What is the point?!

scooby088

Many people me included can't eat right after getting in from work, the very thought of having a big meal when I get in makes me feel sick, maybe your OH feels like this, maybe try doing the meal for about an hour after he gets back.

Other than putting sauce or salt on his meal depends on what it is, but for me if the meal hasnt been properly seasoned then I would add my own salt pepper or even sauce, plus have you thought you may not be a very good cook.

**Patty**

C_Mababejive wrote: »

Well you know,it only takes a little bit of thought. Your woman has cooked a nice meal. She wants to nurture you and make you feel better after a hard day at work. She wants to see that you enjoy and appreciate it. Its incredibly thoughtless,bad mannered and disrespectful to act in such dismissive ways.;)

I hope you eat that meal before showing her how appreciative you are

Cos if i'd cooked it & it then went cold whilst my OH was being appreciative.......You wouldn't get another one cooked! :rotfl:

thehappybutterfly

My hubby only smothers something in sauce if he doesn't like it....... just saying

It used to annoy the hell out of me but now it doesn't bother me. I can't expect him to like everything I make for him. As long as I like it!

OP - The main thing is that he eats it, isn't it? If he doesn't get the full experience of what I'm sure is deliciously cooked food, that's well seasoned and full of flavour, well it's him that's missing out.

Mojisola

It's one of those compromises you have to make when you live together.

Choices: you accept that he's got a lifetime habit (from his Mum) to smother all his food with salt/sauce/gravy, etc - it's not personal to you and your cooking - and leave him to it;

or - you tell him that it really upsets you that he doesn't taste the meal you've cooked first and you want him to change.

If he then tells you that your cooking is rubbish, it's time for you to do something about that!

If he won't take a moment to taste the food first before adding more salt even though he now knows it upsets you, that's something deeper that you'll need to talk about.

heartbreak_star

Talk to him! Tell him it upsets you. He might be really surprised, and may not even know he's doing it.

HBS x

valk_scot

My OH puts vast amounts of brown sauce, soy sauce, mango chutney or chilli sauce on just about every savory dish he eats. I used to get really narked about it but in the end I just let it go, if all he ever wants to taste is some sort of bottled sauce then it's his problem. He's missing out on a vast range of flavours of course but it's his problem. I like nice well cooked food so that's what I make but if he doesn't want to make the most of what's on offer well, tough. His loss.

Any

I reckon that he is used to his salt and likes it and the reason he smothers it before he tastes it is that if it had no salt yesterday, the day before and the day before that, what would make him think it will have some today and he puts it in automaticaly.

I think the more important part is the fact you don't feel appreciated and he faffs about - it seems to me his tired from work, wants to also manage to do something else and is so used to you running around him with plate that he combines it all at once.

You need to create a routine. Table would help for that. But it doesn't need to be the real thing, just a place to set the routine. I put meal on the table at 7pm and that is it. If you are not there... not my problem (obviously unless other arrangements).

seven-day-weekend

Why can't he just enjoy his food how he likes it? *Puzzled*

skintchick

victory wrote: »

Can you not by that lo salt?

That stuff tastes like someone has wee'd on your food.

IMHO


People who like salt, don't like lo-salt!

My OH says I put snow on my food I use so much salt, I actually pour it out from the big tub cos not enough comes out of the salt shaker My brother used to refer to my meals as Mount Sodium Chloride. And I used to eat salt on its own until my early 20s. Occasionally I do that now but not like I used to. And I have low blood pressure. Some of us are just WEIRD.

Person_one

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Why can't he just enjoy his food how he likes it? *Puzzled*

How does he know he doesn't like it without salt and sauce if he never gives it a chance?

Its rude to season without tasting because you're assuming that there's no way you'll like the food without, which is insulting to the person who's taken time and effort to make a tasty meal.