Does the husband in your house pay the bills?

Glitter_girl_2

Mojisola wrote: »

I think it's just a different way of looking at it - we put everything in the pot and pay the essentials first, then some savings and weekly spends and then the non-essentials like holidays. It sounds as if you're doing the same.

The OP was suggesting that the husband would be expected to pay for everything to do with living while the wife spent her salary on clothes and frippery.

When my husband earns more we did that. His choice, he is old fashioned like that. Plus he does have as many things he wants to spend money on

Mrs_Ryan

zcrat41 wrote: »

Mrsryan - I hope you are investing elsewhere, I'd be so worried with an attitude like that that he doesn't see you being together for the long term

We've been together 7 years - living together for 6 and a half. It suits me fine as most of the stuff in the house belongs to me (TV, cooker, toaster, PS3, phone are all mine as well as all the bedding, towels, and most of the crockery/cutlery so yes he might have the house but there wont be much left in it by the time I've finished clearing out my stuff...

BodieGirl

My fiancee of 10 years works full time, earning considerably more than me. When we both worked full time before birth of our child, we split all bills 50/50, anything left over was our own personal spending money.

Now I work school hours, and OH pays for all our bills and food. I mean everything, including my car insurance and phone bill etc. However, I manage the finances and everything is in my name, he simply pays for it.

In return, I do all of the childcare, cleaning, cooking, shopping for presents etc. As I work 25 hours a week it is still tiring to do everything on top to run the household, but my wages at the end of the month are my own.

This has worked for us for the last 8 years, enabling me to become debt free (finally) which means that I can now start saving seriously.

threemuttleys

OH and I have a weird set up. I earn a lot less than him, even less now we have a toddler and another "cooking"

So what we do, is all money (unless its a gift) goes into a joint account. All of the bills, groceries, debt repayments, childcare, petrol/car stuff, pets, mortgage etc come out of this account. From the amount left over 10% goes into a savings account. Then we work out a reasonable amount for us each to have as "spends" usually its around £70 each per month.

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LannieDuck

berbastrike wrote: »

so is it a myth then that women want rich men?

I'd rather be financially independent. Why would I want a man to pay my share of the bills for me when I'm capable of doing it myself? I'm not a child who needs to be looked after. My husband and I are equal partners in our relationship.

(Actually, at the moment I'm in full-time work and he's a SAHD, so technically I pay the bills. But we have a joint account, and both of our pay goes into that to pay the bills. We essentially have a joint income.)

Mojisola

threemuttleys wrote: »

OH and I have a weird set up. I earn a lot less than him, even less now we have a toddler and another "cooking"

So what we do, is all money (unless its a gift) goes into a joint account. All of the bills, groceries, debt repayments, childcare, petrol/car stuff, pets, mortgage etc come out of this account. From the amount left over 10% goes into a savings account. Then we work out a reasonable amount for us each to have as "spends" usually its around £70 each per month.

Weird? If so, we must be too. That seems perfectly normal to me.

sillygoose

I love these discussions, peoples finances get sooo complicated! ratios of bills, accounts for this and that, yours, mine...

We are one couple, we have one account, 2 wages paid in, bills paid by direct debits, I need something I buy it, she needs something she buys it. Kids need something either buys it and we managed to do this 20 years without earning a fortune or going broke...

we do talk to each other though - 'kids will need new shoes soon love, better get them now as next month will be expensive as car insurance/tax is due - ok' you know that sort of thing. Did it go out of fashion?

fannyadams

hieveryone wrote: »

My boyfriend pays the bills.

I pay: house groceries and anything we need house-wise, my car, mobile and CC's.

we're similar at ours.
It's his house (soon to change now that mortgage paid off) that I moved into so all bills are in his name and paid from his account.
I pay 3 mobile phones, my car (tax/fuel/service/MOT etc), my bikes (ditto) and food shopping.
Now that I am 'selectively employed' (patchwork lifestyle - thanks pippi) HWTHMBO transfers an amount of money to my account to cover the food bill, I make up the rest from eBay, clicks, and patchwork moneys.

cgk1

sillygoose wrote: »

I love these discussions, peoples finances get sooo complicated! ratios of bills, accounts for this and that, yours, mine...

We are one couple, we have one account, 2 wages paid in, bills paid by direct debits, I need something I buy it, she needs something she buys it. Kids need something either buys it and we managed to do this 20 years without earning a fortune or going broke...

we do talk to each other though - 'kids will need new shoes soon love, better get them now as next month will be expensive as car insurance/tax is due - ok' you know that sort of thing. Did it go out of fashion?

That works for you but in crisis situations, lots of people end up with nothing because a partner has cleared out the accounts and disappeared.

Shoshannah

We have a rather haphazard approach... we're married and have been living together for five or six years, but we have separate bank accounts and finances.

My husband pays all the household bills and council tax. I pay all the rent and, because I am the higher earner, send him a monthly payment via standing order towards the bills.

Food gets bought randomly by whoever goes to Tesco that day/week.

'Personal' bills - mobile phone, car insurance, car tax etc are paid individually.