Am I wrong to expect a thanks?

thunderbird

meritaten wrote: »

or even say yourself as you are clearing away 'Thanks hun - that was absolutely gorgeous'! sometimes a little sarcasm disguised as a joke will shame them into good manners!

I do this with my kids - 'errr, did I hear a thank you there??'

To the OP - focus on the positives in being a SAHM - massive amount of freedom compared to going out to work. I remember being able to spend the day in a park messing about, be out in the sun when we get a random nice day, not have to go out anywhere if I don't feel like it. Meet up with friends for a gossip and laugh. Relive my childhood and no rush hour traffic - bliss!

System

I think its called being taken for granted which i am sure we are all guilty of from time to time.:(

Mojisola

notanewuser wrote: »

We're not interacting 24/7 - she's very good at independent play and being with groups of other children. She's very confident and happy.

However, she does have a habit of climbing on things she shouldn't and jumping off - the back of the sofa, her toy kitchen, coffee tables, dining table, windowledges and so can't be left in a room on her own for any length of time.

Keeping an eye on her while you get other work done is just part of being a Mum. Luckily for me, none of mine were climbers - you have your work cut out!

A mum from my son's playgroup dashed upstairs to get something from one of the bedrooms, only to find herself face-to-face through the window with her pre-schooler who had climbed up the trellis on the outside of house! Heart-stopping moment or what?

Joons

notanewuser wrote: »

Can you provide a link to some scientific evidence for that or is it your own opinion?

FWIW DD goes to sleep in her bed on her own but often ends up in with us later on (3-4 nights a week at a guess). We don't have a problem with it, there's no evidence to suggest it's "never a good idea". We've just been away staying with relatives where there was no option but for her to sleep in our bed. Now we're home she should get used to being in her room all night, but I'm not expecting her to suddenly revert back to that.

Wasn't talking scientifically, it's common sense.

Mojisola

Joons wrote: »

Wasn't talking scientifically, it's common sense.

It's only "common sense" for the majority in our culture. It's only comparatively recently that we've been rich enough to have separate bedrooms for children to sleep in. For children over most of the world, co-sleeping is the norm and it's far more natural.

TeamLowe

research (according to the head of NCT on the radio the other day) shows that it is dangerous to co-sleep if you have drunk alcohol, smoked, are under the influence of drugs or are on a couch.
otherwise it's perfectly fine, although i can't imagine it being comfortable with a wriggly toddler!

Joons

I'm sure it's perfectly ok to have your child sleep with you, for me bedtime meant me having some time to myself and why when a child has their own bed etc do they need to sleep with parent(s) - other than giving in to them I don't get what the point of it is, don't imagine it does much for the love life either.

z.n

notanewuser wrote: »

Can you provide a link to some scientific evidence for that or is it your own opinion?

FWIW DD goes to sleep in her bed on her own but often ends up in with us later on (3-4 nights a week at a guess). We don't have a problem with it, there's no evidence to suggest it's "never a good idea". We've just been away staying with relatives where there was no option but for her to sleep in our bed. Now we're home she should get used to being in her room all night, but I'm not expecting her to suddenly revert back to that.

My dd would sneak in most nights for years- there was little point waking everyone up to put her back in her own bed and I treasured the extra cuddles. It diminished over time as she learned to get herself back to sleep in her own bed. I don't think there is any rule about children having to sleep separately-just modern western tradition.

notanewuser

Joons wrote: »

I'm sure it's perfectly ok to have your child sleep with you, for me bedtime meant me having some time to myself and why when a child has their own bed etc do they need to sleep with parent(s) - other than giving in to them I don't get what the point of it is, don't imagine it does much for the love life either.

I sleep better when she's in bed with me, despite the odd toe up the nose or face in my armpit. Perhaps it's biological. Can't imagine many cave people put their little ones in separate rooms.

(Nothing wrong with sex on the kitchen table or in the bath when DD has gone to bed. )

fashionlover10

Joons wrote: »

Not saying she doesn't, just don't get the 247 thing, don't you have any support or help - having your child sleep with you is never a good idea either, it's always good even at 2 years old to encourage them to sleep on their own.

I don't really wish to side with anyone on this argument but I'd definitely be wary of having my child (if/when I have one) in my bed with me as my cousin was in secondary school before she spent a night in her own bed. Sharing a bed with your 2 year old isn't so bad but an 11/12 year old? :eek: