*The Holly and the Ivy* and the You Know What 2013 Chatter Thread.

Nanamia

Hugs Fenna hate days like that aarrrghh
We've missed you Chrissy - out of lurkdome you come. X
Crowdpleaser well done you, that must be a fab feeling.

Caitlyn - we are here for good and bad days but it is so so unlike you. The stress was bound to catch up with you. Of course you are going to feel sad that your Mum and Dad won't be there but I'm sure you know they will always be with you:) Life can be so cruel

caitlyn22

Thanks everyone. It was very odd, I don't often get emotional about it but I saw my mum on Friday and that visit really upset me. Without going in to too much detail the carers are just a bit thoughtless and were telling me (in front of her) that she's getting a bit 'whiffy' and that I need to order some incontinence underwear. (For anyone not up to speed she has early onset dementia, she's in her early 60s and has had it since her late 40s) I'll phone the office tomorrow (again!) and complain that I don't like the carers making such comments in front of my mum, however much it seems she is oblivious. They also said some stuff about her personal care that was far more worrying so feel like I'm going to have yet another battle on my hands to get them to pay more attention to her. So that was upsetting. I also had hoped we might be able to bring my mum to the party we're having at home, when we return from honeymoon, but seeing her this last week, it really would just be selfish of me, she'd be far too distressed with the noise and people and unfamiliar surroundings. That in turn it makes me think of my dad missing my wedding (again, for those new to the thread, my dad died of cancer 5 years ago). What's so bizarre about grief is that when it hits you again, often years later, the idea of never being able to see someone again, to hear their voice, or have a cuddle, suddenly hits you again, like you've just realised it all over again. So last night it wasn't just that he wouldn't be at my wedding, it was me sobbing that I'll never see him ever again! You could forgive OH for thinking I was a bit crackers, presumably he was thinking this was all hitting me a bit late in the day! But like I say, every time the 'sad' grief comes back, you realise it all over again!

Anyway, woke up today feeling much brighter. Still a bit concerned that I'll be more upset than I imagined on my wedding day (I'm not a crying sort so hadn't even contemplated the ideas of tears on my wedding day - what will become of my make-up?!?!? :rotfl:) but there's nothing I can do about that, just try and focus on all the wonderful positives. And possibly invest in some waterproof mascara.

Thanks all for 'listening', I know it's nothing major in the grand scheme of things, but it helps to unload a little here x

Feisty you did make me laugh with your screen-printing comment! I'm actually a fairly crafty, creative person but you are in a wonderful league of your own and what's more, I don't even think you realise it!! Put it this way, it would be more like potato-printing if I tried it! :rotfl:

Trendyjenny

Hugs fenna

FeistyFidget

Crowdpleaser, that is awesome! I think the feeling you have knowing that you own 100% of the house will be unreal

Ruth, a few people have said that, so it must be a very good name

welshdreamer, I dream of being rushed off my feet but don't think I will manage that So glad you loved your paper-cut, did it go down well with DH? If you have time (don't put yourself out) would love to see it all framed up! Off to have a nosy on that fb page I will always make time for your papercut as you were kind enough to take the plunge on one of my first pieces

If anyone would like a peek, my new facebook page is up and running. If you stop by, can I pester you to hit the like button (shameless I know) - any feedback (good and bad) is always appreciated

Trendyjenny

Caitlin 22 I know just how you feel re grief x I was extremely close to my nan and there isn't a day when I wish could share something with her x

You sound a very caring and thoughtful person and I hope they sort your mum out. I hope they listen to your concerns and go back to doing the best for her x

ReformedShopaholic

Hey everyone,

Hugs to everyone as it sounds like we all need them lately.

Been catching up on my phone, but then have to go back pages to do thanks when I get on laptop :rotfl:

Not much been happening here with working all week. Finally picked up my studio order and dotcomgiftshop order from the post office depot, so gift box is getting a little fuller with things.

In other non gift related news-we are looking for places to live back in my home town. I am homesick for my family, friends and actual shops. Not just that but its more expensive to live here with all bills then it is there and they are saying they will be putting the council tax up again!

Its not that far away but since I don't drive its always a bit of slog to go and visit with trains/buses and then having to get back home again.
Plus although we now live close to o/h family they are not close in the sense that they spend time together or plan to do things(they just tolerate each other when they have to) so seems to me like I am missing out on seeing my niece and nephew grow up for nothing.

So I have been looking for places and have found a lovely little flat and left a message with estate agent to view. So fingers crossed!

Trendyjenny

Fingers crossed reformedshopaholic

ReformedShopaholic

Caitlyn22 - have to agree about old ladies being the worst. Where we live they seem to think they are better than everyone and march around the shops without so much of an excuse me, I am always really careful to say excuse me and you can always find me in a shop just listen for the person saying 'excuse me, sorry, thank you' when I need to get past someone :rotfl:
They always seem to have their men just following them round like little lost puppies. I always think poor things, must have had a lifetime of earache to become so subservient to these bossy, rude women.
RANT OVER!
Sorry about that but it really does wind me up. Anyway hope you are feeling better and nobody would be surprised if you had a little cry on the actual day, as I think most would expect considering what you have been through xx

System

officially left lurkedom
I've been busy getting dd`s birthday sorted it's not until the end of April but I want to get sorted early.she is into skulls (where has my little girl gone?) I've got her a bag ,duvet cover,card I so far and 2 charmed t shirts from America and of course the Harry potter trip.
it looks like the new DR Who action figures are going to be smaller at 3-75 " instead of 5" no doubt they will be the same price though !

moneysavingmumofone

caitlyn22-It is completely understandable that you are feeling this way. I feel so so sad for you and wish I could make it all better for you. xxx I hope you can sort out the problems with your mums care. xxx

Feisty-I excitedly looked up screen printing thinking yay I can do my own but Im afraid mine would be more potato printing too. :rotfl: Glad the guineas are settling in.

Yay at deciding to pay off the mortgage CrowdPleaser, hope you manage to eventually find the home of your dreams.

ReformedShopaholic-Good luck with the flat. I can completely relate to your situation, I live just far enough that public transport to my mums is a nightmare. 2 buses and a train and its just too expensive. Im hoping I can get a swap eventually to be nearer!

ChrissyG-The new figures will be £6.99 so one good thing!