Christmas engagements

Seanymph

Bless you Mrs Ryan.

I too think that christmas engagements are to get out of present buying - or at least a 'two for one' on the credits stake because you only need to buy one thing.

It seems a strange time of year to me to get engaged, but not married, I had a winter wedding the first time, and lit the church with candles on the windows and things, and had red and orange flowers and it really was amazing. Only lasted six months though.

barbarawright

Errata wrote: »

Engaged on Christmas Day? Shock horror! Some people even get married on Christmas Day. And some babies decide to get born on Christmas Day. Which is lovely.

Do people really get married on Christmas Day outside soap operas?

thorsoak

barbarawright wrote: »

Do people really get married on Christmas Day outside soap operas?

Oh yes - both my parents and my OH's parents got married at Christmas (year apart, different parts of the country) - and No1 son married on Christmas Eve. That was actually so good because members of our family live abroad, as did some of DIL's family - so there were also big family reunions for Christmas!

Saver_Karen

We got engaged last Thursday but not because my partner couldn't think of a Christmas present!

We wanted to look for a ring in a specific antique jewellery shop in the town where my parents live and it was the first time we had a chance to go there since last spring.

January20

Loanranger wrote: »

Sorry to say but after six years of living together, he's unlikely to want to get married. Why would he? He doesn't need to, does he?
Chuck him and get someone who is more deserving of your loyalty and love.

Why buy the cow when the milk is free?

Indeed what is the incentive for a man in that situation when he can have everything a wife will give him without the commitment?

snozberry

My fella proposed yesterday and it certainly wasn't to get out of buying me Christmas gifts.

dibuzz

There is a simple answer. Men are less likely to forget the date of their engagement if it's Christmas Day

barbarawright

thorsoak wrote: »

Oh yes - both my parents and my OH's parents got married at Christmas (year apart, different parts of the country) - and No1 son married on Christmas Eve. That was actually so good because members of our family live abroad, as did some of DIL's family - so there were also big family reunions for Christmas!

Both sets of parents got married on Christmas Day? Really? I ask because vicars tend to be quite busy and I work in a register office which certainly isn't open on public holidays. Or do you mean sometime around Christmas which isn't quite the same thing?

krlyr

Loanranger wrote: »

Sorry to say but after six years of living together, he's unlikely to want to get married. Why would he? He doesn't need to, does he?
Chuck him and get someone who is more deserving of your loyalty and love.

How come he's the baddy for not wanting to get married? I don't want to get married, that doesn't make me less deserving of a relationship. I've been clear from the off, fortunately for me, OH feels the same. But we don't know if Mrs Ryan's blokes always been honest about his feelings (seems like he's not been shy to say so on a couple of occasions on the past) so why is it him who's the bad guy? If we wanted to be controversial, we could say he should dump the person nagging him to get married when he's already commited to a longterm relationship with her and made it clear he doesn't want to get married yet - maybe he should get someone more deserving?

I don't know Mrs Ryan or her OH to judge them but it's not as clear cut as X is horrible because he won't propose to Y, and it's harsh to say she should ditch him just because of that. Respect works both ways in a relationship, one party wanting to get married doesn't mean the other should cave and propose. Equally, the other party has to respect that one of them does want to get married and needs to be honest about it if they really, truly have no desire to get married ever, so both of them know where they stand, but he may truthfully just not want to get married just yet.

Takeaway_Addict

dibuzz wrote: »

There is a simple answer. Men are less likely to forget the date of their engagement if it's Christmas Day

lol thats true, however I agree with the OP, I think its a tacky time to propose and quite lazy.