Positive Thinking for 2013

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lots of positive thinking going on at the moment for us all I think.I am positively not going to get down and gloomy if I can help it as negativity isn't in the least productive.
OK so DD's lost her job but she is a hard working lass and will have a go at anything (legal )to put some cash in the family coffers and I am going to sort out what bits I have sitting spare in my store cupboards that might help her through the lean times ahead until she gets another job.
Goog luck everyone we can all make a differance if we try

Going4TheDream

I have started on my plans for 2013, I have applied for two jobs, back in my old field of work, to get my hand back in and start to gain some new contacts, you have to be in it to win it so I have stopped looking at all the reasons why I shouldnt apply and looked at the reasons why I should. I have 12 months guaranteed left where I am but my gut feel is that our company wont win the contract again.

I have joined the no buying clothes challenge to encourage me to make much more use of my sewing machine, and have written down a few things that I can be getting on with to cut my costs back further and will be working on them, one of which is to do away with my daily bath and take a shower instead..... one of the things that up till now I have thought of as my daily me time but looking at our monthly fuel bill this month (£179.17!!!) has to go as I really want to cut back. I know its been xmas holiday and stuff but still it is massively excessive.

My only negative gripe is my OH, he doesnt seem to want to buy into looking at how we can cut back on costs to free up money to make life choices. he doesnt seem to want to to buy into the ' small changes can make a big difference' He seems stuck in his ways and his attitude seems to be 'that is life' and accepts things that happen rather than working towards making them happen. I wish he would come on board and despite me plodding on with my thing I do feel its all one sided!!!!!! maybe its just me!!!

esmf73

Going4the dream. Persevere!!!it has taken me a good couple of years to get OH on board, and I still have to pull him into line occasionally, but he is thinking more about saving money(well, not spending it in the first place.) if he can do it when this time last year he was earning just over £100k, then anyone can!! He hasn't worked since May, so were now on a military pension, nice but a big change!!

On the positive side..... He is happier than he has been in years and he is at home all the time to help me with our autistic son.

Going4TheDream

esmf73 wrote: »

Going4the dream. Persevere!!!it has taken me a good couple of years to get OH on board, and I still have to pull him into line occasionally, but he is thinking more about saving money(well, not spending it in the first place.) if he can do it when this time last year he was earning just over £100k, then anyone can!! He hasn't worked since May, so were now on a military pension, nice but a big change!!

On the positive side..... He is happier than he has been in years and he is at home all the time to help me with our autistic son.

Thanks! I am hoping that once he sees the difference in things that maybe he will buy in a bit more.... I am quite laid back up to a point and just get on with things in my own way but when decisions that are important need to be made I can make them and stand resolute! :-)

One of my gripes currently is that we go away in the summer to his folks place in France, we dont have to pay for the accommodation but we have to pay ferries tolls, fuel, hotels on the journey down etc (dog care alone is nearly £800) and spending money. Given my precarious job situation I have suggested that perhaps we dont commit to a holiday (and the expense) until I have a clearer understanding of what is happening.

I am not saying we wont go somewhere at some point but thought that if I dont have a job in 12 months then at least I have saved a fair bit more money to get through until I do have one and if I do then maybe go away much later in the year somewhere else....... he is not keen, to me it is a no brainer, and sensible and prudent.

I am not falling into the trap of never doing anything 'just incase something happens that might not' but sometimes you have to be realistic about a situation and plan accordingly. Maybe its just me but I cant understand his logic!!!!

tattooed_lady

JACKIEO sending your DD positive vibes for finding a new job :grouphug:

VJsmum

Lovely thread - best wishes to your DD, Jackie

So many people turning 40 - wasn't 1973 the year of the power cuts I am turning 50 at the end of the year - I am hoping if I say it enough then I will start to believe it.

Trying_really_hard wrote: »

Well, I'm going to get on with my job. I turned down an interview at the end of the year and since then seem to have found renewed vigour in my job (stranger things have happened) and I want to continue this.

A couple of years ago I applied for redundancy and was turned down - I was extremely frustrated at management and decided to look for another job. What i found was that nothing paid as well or was as flexible as the job I have. So i decided to get my head down and keep my mouth closed (not easy for me! ) abandon ambition and just get on with it. Since then things have gone from strength to strength! I have been shown appreciation, given opportunities and travelled more than I ever did for the previous 12 years!

JackieO wrote: »

I also printed of the poem by Jenny Joseph about 'When I'm an old woman'

I love that poem. I also love Radio 4 - you can just DO so much whilst listening. And Cabin Pressure is back next week by the brilliant John Finnemore and with the sublimely voiced Benedict Cumberbatch.:T

So I am going to

Prepare physically for the big birthday - I am going into my 50's fit and as slim as I can to help the old joints. Which means sensible eating and more exercise, walking and yoga are my exercise of choice! I am also cutting down / out the booze, it really isn't good for my mental health, even a glass raises my adrenalin too high and causes panic. Perhaps I will experiment with some non-alcoholic alternatives.

Continue to learn about growing my own food. I have been experimenting with what works and what doesn't and i shall continue to do this.

Declutter - but it is an ongoing battle

Do more writing. I would love to be able to, but can't seem to grasp that you have to learn - it won't just come naturally. Strange as I love to learn other things.

Get my kids cooking more. Especially DS (13). We are going to make a chilli this weekend.

Save for what will probably be our last "big" family holiday. We are hoping for New Zealand or Canada, probably in 2014 so I have some time. After that DD will leave home for Uni and pastures new

Learn some french - I am hoping to do it with CDs in the car.

DundeeDoll

vjsmum so we're both 1963 babies. My career path sounds a bit similar to yours. Last year i made a fuss and since then things have most definitely improved. I applied for one other job which in retrospect would have been a disaster. Main plans for this year:
1) declutter the house (started last week and going really well - once i'm back at work i know it'll slow down but determined to fling at least 13 items a day)
2) get the windows replaced (bleuh - they're 40 year old upvc and well and truly done for)
3) get the electrics sorted
4) work through house decorating each room - we've been there 14 years now and it's looking rather shabby
5) submit 13 papers (well it is 2013)

taplady

Gers wrote: »

This thread always brings a song into my head:



Just recently covered by Jools Holland and Rumer.

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thats a fabulous song - I keep singing it:)

Goldiegirl wrote: »

OMG, I remember The Clitheroe Kid being on the radio when I was little!

I also used to like Round The Horne. I didn't get all the jokes at the time, but listening to it later in life, I realised it was full of innuendo!

Round the Horn is also great, in fact I'm quite often laughing away in the kitchen to the radio:D

This thread has made me smile today just reading it so thankyou all:T

dixon-bainbridge

Excellent thread. 2012 was not great for us, my girlfriend lost her granddad and auntie then on Christmas day our dog died. However, I'm thinking positively about 2013 as there is lots to look forward to - my sister is getting married in Italy, I graduate with an OU degree and a holiday to Belgium.

I'm also thankful for all that I have - family and friends and good health (touch wood).

Anyway, things for this year:
1. Try harder at saving - looking to save £9k this year.
2. Buy first house with said savings
2. Put some muscle on my skinny body!
3. See my friends more
4. Try a new sport
5. Try to stress less about little things
6. Not to worry about things so much.

lilmisskitkat

Well it's one step forwards and two steps back sometimes. I think i spoke to soon the other day as yesterday afternoon DS had another fit, his 1st in a year, 9th in total He was already in hospital when he had it though, i felt better about that rather than an agonising wait at home for an ambulance. His temp yesterday just wouldn't come down, even with medication and i recognised a few of the signs that he may end up having a fit, plus his breathing wasn't good so he ended up in an ambulance to hosp when he had the fit 15 mins after arriving in A&E. They allowed him home last night after 6hrs of observation, he has a chest infection and is now on antibiotics plus full dosage of his blue inhaler. His temp is still up and down but we're managing it for now, then the anti b's should kick in soon and start to fight the infection.

Quite proud of myself for remaining calm but now all i want to do is sit and cry, i feel so helpless when he's ill

He now has to rest for a few days, he'll sleep on and off as the convulsions really take it out of him. Trying to stay on the positive side of things it will be nice to spend some alone time with him while he gets better, DH will sort the girls out because DS only wants me when he's poorly.

Sorry to put a downer on the thread Another thing i'm going to do whilst sitting up at night when DS is sleeping is make some lists - i do love a list Meal plans using up what we have, items that we need, DIY plans, monthly budgets etc. I got a shiny new notebook for xmas and i can't wait to start filling the pristine pages :j

K xx