Any of you ladies not own any expensive jewellery?

GreenNinja

SoozieSoo wrote: »

Does it bother you?

My wedding anniversary is coming up and I would really like my husband to buy me a diamond eternity ring. He thinks this is unreasonable as we would have to borrow to get it. I don’t own a single piece of expensive, quality jewellery. I don’t even have an engagement ring. My wedding ring only cost £150.

I am not talking about getting something so expensive the repayments would cripple us, but a debt we can manage on 3 years interest free.

Most of my girlfriends have at least one “bling” item. Some of the have several. I just feel it is every ladies right to have one lovely piece of jewellery.

Am I being unreasonable?

This is the item I am after LOL

http://www.beaverbrooks.co.uk/index.cfm?event=catalogue.showProduct&productID=121

While the ring is gorgeous I agree with other posters that you should wait until you are in a situation where buying the ring will not mean borrowing.

My ex husband bought me endless items of stunning jewellery but it means nothing to me now as I know he bought them from guilt at the affair he was having. My fave piece of jewellery now is a large black 70s lucite ring with a daisy printed on it that I bought on ebay for 3 quid!!

You don't need this ring to prove your husbands love. Be glad hes a good bloke and that you are happy together.

milkydrink

pinkshoes wrote: »

I would much rather have something my OH made me, coz anyone can go out and spend £150 on a necklace/ring etc... but it takes physical effort to make something.

My husband bought me a beautiful 3 large diamonds eternity ring.
It took him A LOT of physical efort in order to earn the money to buy my ring.
Unless you have pots of money I think your "coz anyone can go out and spend £150 on a necklace/ring" a bit meaningless.

Mine cost a great deal more than £150 & I consider it a great deal more than a "aesthetical lump of material".

I do VALUE the time & effort he put into earning the money to buy it.

Katie~baby

Whats the point?? No-one but you will know how much it cost. Unless you are going to tell everyone. My friend recently purchased a beautiful ring and i thought her hubby had come into some money! It is truly stunning! I thought she must have spent £400 on it and ws shocked when she told me it was £25!!!!! I ordered one myself 2 days later!! LOL

Why does the cost matter so much? I would NEVER spend that much on a ring, but then i spose im not as materialistic as others. Also if you are starting a new job and will be £800 better off a month surley the best option is to put some money by each month rather than get it on credit?

Also whats the point in getting it if your OH is not keen? Wouldnt you prefer something that on your wedding anniversary was something he had chosen from the heart.

I also think that if you expect him to pay for the ring then you should get him something of equal value. I know you stated you want it because you dont have expensive jewlery, but i bet your husband wants something that he doesnt have for large amounts of money to!

Dont worry about expensive peices of jewelrry cause your friends have them, enjoy what you have and celebrate your anniversary with your husband.

showtunesgirl

Can I just ask why you actually "need" this ring? Are you questioning the depth of his feelings for you in any way?

Jess_B

Hi

I think I must be a jewellery snob! I would never buy anything from the high street. My engagement ring was over £2000 from a local shop and mine and DH wedding rings were £1000 for the two. They were made by a goldsmith near us. I don't regret a single penny we spent on them as we both wear them all day every day and 3 years on I still look at them and love them.

Our jewellery shop does second hand and you can pay weekly or monthly at 0% although they won't let you take it till you have paid it all off, which I think is a great idea.

I wear a necklace which is from Tiffany & Co, my DH brought me for my 30th. Its only silver and was over £100 but I love it and again wear it all the time.

I figure some people spend money on cars or shoes or handbags my thing is jewellery, so if you want a nice piece of jewellery then go for it but I would echo what some of the other people have said that the ring you like is very expencive for what it is and I would suggest shopping around and you can get much better value for money.

Jess_B

Katie~baby wrote: »

Wouldnt you prefer something that on your wedding anniversary was something he had chosen from the heart.

Sorry this made me laugh, I don't know about you but if I left it to my DH to get me somthing it would be a box of choc's from the garage on his way home!!! He isn't all that great a picking things for me, says I am hard to buy for! When we got engaged he showed me the ring he was going to get me and bearing in mind I had described what I wanted loads of times, the one he picked was awful and nothing like I wanted (I have a diamond solitare, so not too hard to remember!) I think, I have to wear it so I wanted somthing I liked and the one I picked was over £1000 cheaper so did him a favor in the end!!

abbecer

I think it's a nice luxury if you can afford it but i certainly wouldn't get into debt for it. Our wedding rings only cost £30 but we had them engraved with a very personal inscription to make them a bit more special. Could you not have a special message put in yours to have something to mark your anniversary by instead of getting into debt?

Rebecca x

MRSMCAWBER

Hi there

I would be terrified if my hubby spent that much on a piece of jewellery for me:eek: ...i would have to superglue it on:rotfl: :rotfl: ...

The nicest piece of jewellery i have is actually a swarovski necklace hubby got me for our 1st anniversary, when we were in germany..but i dont like wearing it...incase i lose it:rolleyes: .....

Mind you we are off to kefalonia on our first ever jolly in a couple of weeks, where we are going to look for a new wedding ring...as i have put weight on and cant wear my original:o ....but i still dont want to spend much...:D .. as i intend to lose some weight and get my original one back on too:p

gremlin

I agree that its the sentiment behind it that counts not the cost.

I own two 'value' pieces of jewellery. My engagement ring is one - we got it on holiday on our 15th anniversary of meeting. It cost £300 - not cheap - but we got to choose our own design and even chose the diamonds we wanted in it too.

OH went back the next day and picked it up and gave it to me during a fantastic meal overlooking the sea.

I dont wear it around the house but when I go out I notice it on my hand and it makes me smile - because of what it represents and that its our ring - we designed together.

This year on holiday, because my OH got a bonus he bought me some diamond studs - again we chose the stones and design together and had them made to order.

I love them because they represent us, not the monetary value.

Outnumberedbysmallpeople

I don't own a single piece of expensive jewellery, my first engagement ring cost £49 and i had to lend him £4 of that as he'd paid the bus fare for us to go shopping and only had £50 to his name (we were 17) we hit a very rough patch a few years later and so when we did eventually marry (5 years after his proposed) he bought me a new one on honeymoon, cost a grand total of £22.50 from the cornish gemstone company in Newquay... my white gold wedding ring, £65 from H Samuels- it's the fact it says i'm married to him that counts more than the actual style of the ring to me.

I am not big on expensive jewellery but if you can afford it, it's nice, if you lead the type of lifestyle where it's not constantly at risk (i have 4 kids- 3 of whom are under 4 anything fancy would get destroyed or swallowed if it was expensive!) then it can be great but it's not something worth getting into debt over especially as debt causes strain on relationships and it seems a bit of a mockery to put stresses on a relationship buying something to prove how valid that relationship is.