Would it be offensive to..

Person_one

Mojisola wrote: »

Sorry - I misread it that she was going to have him at her place but make sure he stayed on the sofa!

Well it is getting late.

pawsies

This sounds really odd.

I'm not even sure what sort of friendship this is lol.

skintchick

Initially I was going to say just tell him you are coming for a week to look after him, but then I saw you have an unrequited crush on him and thought it's not such a good idea.

Instead, why not make him some meals and visit one or two individual days and do some cleaning for him?

I'm recovering from major surgery at the moment (six weeks nearly down now) and have really appreciated people offering me practical help but I wouldn;t be keen for someone to change my dressings! (Although I've got casts, no need to change any dressings)

I think your motives would make staying over for a week a bit of an issue.

barbiedoll

melbell wrote: »

He said he don't need help with physical stuff but I want to go keep him company it would be fine. but if I could help him by paying his Lloyds card if he gives me the money he would be greatful.

I guess it doesn't matter if I pay it through internet banking that its in his name and from my account

I'll pop up and see how he is.

Thanks guys

I don't want to be the boring, MSE, nagging poster but please, please don't pay any of his bills from your account unless you have the money from him first!!! (Glad I've got that off my chest! )

Aside from that, I know that you have a little crush on him and that you've possibly got this romantic notion of being all Florence Nightingale and caring for him whilst he falls hopelessly in love with you but in reality, if he knows how you feel and he's still keeping you at arms length, then he may possibly just be letting you down gently because he doesn't want to lose you as a friend. Help him by all means, maybe you can speak to the nurses on his behalf or you can cook for him or get his shopping etc? But don't stay on his sofa, it may end up being uncomfortable for both of you and you could ruin a beautiful friendship.

Of course, he may just not want to take advantage of your obvious good nature and he may be embarrassed about being injured and not in great shape. He probably doesn't want you to see his body when it is wounded and scarred (men don't realise that battlescars are quite a turn-on!) and he may be worried about turning you off. Who knows? But take this gently, after all, as you say, you're "infatuated" and usually, that soon wears off.

Hope he feels better soon!

sharnad

melbell wrote: »

He gets them wet and they go all manky so he's been given extras by the nurses.

As for the crush, I wouldnt be disappointed if nothing happen, I think its more of an infactuation.

If he's getting them wet maybe you could offer to help him in the shower

suki1964

If I was him, I'd be afraid, very very afraid

barbiedoll

suki1964 wrote: »

If I was him, I'd be afraid, very very afraid

Are you thinking what I'm thinking?............

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDoUpcOI-T8


(Sorry OP!)

suki1964

barbiedoll wrote: »

Are you thinking what Ithinking?............

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDoUpcOI-T8


(Sorry OP!)

Oh yes


This is so scarily stalkerish I'm away to bed with a nightmare ( and hiding the sledgehammer )

Mrs.W_2

barbiedoll wrote: »

I don't want to be the boring, MSE, nagging poster but please, please don't pay any of his bills from your account unless you have the money from him first!!! (Glad I've got that off my chest! )

Aside from that, I know that you have a little crush on him and that you've possibly got this romantic notion of being all Florence Nightingale and caring for him whilst he falls hopelessly in love with you but in reality, if he knows how you feel and he's still keeping you at arms length, then he may possibly just be letting you down gently because he doesn't want to lose you as a friend. Help him by all means, maybe you can speak to the nurses on his behalf or you can cook for him or get his shopping etc? But don't stay on his sofa, it may end up being uncomfortable for both of you and you could ruin a beautiful friendship.

Of course, he may just not want to take advantage of your obvious good nature and he may be embarrassed about being injured and not in great shape. He probably doesn't want you to see his body when it is wounded and scarred (men don't realise that battlescars are quite a turn-on!) and he may be worried about turning you off. Who knows? But take this gently, after all, as you say, you're "infatuated" and usually, that soon wears off.

Hope he feels better soon!

OP, read barbie's post. Then read it again!




ETA: Barbie, how am I to sleep now?

Amanda65

Hope your friend makes a speedy and full recovery OP however I am a little bemused as to why someone would need to come onto a forum of strangers and ask if they should offer to help their 'best friend'! Surely with someone you are this close to this should be instinctive as you'd know how they would react and how much help he would accept.

It sounds as though he has agreed to accept a level of help he is comfortable with. If his dressings are getting manky and there is a possibility of his wounds going nasty, I think he should be asking for more regular visits from the nurse.