The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

shaggydoo

Morning,

I'm back from the funeral. My Dad got the best send off. He was a very relgious man (he lived in his local parish church) so he had a beautiful mass (standing room only in a very large church) and a beautiful burial. The reception afterwards was also wonderful as it was so great to see many of my Mum's old friend's and many family memebers who I only seem to see at funerals...it was a beautiful day which can now be added to all the other wonderful memories that I have of my parents.

The AFness went to plan - I never drank at all until about 10 or 11 either the night before or on the day of the funeral. This worked for me.

Now I have lots of paper work to do as I will be winding up his estate.

Hopefully, I will be jumping back on the wagon soon when it comes galloping past....right off to catch up...

Shaggyx

shaggydoo

41 I feel so sorry for you. Remember what you said to me? ....your Dad loves you and he wants you to look after yourself ....and his beautiful Grandchildren...massive bug hugs...

shaggydoo

April :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 30 days AF

= target achieved



Arsenal Barney 1/10
Barny1979 28/28
CuppaTea 27/24

Gien 2/TF

Idris /14

If At First /23

Imagnu 7/22
Lilith 30/30

Mackeroo 3/12
Macpep 14/23
Maman 12/10

Mari 4/TF

Miskyn 5/6

MrsDee /14

New Day 5/TF

PurpleMumof2 4/10
Satchmo 30/30
Shaggy 17/17
Slowdown 8/8

Spongy 9/19

Sophietb 2/14

StupotStu 3/14
The Boss 29/30
Tracy 12/11

Unself /30
41 and I know it 27/30



Everyone Welcome!

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've got your AFDs wrong!!!!!

shaggydoo

May :-

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF

= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved

Barny1979 3/28

CuppaTea /24

Gien

Idris

If At First

Imagnu 1/TF

Lilith 2/31

Mackeroo /12

Macpep 1/21

Maman 1/10

Mari

Miskyn /25

MrsDee

New Day /8

PurpleMumof2

Satchmo 4 /20

Shaggy /17

Slowdown 2/22

Spongy

Sophietb

StupotStu

The Boss /31

Tracy 1/12

Unself

41 and I know it 3 /31



Everyone Welcome!

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've got your AFDs wrong!!!!!

shaggydoo

May 2013

SET YOUR

Everyone Welcome!

shaggydoo

I think all the AFDs are correct but if I've made any mistakes please please let me know



Shaggyx

Barny1979

One bottle of Budweiser drunk last night on a date. So still 3 AFDs for May, but back on the wagon today!

maman

shaggydoo wrote: »

...it was a beautiful day which can now be added to all the other wonderful memories that I have of my parents.

Shaggyx

Lovely sentiment, good to have you back Shaggy.:A

mackeroo

2 Af please Shaggy
Hugs for you 41 (( )) and anyone else who needs 1
Had a small glass of vino on Fri night, and had family round last night for dinner and drank the best part of a bottle of wine,so got a fuzzy head this morning. Feel really sluggish, so trying to focus today on healthy eating and not drinking any booze, fingers and toes crossed.
Im not off tomorrow so hope those that have the holiday Monday, have a great day off

Slowdown

Had a good time at the festival yesterday but haven't got the hangover I thought I would have. Feeling a little fragile but compared to other years this is nothing. I had it down as a drinking day and I can't say I didn't enjoy it, in fact all the more because I am getting a grip on this.

41 - I am sending you my heartfelt sympathy. Life can feel so tough and negative at times that it is hard to keep control of yourself and your life. Given you have so many troubles hanging over you, someone up there is definitely on your side. You show remarkable strength putting one foot after the other day in, day out. Many people give up in your position, they turn to alcohol, drugs, prescibed or otherwise, abusing other people or themselves. You are standing strong. I have a technique for coping that I would like to share with you.
Picture yourself as a creature, any one of your favourites. Perhaps a butterfly, colourful and flitting from one flower to the other, or maybe a cat, stretching out in the sun, warm and soft. Think of your qualities as that animal and feel a part of them. Now give animal characteristics to the other people who are causing you grief. Perhaps your OH is a bear, growling and angry, prone to loss of temper. Think of the characteristics that are positive for you and negative for them. Draw a picture of everyone as those animals, you free in the fields and woods, them trapped in cages, or inside houses while you float about free and easy. Draw objects or places that are meaningful and beautiful to you and place yourself there. Enjoy the feelings that characterising people brings.Make them small and insignificant if you like, or large and important according to how you feel about them. Draw pathways to plan your escape. Write words around people that describe them or things you would like to say. No one else will share this, so be as ruthless as you like. Express your anger at them, your disappointments and above all be honest. When you have finished sit back and look at your page. Be positive about your role in everyone's lives. After all, none of them would be functioning if you were not there to cope for them. It can be a theraputic way to start thinking about your life and those who feature in it.

Remember you are only responsible for your own feelings. Try not to think you are responsible for other people's happiness as this is distructive and not realistic. They all need to take responsibility for their own. (obviously your dad needs support).

I hope this doesn't sound mad, I can be a bit strange sometimes!

Kindest regards
Slowdown:)