Where do I stand? Ex won't move out or pay rent

Jo_F

Now is the time for you to go legal and get hard, keep the kids with you, but tell her to sling her hook, by the end of the week. She has no rights to squat in your property and if you allow the kids to stay, then no one can say you are being unreasonable.

Time to change the locks and bag her stuff up methinks

Vortex1

Jo I know you are right but I fear for the impact on my kids. She is the type to scream, shout & cry at the front door rather than go graciously for the sake of the children. She is not remotely bothered about involving the children in any dispute regardless of the impact on them.

Manchee

In that case maybe it would be best to do it on a night that your kids are on a sleepover at a friends?

podperson

I would be amazed if a judge granted her an occupany order on a property that she has just sold for a large sum of money! But as others have mentioned you would be best getting legal advice.

Vortex1

thanks guys

Jo_F

Is there a member of her family that you can talk to, one that can come over and take her away when you tell her to leave? Or would it be possible to go speak to the local police, explain the situation and ask them to be in attendance when you do the deed?

Vortex1

Her sister is in denial. The only people who know what she is really like are myself and our teenager.

I don't want this to have a lasting effect on the children or do anymore damage than already done but also know the ex is playing on that fact.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

She could be scared that if she leaves without the children, you'll stop them going with her on the grounds the new home isn't ready and she would never have left them with you if she really wanted them. And then your 50% becomes 100%.

If you separate yourself from the situation and consider it from that way, it then becomes more understandable that she's not going anywhere without them and it would sound like you were expecting her to pay you for the privilege of being their mother.

Vortex1

Jojo I understand what you are saying but I truly do not believe this to be the case. I know it sounds terrible but I am positive she is far more concerned with saving money than the children's welfare.

pimento

I still say move your most annoying friend in.