Would it be offensive to..

Teeniepops

melbell wrote: »

My best friend was injured really badly in an accident, He was in hospital for a few weeks. Now he is back home, He is having to change his bandages and clean the wounds.

I was thinking of asking if he wanted me to stay over (on the sofa!) and I could do the whole dressing and cleaning for him. He's done so much for me over the years. but he is very much "I can do it I am independant"

Would it be offensive if I was to ask? How would you ask if you was me. I met him today and it looked like he was struggling, He only gets the district nurse every few days to check on the bigger wounds.

NO!

If it were me, I'd approach this by explaining that whilst I know that person is independent, I wanted to extend the offer to help them and explain that it is because I care about them and because I know they'd do what they could do to help me out.

He may say no, but he will be greatly thankful I imagine, that you offered to help.

You're a good friend!!!

P.S...do you like him...like like him? This sounds like something I'd want to do with a guy I liked romantically because I cared (not being pervy)...just asking

Person_one

Beckyy wrote: »

Look up the number for your local Community Nurses. IMO they should be coming round to change his dressings and check up on any wounds.

I think the OP is talking about dressing as in getting dressed, rather than wound dressings.

I agree that you may as well offer, but its quite an intimate thing to do for someone so don't be offended if he says no.

Ms_Chocaholic

I guess it depends where the bandages are!!

melbell

Beckyy wrote: »

Look up the number for your local Community Nurses. IMO they should be coming round to change his dressings and check up on any wounds.

He has the nurses come round every few days to make sure they are healing and to tell him off because one day he decided he wanted to play xbox as he was too sore to do anything else.

I've been doing errands for him, Nipping to asda doing shopping for him.


I'll drop him a text and see what he says.

melbell

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

I guess it depends where the bandages are!!

On his arms legs and torso :P

melbell

Teeniepops wrote: »

NO!

If it were me, I'd approach this by explaining that whilst I know that person is independent, I wanted to extend the offer to help them and explain that it is because I care about them and because I know they'd do what they could do to help me out.

He may say no, but he will be greatly thankful I imagine, that you offered to help.

You're a good friend!!!

P.S...do you like him...like like him? This sounds like something I'd want to do with a guy I liked romantically because I cared (not being pervy)...just asking

It is about dressing him and such,

I do have a bit of a crush yeah, but he is still an amazing friend to me.

Person_one

Hang on, I think I've misread, he's changing his own dressings? This isn't really a good idea unless he's a nurse or similar himself, he won't have been trained properly in how to keep things sterile and clean.

If his wounds are leaking so much that he needs to change them in between nurse visits, then he should tell them and ask them to come more frequently.

Person_one

melbell wrote: »

It is about dressing him and such,

I do have a bit of a crush yeah, but he is still an amazing friend to me.

Then don't do it! Awkward all round when what you want to happen doesn't happen.

Teeniepops

melbell wrote: »

It is about dressing him and such,

I do have a bit of a crush yeah, but he is still an amazing friend to me.

Whatever he says, I imagine he will really appreciate the offer as few people would do this for someone given the circumstances.

Keep us posted x

melbell

Person_one wrote: »

Hang on, I think I've misread, he's changing his own dressings? This isn't really a good idea unless he's a nurse or similar himself, he won't have been trained properly in how to keep things sterile and clean.

If his wounds are leaking so much that he needs to change them in between nurse visits, then he should tell them and ask them to come more frequently.

He gets them wet and they go all manky so he's been given extras by the nurses.

As for the crush, I wouldnt be disappointed if nothing happen, I think its more of an infactuation.