Am I right to be annoyed.

esmy

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

There is a thread - sorry I don't remember any details - where exactly that happened. There have been other threads which have confirmed that if you report to SS the details may NOT be kept confidential.

Anyone can make an anonymous referral to Social Services, as in, not give their name or any other identifying details when they make the call. An anonymous allegation will be investigated in exactly the same way as any other. Of course it doesn't stop the adults concerned making a guess at who has reported the concerns.

How old are your nieces Hazel? Unless they're teenagers I would be more concerned at them being left alone and as another poster said, a good time to ring Social Services or the police if it happens again. Just because you've made one call doesn't mean you can't do so again if you're worried.

Hazel_

Ones 5 and the other is 7.

Mine wasn't annoymous as I gave details. I asked for my details not to be mentioned and they said fine. Does that change things?

tibawo

Having read some of this thread and feeling sorry for your nieces you are a nice caring soul and rest assured I am sure you know what's best.
I am single and would never dream of doing that although my sis does tell me anytime!

Owain_Moneysaver

Hazel_ wrote: »

The times theyve come round theyve always been hungry and at times scared to tell me things. As for friends I don't know no one is ever mentioned.

Maybe they don't have friends because they feel they can't have friends round at home because of their mother.

Savvy_Sue

esmy wrote: »

Anyone can make an anonymous referral to Social Services, as in, not give their name or any other identifying details when they make the call. An anonymous allegation will be investigated in exactly the same way as any other. Of course it doesn't stop the adults concerned making a guess at who has reported the concerns.

True, but it's pretty clear the OP did give her name - and if it's her username here I'd suggest emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com and asking for a change, just in case of identification.

esmy wrote: »

Unless they're teenagers I would be more concerned at them being left alone and as another poster said, a good time to ring Social Services or the police if it happens again. Just because you've made one call doesn't mean you can't do so again if you're worried.

Absolutely agree with this. I find it quite surprising that a 7 year old knew who to phone and how to phone, but then I suppose mine were young in the age before mobiles and speed dialling ...

Hazel_

If she knows its me Ive been thinking and I really don't mind, she needs a rocket or shock or something .

Hazel_

My sister makes me laugh. Just had a text from here "Sorry for the other can, Can I borrow £30 for gas and electricity, bit skint will pay you back"

Mojisola

Hazel_ wrote: »

My sister makes me laugh. Just had a text from here "Sorry for the other can, Can I borrow £30 for gas and electricity, bit skint will pay you back"

Her grip on reality is low, isn't it?

Is she really that unaware of how she's made you feel over the last couple of days?

Hazel_

No, She really does not care. She never has. When I moved to uni in London she was not happy as I would not be able to babysit whenever she needed.

Hazel_

Thank you everyone for your inputs. I'm a little apprehensive at the minute. Worried what will happen