Ah..I get it...this is the new dating forum !!

maintenanceman

I suppose it's true to say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My point is that some people would put a pretty girl above personality, just to have a nice looking girl on their arm. That's what I would call shallow. Attractiveness is another thing, which I admit to it myself on another thread. I still put chemistry high up there.

HeatherintheHills

maintenanceman, seriously, you are shooting yourself in the foot by not putting a picture up.

So far, almost every time I've asked a guy on POF why he doesn't have a profile pic it turns out to be because he doesn't want his wife to see him. :mad:

I'm not interested in married men looking for a bit on the side so now I don't bother replying to messages from guys who don't show their faces. I am sure many other POF ladies do the same.

maintenanceman

Well what a bout a description as opposed to a picture.
Something along the lines of ermm ???
Bald international master criminal, most likely to resemble European !!!!! boss on crimewatch??? Green eyes. There ya go. That would do .. wouldn't it??

meer53

Dating sites make me laugh. I'm a single mum who has browsed them before but has now given up. Maybe i should have persevered but all the blokes in my age bracket (i'm 55) are looking (optimistically) for a woman between 25 and 40 ! Get real fellas, or should i say realistic ?

The other thing that puts me off is that a lot of them are really looking for their mother. I've been there and done that and don't particularly want to do it again. I've become far too independant !

My ideal bloke would be about my age, with his own house and car, own teeth, not bothered about hair as long as there's not too much where it shouldn't be, and be financially secure. Shape not important, i'm no stick insect myself ! Sense of humour is essential though.

My experience is that blokes are usually looking for a "LTR" which to me means someone to look after them. If i never find one, i won't be worried, i'm quite capable of looking after myself.

ceecee1

meer53 wrote: »

Dating sites make me laugh. I'm a single mum who has browsed them before but has now given up. Maybe i should have persevered but all the blokes in my age bracket (i'm 55) are looking (optimistically) for a woman between 25 and 40 ! Get real fellas, or should i say realistic ?

The other thing that puts me off is that a lot of them are really looking for their mother. I've been there and done that and don't particularly want to do it again. I've become far too independant !

My ideal bloke would be about my age, with his own house and car, own teeth, not bothered about hair as long as there's not too much where it shouldn't be, and be financially secure. Shape not important, i'm no stick insect myself ! Sense of humour is essential though.

My experience is that blokes are usually looking for a "LTR" which to me means someone to look after them. If i never find one, i won't be worried, i'm quite capable of looking after myself.

I couldn't have put it better myself.:T

I think we are after the same man (if he exists - I hope you are not in the North West as well !)

Men of our age seem to be kidding themselves that they can get a younger model. That must be why I only get messages off men who are about 20 years older than me.

My best message was really straightforward...it said "do you fancy a sh*g"........ perhaps I did ..but certainly not with him and I do like to know someones name first.

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meer53 wrote: »

Dating sites make me laugh. I'm a single mum who has browsed them before but has now given up. Maybe i should have persevered but all the blokes in my age bracket (i'm 55) are looking (optimistically) for a woman between 25 and 40 ! Get real fellas, or should i say realistic ?

The other thing that puts me off is that a lot of them are really looking for their mother. I've been there and done that and don't particularly want to do it again. I've become far too independant !

My ideal bloke would be about my age, with his own house and car, own teeth, not bothered about hair as long as there's not too much where it shouldn't be, and be financially secure. Shape not important, i'm no stick insect myself ! Sense of humour is essential though.

My experience is that blokes are usually looking for a "LTR" which to me means someone to look after them. If i never find one, i won't be worried, i'm quite capable of looking after myself.

Here, here, i totally agree with you too. The last man (i use that term, although he wasnt a man but a wimp) i met on a dating site was still attached to his mother. Said he was self employed, but it came out he was unemployed and doing jobs on the side. He must have got his life down to a tee. I found out he was trawling the internet for women and using them to a) buy him things and then not pay them back b) drive him around everywhere and possibly paying for his meals and worse taking things. I wont go into it but he wasnt interested in a relationship only women who were nieve enough to believe that he really liked them whilst messaging his next victim. I found out within a few weeks of knowing him. Ive had six months on dating sites and have come to the conclusion that the men ive met or spoke to say they want to be in a relationship but want to be either friends with benefits or just use women. Maybe ive had bad luck but ive not found anyone remotely near any level im looking for.

meer53

ceecee1 wrote: »

I couldn't have put it better myself.:T

I think we are after the same man (if he exists - I hope you are not in the North West as well !)

Men of our age seem to be kidding themselves that they can get a younger model. That must be why I only get messages off men who are about 20 years older than me.

My best message was really straightforward...it said "do you fancy a sh*g"........ perhaps I did ..but certainly not with him and I do like to know someones name first.

I'm not far away, i'm in Leeds !

I don't think my man exists really. If he does, and he comes along, then thats great, but i'm not actively going looking for him, i really can't be bothered with the hassle of actually finding out what they want. If they want someone to do their washing/cooking/cleaning/being a general dogsbody then i wish they'd just say so and then i could cross them off the list. Trouble is, not many men will admit to that. Some men are so delusional it's unbelievable.

I work with a bloke who has just split from his wife, he's mid forties, very overweight, his hobbies are watching (over and over again) DVD's, to the point where he can recite the scripts, and playing role playing computer games online with other sad !!!!!!!s. His personal hygiene also leaves a lot to be desired. He now thinks he's a "babe magnet" to anyone under 30 and it's hilarious to watch him with the younger women in the office.

I just want to take him to one side and tell him the truth. I know he won't believe me though. To be honest he makes me feel physically sick.

ceecee1

Hi Meer - that must we where we are going wrong....he is such a catch ..fight you for him

maintenanceman

meer53 wrote: »

I'm not far away, i'm in Leeds !

I don't think my man exists really. If he does, and he comes along, then thats great, but i'm not actively going looking for him, i really can't be bothered with the hassle of actually finding out what they want. If they want someone to do their washing/cooking/cleaning/being a general dogsbody then i wish they'd just say so and then i could cross them off the list. Trouble is, not many men will admit to that. Some men are so delusional it's unbelievable.

I work with a bloke who has just split from his wife, he's mid forties, very overweight, his hobbies are watching (over and over again) DVD's, to the point where he can recite the scripts, and playing role playing computer games online with other sad !!!!!!!s. His personal hygiene also leaves a lot to be desired. He now thinks he's a "babe magnet" to anyone under 30 and it's hilarious to watch him with the younger women in the office.

I just want to take him to one side and tell him the truth. I know he won't believe me though. To be honest he makes me feel physically sick.

He sounds a little like me. Why would you want to take him to one side and tell him him the truth, even though he won't belive you and he make you physically sick. Whats the point?? Isn't he giving you the same attention.. Is that the point.

maintenanceman

Was watching Deal or no Deal anfd there was a pretty lass who, during the course of the program, had met another contestant and it sounded like the might have had a bit of a 'fling' In fact when he was revealed(as a previous contestant) her words were 'thats what I don't remember hin like' so not so much of a lonfg term relationship it seems. BUT he left her a momento of their encounter. This was a piece of string around her wrist. LOL I find this hilarious. The gut had a one night stand, probably , gave it all the spiel and got away with it with a piece of string. I find it amazing that some females are duped by a bit of chat and a piece of string that they think they have found love. I was in a relationship with a girl who went on holiday , shagged another bloke one night stand . He wrote her a poem and she thought that was really nice and what a sensitive bloke he was. Why do women swallow this drivel?? Are they all this stupid??