Christmas engagements

Saver_Karen

pleasedelete wrote: »

What I dont get are engagements but not naming the wedding day. You get engaged because you intend to marry. Get engaged- name the wedding day.

Well we couldn't do that because we didn't have a clue when or where we would be getting married. We've now decided probably when but that was a discussion that took place after the engagement not during the proposal

elantan

We didn't decide when we got engaged either ... We just decided to get engaged ... When we eventually decided to get married we went to the registrar office and hubby asked how soon we could get married, we were told 15 days .... 15 days later we were married ... Simples

Torry_Quine

Saver_Karen wrote: »

Well we couldn't do that because we didn't have a clue when or where we would be getting married. We've now decided probably when but that was a discussion that took place after the engagement not during the proposal

It would seem strange to me to get engaged and immediately announce the wedding date as well. However I do think that it shouldn't be an extremely long drawn-out process. To me, once you are engaged then you naturally start to plan the weddin and set a date.

flower24

We got engaged on Christmas day 6 years ago. Our first child had just been born that October and it seemed the perfect time for the next step iyswim

thorsoak

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

lol thats true, however I agree with the OP, I think its a tacky time to propose and quite lazy.

So when "should" proposals take place, please?

Etiquette has obviously moved on since I was young! In the "olden" days, there never was a tacky time!

thorsoak

barbarawright wrote: »

Both sets of parents got married on Christmas Day? Really? I ask because vicars tend to be quite busy and I work in a register office which certainly isn't open on public holidays. Or do you mean sometime around Christmas which isn't quite the same thing?

Yes ...this was back in the 1930s, so can't comment upon how busy or not the vicars were - and yes, both were on Christmas Day - one in Berkshire, the other in Perthshire!

Errata

Christmas Day weddings were not unusual in the 1940's either.

74jax

pleasedelete wrote: »

What I dont get are engagements but not naming the wedding day. You get engaged because you intend to marry. Get engaged- name the wedding day.

When we got engaged we then had to find a venue and make sure the venue and office dates could tally up. I don't really think it would be possible to announce your engagement and the date of getting married, unless you kept the engagement quite until everything was tied up - I couldn't I was too excited :rotfl:

Mrs_Ryan wrote: »

I asked him once, he said no, it was too soon.

We'd been together five years...

Me too!

I too hadn't thought of getting engaged at Christmas to be 'tacky'....