tell me what you think!!!

cheepskate_2

Sometimes it is very difficult to let go of someone when you do not have "the proof".
You may be wrong or right.....only her and him know.
It is very difficult to throw your marrage away ,if you may be wrong.

Have you checked his mobile/house bill to see if he is calling her.

If he is up to anything and wise ,she would do all the calling, but you never know.

I second the recorder. Gives you definite proof and lets you make an informed choice.

peachyprice

I don't believe for one minute that she called him by accident, of all the people on her phone she accidentally called him? No.

BUT, I don't necessarily think that means he is messing around again. While you two are trying to make your marriage work it's quite possible that she is still hankering after your husband and is the one doing all the running.

I would have been far more suspicious if her number had come up under her or a different name. The fact that it was just her number means he doesn't have it stored in his phone, it would show her name if he did, if he was in regular contact he'd have it stored, perhaps under Dave or something, but it would be there.

Me, I'd use his phone to send her a text telling her to eff off and leave my husband alone. it would be interesting to see his reaction if you did do that.

eilidh_s

You said they worked together, could it have been a work call? It is quite feasible that it was an accidental call. It happened to me recently, I had a call from a number that I didn't recognise and all I could hear was other people talking in the background. I hung up and rung it back and it turned out to be somebody I hadn't spoken to in about 10 years. She still had my number but I had deleted hers a long time ago. Also recently my Dad's phone went haywire for about two days and my number was the one it would dial. He tried calling almost everybody in his phone book but it went to my number every time. Got quite annoying after ten minutes.

JimmyTheWig

peachyprice wrote: »

I don't believe for one minute that she called him by accident, of all the people on her phone she accidentally called him? No.

Does his name begin with an "A"? I.e. might he be the first entry in her phone book?

jinxy_jane

peachyprice wrote: »

I don't believe for one minute that she called him by accident, of all the people on her phone she accidentally called him? No.

BUT, I don't necessarily think that means he is messing around again. While you two are trying to make your marriage work it's quite possible that she is still hankering after your husband and is the one doing all the running.

I would have been far more suspicious if her number had come up under her or a different name. The fact that it was just her number means he doesn't have it stored in his phone, it would show her name if he did, if he was in regular contact he'd have it stored, perhaps under Dave or something, but it would be there.

Me, I'd use his phone to send her a text telling her to eff off and leave my husband alone. it would be interesting to see his reaction if you did do that.

thanks yes i do think just like you, seems odd she happened to ring his name, and yes i have thought about sending her a text from his fone telling her just that, maybe i will discuss this with him.x

Saint_Chris

I would just simply say to him, i don't enjoy asking you this, but to easy my mind, and get rid of the niggling doubt that is there, would you mind showing me a list of your calls, (not on phone, as call logs can be deleted), this can be done on-line or by calling your phone provider and they will send you a estimated bill out, and it will list all in-going and out-going calls plus texts. And how long the call was for.

Don't say sorry for asking this.

Just say, i have worked very hard over the past 9 months, to regain trust and rebuild this relationship, so if you have done nothing wrong, then you would not mind doing this little thing for me, to ease my mind.

VestanPance

The big issue here is trust. You obviously do not trust you husband or you wouldn't have gone looking through his phone. If he was innocent and knew you where still having trust issues why wouldn't he tell you about the call?

I'll admit that I'm damaged goods after breaking up with my ex over an affair she had, but to me it sounds like your relationship is in huge trouble as you no longer trust your ex and he isn't being completely open with you after breaking your trust with the affair.

jinxy_jane

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Does his name begin with an "A"? I.e. might he be the first entry in her phone book?

no his name begins with m so she could have had him on redial list? if they speak regular in the week at work etc,

jinxy_jane

VestanPance wrote: »

The big issue here is trust. You obviously do not trust you husband or you wouldn't have gone looking through his phone. If he was innocent and knew you where still having trust issues why wouldn't he tell you about the call?

I'll admit that I'm damaged goods after breaking up with my ex over an affair she had, but to me it sounds like your relationship is in huge trouble as you no longer trust your ex and he isn't being completely open with you after breaking your trust with the affair.

thats just it though he didnt tell me about the call! said he was going to ask me if i knew who the number was from and thats why he left it on his phone, you are right trust has to be earned ive got a long way to go yet before he earns that trust and thats natural i think

balletshoes

fluffnutter wrote: »

Can you actually delete numbers from the recent calls list?
I guess it might depend on the phone but I've never done this. I hate that defence anyway - 'Look, I'm innocent because I'm not trying to hide the fact that I'm guilty'. Doesn't really wash with me I'm afraid.

Do you trust your husband?

yes you can, I have an ancient phone and I can delete anything thats in my call log.

I do think its unlikely that her number called your husband's phone out of the blue by accident. But that doesn't mean your husband has done anything he shouldn't this time round. He may have decided to tell you a lie about the phone call from her because he knew you'd flip if he said he's spoken to her.