Daughter Growing Up

Person_one

suejb2 wrote: »

Not wanting to hijack this post and I did think of starting a new one but after thought this seems the best place.Are there any suggestions regarding books to start off "the talk" I'm inspired by the posts on here so want to be prepared...over to you

This is a good one, its very frank and clear and covers absolutely everything:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Growing-Up-about-Adolescence-Changes/dp/0794507646/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1354987496&sr=1-5

daisiegg

lostinrates wrote: »

Had they not covered this earlier in their education in science/biology? When I was at school it was in the year one was aged eleven and twelve, if anything with puberty being earlier for many girls I might have thought that the anatomy and mechanicals would be covered earlier as a science, and then, as you are doing, in a less science setting.

Has it really nopt been covered, or have they not taken it on board when they were taught it?

I cannot believe it's not been covered - so I assume they just didn't take it in, particularly if it was in science... Which is why I think it should definitely be raised on a one to one basis by parents/carers!

Valli

pinkshoes wrote: »

I'm going to be teaching "Reproduction" to Y7 after christmas in science (eeeek!), and have already been told that most the class won't know much about WHY girls have periods, and lots don't realise that once you start your period, you can actually get pregnant!

On this basis, I think I'd just advise being very open about the whole thing!

My mum gave me no info other than a book AFTER I'd started my periods. Even that just said what was happening, rather than why. I was SO naïve and clueless when I was younger!

Actually it's possible to get pregnant without actually ever having had a period - one has to be ovulating in order to conceive; not necessarily menstruating, although the two USUALLY DO go hand-in-hand. But I'm sure you know this.

While you're at it make sure they know you can become pregnant the very first time; and in whatever position, including standing up!

balletshoes

Person_one wrote: »

This is a good one, its very frank and clear and covers absolutely everything:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Growing-Up-about-Adolescence-Changes/dp/0794507646/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1354987496&sr=1-5

thats the one we have.

themull1

I got the period talk at school and my daughter got it when she was 11/12, i just told her that i had bought her some pads for when her periods started, and it was no problem. I think a lot of people are making a mountain out of a molehill.

Sally_A

Having got through the period chat, dealt with daughters period starting, and despite having periods for 35+ years, obtaining biology O level etc etc; I kept it light and factual as there are still some bits I don't understand, and questions i could not answer.

Are any of you prepared for these questions?

So, how many eggs are in my body? (I don't know, I was taught that the number of eggs was determined at puberty, so say 40 years of periods = 40 x13 = 520).

Where do they all fit? (In my head they are like a spirally pea pod, with the ripest egg dropping off each month and causing the period).

How do they know to be ripe and drop off every 28 days? (I DON'T KNOW!!! PASS ME THE WINE BOTTLE AND CORKSCREW!!!).

If any of you could answer the above to me in simple terms, as you would talk to a 10 year old - please do! :o:)

Person_one

Sally_A wrote: »

If any of you could answer the above to me in simple terms, as you would talk to a 10 year old - please do! :o:)

Does this help?

Sally_A

Person_one wrote: »

Does this help?

No, far too technical, and none of the questions are answered in simple English.

Thanks for trying though.:)

Person_one

Sally_A wrote: »

No, far too technical, and none of the questions are answered in simple English.

Thanks for trying though.:)

It was a bad joke, sorry! I still have to really think to get my head around the details even though I studied it for an anatomy exam last year.

Sally_A

I got the joke Person One , just wanted to highlight the benefits of keeping it light and factual when discussing with your daughters, rather than approaching by scientific text book ways.

If I was shown that diagram at the age of 10, I'd think I had an alien inside me.