow a few cobwebs away? Good for the children to get out too if you can't get a sitter.

Do feel free to rant on here if it helps.:)

41_and_i_know_it

Just came home from the beach and read your suggestion maman. All I could think of was dad but the kids enjoyed themselves. Came home to find OH on way out the door to a stag night at 4.50 pm and he left to go paintballing at 9.30 am so we went out at 10-11ish. According to him hes been in the house since 12.30 pm. Really fed up havent seen dad today, my brother not gone up either and my mum won't look after kids for me to see him or go to church. I feel really upset and want it to end, but not got the guts to do something stupid, story of my life, didn't have the guts to do something sensible like leaving an abusive relationship to move in with and look after my dad, and now he's in a residential home. I could really do with some help, my nerves and emotions are in tatters, I feel like I'm losing my mind.

maman

41_and_i_know_it wrote: »

Just came home from the beach and read your suggestion maman. All I could think of was dad but the kids enjoyed themselves. Came home to find OH on way out the door to a stag night at 4.50 pm and he left to go paintballing at 9.30 am so we went out at 10-11ish. According to him hes been in the house since 12.30 pm. Really fed up havent seen dad today, my brother not gone up either and my mum won't look after kids for me to see him or go to church. I feel really upset and want it to end, but not got the guts to do something stupid, story of my life, didn't have the guts to do something sensible like leaving an abusive relationship to move in with and look after my dad, and now he's in a residential home. I could really do with some help, my nerves and emotions are in tatters, I feel like I'm losing my mind.

At least the walk along the beach kept the children amused and left you to your thoughts. It's hard to know how to help but I have a theory. Life is really tough for you now but it will get better. You've made amazing progress on the AF front and you're off to an excellent start with SW. Persevere with both (I know you can your willpower is amazing) and it will make you even stronger. Your self esteem will rise, you'll feel great about yourself. Hopefully this will give you strength to make a new life. Sorry if I'm being bossy but your partner sounds like a waste of space and there will come a time when you'll be strong enough to walk away. I suppose it's hard to visit your dad when the children are off school but come Tuesday you can and meantime why not call and ask them to give him a message from you.

Keep posting.

satchmo1

Oh 41, pants to your OH and your mum. Is there anyone at church you can talk to, anyone at church who would take the children while you visit your dad? The hardest thing is asking for help, especially when you've always coped. However, people who ask for help do seem to get help.

4 AFDs for me. I managed to get my sons and ex to move mum's freezer out to the garage ready for the council to pick it up whenever, and I bought a new one online last night which is coming tomorrow (Sunday). I'm exhausted after all the running round yesterday/today. Tummy is rather off today, probably from the dodgy defrosted fish.