Would it be offensive to..

victory

melbell wrote: »

It is about dressing him and such,

I do have a bit of a crush yeah, but he is still an amazing friend to me.

Does he know how you feel about him.?

melbell

He said he don't need help with physical stuff but I want to go keep him company it would be fine. but if I could help him by paying his Lloyds card if he gives me the money he would be greatful.

I guess it doesn't matter if I pay it through internet banking that its in his name and from my account

I'll pop up and see how he is.

Thanks guys

melbell

victory wrote: »

Does he know how you feel about him.?

yeah, he does,

victory

melbell wrote: »

yeah, he does,

And does he feel the same?

marisco_2

Put the ball in his court. Ask him if he is managing okay with cleaning the wounds and changing his bandages. If he reassures you that he is fine then leave it at that.

If he suggests it is tricky to do alone, then ask if he would like you to stop over on his sofa and help him. Add that he has helped you loads over the years and you would be happy to help him through this difficult time. Showing care and concern for someone is not offensive.

Torry_Quine

melbell wrote: »

He gets them wet and they go all manky so he's been given extras by the nurses.

As for the crush, I wouldnt be disappointed if nothing happen, I think its more of an infactuation.

He really shouldn't be getting the dressings wet.

Helping him sounds good but in the circumstances I would be very cautious.

Ettenna

melbell wrote: »

He gets them wet and they go all manky so he's been given extras by the nurses.

He won't have been given extra by the nurses. He may have come home from hospital with a few dressings. All dressings are prescribed. Community nurses carry a tiny amount of dressings. It's not like "the old days" when district nurse carried all dressings red for envy patient. Patients have them in their houses now and if they start to run low they have to be ordered for them. If he is getting them wet and manky I would suggest that he needs to revisit what he is doing!! The Community Nursing team are there to help.

Mojisola

melbell wrote: »

My best friend was injured really badly in an accident, He was in hospital for a few weeks. Now he is back home, He is having to change his bandages and clean the wounds.

I was thinking of asking if he wanted me to stay over (on the sofa!) and I could do the whole dressing and cleaning for him. He's done so much for me over the years. but he is very much "I can do it I am independant"

Unless you've got a very comfy one, a sofa's not likely to be the best place for a seriously injured man to be recuperating on.

Person_one

Mojisola wrote: »

Unless you've got a very comfy one, a sofa's not likely to be the best place for a seriously injured man to be recuperating on.

I'm sure she meant she would stay on the sofa! :rotfl:

Mojisola

Person_one wrote: »

I'm sure she meant she would stay on the sofa! :rotfl:

Sorry - I misread it that she was going to have him at her place but make sure he stayed on the sofa!