OS DAILY TUESDAY 17th APRIL

anniebooklover

Crazychik wrote: »

Practising with what!!!! :rotfl: at least Im not on my own, it is so scary! I know they've done sex education at school, but at what age would you consider reasonable to give the "talk" ?

Crazychik when XDH and I were together he always said it would be my job to have "the talk" with DS and DD. He is very uncomfortable talking about such things. I, on the other hand, have no qualms about doing it. I haven't actually had "the talk" all at once with DS and DD. Instead, anytime they have asked me a question, I have answered it honestly and then expand the talk. I make sure they know the risks. I also told them that I thought they were too young to be dating and IMHO should wait until they are at least 16 or so as high school is stressful enough without the emotional stress of a "relationship" that has gone wrong.

DD is 11 next month and DS is 14. Both of them know they can ask me any question and I will do my best to answer it. So far as I know (and I am 99.999% sure) neither DS nor DD have had their first proper girlfriend/boyfriend. Maybe I have scared them off the idea. Btw DD's best friend told me that she wishes she could talk to her mum about things the way DD and I do. She feels she can't talk to her mum about anything. I find that quite sad.

twink

tru could you go on the health and beauty board and see if toothsmith the dentist would give you advice, poor lad its horrible having toothache

tru

Mr tru just lost his rag with master tru, "stop whining blah blah blah" which ended in a huge row, he's just admitted he took 2 more tablets than he was allowed. Then he took a sleeping pill (which is ok, I checked) which takes about 20 mins to work. End result - master tru stormed out of the house. He's gone to a friend's house. Not quite sure what to do now

Rage_in_Eden

anniestar wrote: »

Thank you for your kind words.
Marie, both Rage and I live in the same town(no, we dont know each other!) its a mean spirted depressing hole(IMHO)hate it LOADS.Would much rather be in Ireland!!(still waiting for my Irish passport!!

Any more of that and I'll be sending the charming Gallagher brothers from Burnage 'round!! Actually I live in south manchester which is practially cheshire and footballer's wives country :rotfl: This also leads me to be a little "out of synch" with some of the people I work with and therefore regarded as "wierd" as I don't think the world revolves around Pop Idol. Radio 4 and a small sherry anyone? Right, I'm off for a bath with amateur gardening - have decided to have a climbing rose growing over the fence with next door - the amount of spiders generated for their ever open back windows should recompense for their noisiness no end

twink

i remember the last time i had an abcess i took more tablets than i should have and was still sore but next morning in the dentists waiting room i didnt feel a thing re your dh when you are not in pain you forget how awful it is, will you get an appt for ds tomorrow?

tru

Yep, appointment is for 9.15, I just hope he comes home :rolleyes: Not so worried about the extra tablets (well I am a bit, lol), more that he took the sleeping pill then went out. What if he has a couple of drinks? (which I bet he will). That on top of the extra tablets and the sleeping pill is what's worrying me most. I KNOW he won't answer the phone yet, maybe I'll give him an hour then try ringing

Mr tru says he remembers the pain - wierd that, since I'm sure he's never actually had an abcess - but if he remembers, he'd be more sympathetic :rolleyes: I had 2 abcesses once, one on either side of my mouth, I remember it well Master tru wasn't even whining IMO, just not coping with it very well.

Penelope_Penguin

Annie, thanks for the mention of the cookbook. Haven't ordered mine yet. Had a great holiday witht he children, so now that we're back to routines, I get a bit of a rest, and can do all those things that are on my list Looking forward to what you think of the recipes :beer:

anniebooklover wrote: »

DD is 11 next month and DS is 14. Both of them know they can ask me any question and I will do my best to answer it. So far as I know (and I am 99.999% sure) neither DS nor DD have had their first proper girlfriend/boyfriend. Maybe I have scared them off the idea. Btw DD's best friend told me that she wishes she could talk to her mum about things the way DD and I do. She feels she can't talk to her mum about anything. I find that quite sad.

I'm absolutely of the view that being open with your children about s€x means that they'll be less keen to experiment. As I mentioned earlier in the year DD (just 14) has a girl in her form who was engaged ion her 14th birthday :eek: :eek: She wasn't allowed to walk to school alone until she was nearly 12, but now goes nowhere without a 18yo's hand on her backside.

Hope master Tru feels better soon.

Penny. x

stefejb

Penelope_Penguin wrote: »

I'm absolutely of the view that being open with your children about s€x means that they'll be less keen to experiment.

I agree but it can sometimes go wrong no matter what you do. I was always open and honest and we also used to leave condoms around accidentally on purpose. middle dd and I had a serious chat when she was 14 and had her first boyfriend that wasn't a boy friend and she accused me of thinking she was a sl*pper - 3 months later she was pregnant :eek: I wish myself and the school had talked more about relationships and how to avoid peer pressure than being oh - so - open about the mechanics. It worked out ok for dd and she is a fantastic, albiet far too young, mother but her younger sister is of course not going out until she is at least 35

anniestar

Rage, Urmston IS the very bowel of the devil himself. For those of you lucky enough to NOT know Urmston BE VERY VERY grateful. Ita a self satisfied,fur coat and no kn!ckers sort of place. AND I HATE HATE HATE IT!!! Oh and people think I'm strange because we go ot bed early, read books do the garden and so on and so on....... What a place!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

taplady

Tru my 17 year old DS has has 2 abcesses in the last few months, the first one was agony and we ended up in A&E as he couldn't cope with the pain and was crying with it, his whole face was swollen. We were advised to rinse the mouth with salt water and to take both paracetamol and ibuprofen together, and he also was given sleeping tablets. Its horrible to see them in pain isn't it! I hope he comes home soon to put your mind at rest xxx