tell me what you think!!!

jinxy_jane

barbiedoll wrote: »

If they have split up and she has been sacked from your OH's place of work, why does she still have his number on her phone?
If I'd been dumped by a married man who had gone back to his wife, I wouldn't be keeping his number unless I thought I would need it one day.

You should text her and tell her to bog off!

thanks this was my point to him, why would she keep his number on her phone if not to be in contact, and of all the numbers on her phone seems so odd that she accidently rang his!

im so confused maybe i need to contact her although ive tried not to do this up to this point, he will tell me they have not been in contact wont he! as he knows i would tell him to f off.xx

bugslet

If nothing is happening and you text her and tell her f off, then you look daft. if you text her or speak to her and something is happening, she will deny it and say it was an accident and the two of them will be more cautious.

Go and get an MP3s and do what nessy said. I never confronted mine until I knew what wass happening for sure otherwise he would have wriggled out of it.

loracan1

Is he guarded about his phone - had it been left lying about when you checked it or did you have to go search it out? This should tell you a lot really...

FattyBettyBoo

How LONG was the call. It will show this on his phone. If she rang by mistake you would listen to the background noise, say hello and then put the phone down in less then 60 seconds.

I was going to say the same thing Kayalana99. I think more like 30 seconds of background noise. I think that if the call was anything less than a minute then it was either an accident or he's answered it and told her to get lost!

Kayalana99

jinxy_jane wrote: »

thanks this was my point to him, why would she keep his number on her phone if not to be in contact, and of all the numbers on her phone seems so odd that she accidently rang his!

im so confused maybe i need to contact her although ive tried not to do this up to this point, he will tell me they have not been in contact wont he! as he knows i would tell him to f off.xx

Just worth a point, I deleted my Ex's number off my phone last week. I nearly text him by mistake as I'd meant to text another guy with the same name, we've been spilt up for 2 years and I am engaged with a baby to my OH. It just never occured to me to delete it, and when I text/ring people I type thier name in so I don't go through my phone book.

Moominmamma

What an awful situation to be in

Just wanted to add, you say you know her number by heart - if they were having an affair, wouldn't your dh know her number by heart too?

peachyprice

Moominmamma wrote: »

Just wanted to add, you say you know her number by heart - if they were having an affair, wouldn't your dh know her number by heart too?

I don't even know my OH's number by heart :rotfl:

jinxy_jane

peachyprice wrote: »

I don't even know my OH's number by heart :rotfl:

haha im good with remembering numbers, and ive seen her number enough on the itemized phone bills to have it imprinted on my brain, been very hard not to ring it sometimes!!

DS4215

Could you get your OH to change his phone number? - at least then she won't have his contact details and if she rings again you will know that he has given her his new one.

It might be that she gave it some time for the dust to settle to see if he was now "available" and got told where to go. Maybe not likely, but not impossible.

System

Of course your husband might be completely innocent in this. There could be a chance he is determined to start afresh with you but this woman could be calling him, equally as determined to get him back or at least remind him that she is still there.

Trust doesnt come back after a few months, it takes years to build trust with someone who has so badly let you down. Trust has to be earned and this will have set you back.

I'd tell him to change his phone number. Its the least he can do to to make you feel secure.