Where do I stand? Ex won't move out or pay rent

londonlydia

Here's a new point...it's your house, so you have the right to record (video/ sound) within it. Why not place some recording stuff around (phones/ web cams etc) and see if she belittles you on film as it were. Especially if she re-mentions pretending you abuse her. Then see how far she gets in court.

But, other than that, don't give her ammunition. It's not long in the grand scheme of things to wait, and acting civil and courteous will put you in a better light to your kids than she will be doing about herself.

wapow

Vortex1 wrote: »

Guys I understand what many of you are saying. You make it all sound easy which I suppose technically it is but I am genuinely only concerned about the impact on my children. I can hand on heart say I have no interest in her remaining in the house or my life for that matter.

Wapaw, sorry if I came across as venting, maybe I am but that was never the intention.

What impact are you worried about?
Are you trying to look like the good guy to your kids and make her out to be the bad one?

Why?

Ok, lets look at this another way.

What kind of example are YOU to your kids? Do you think they will RESPECT you if they see you allowing yourself to be DIS-RESPECTED?

How can YOU be emotionally available for your kids, if all your emotional energy is spent on your ex-partner?

I say this again mate, do something about your kids so theyre not about. Send them to your family's home for a day. When theyre gone, get the cops round and get her out.

Tell your kids they are free to see her whenever and tell them you'll even drop them off. But that she wont be living there anymore because you two are going your separate ways.

Its better to take the honest approach mate. But dont make her out to be an enemy of the state.


So i say again, i expect this to be sorted after weekend!

You have no excuses now. You have the information you need to resolve this. The answers have been provided.

The rest is up to you.