Domestic

UserName01_2

I do have a reference number and details of the officer dealing with it. However, the case was likely to be passed to another station 5 miles away (in same town) as that is the station closest to the scene where the incident happened. I could find out who is dealing with it but I don't know if I am being impatient expecting an update this soon?

I can't imagine him being released without charge. Instead I think he will either have pleaded guilty, charged or released on bail pending further investigation.

I did give the police consent to check my medical records with both my GP and the eye infirmary. I have to go back to the eye infirmary tomorrow so will update the police with this information.

The cuts on my face did not require stitches but there was a lot of small cuts on my face ear and hands which bled alot (I took photos as evidence). The worst injury is my eye. There could still be glass in my eye but the eye infirmary said this would not show up on an xray so will see what they say tomorrow. I am a bit worried as the nurse did say my eye should heal within 5 days but my vision is still blurred so hoping this is just slow healing and not permanent damage to my vision. He could have left me blind so I would imagine this would be at the very least 3rd degree assault which holds a 2 year prison sentence (I would be so happy if he got this punishment!).


Sorry forgot to add, the police did ask if I would be happy to attend court, which dates I would be unavailable due to holidays etc. These details were taken on Tuesday when I went to the station to make a full statement.

System

Sorry forgot to add, the police did ask if I would be happy to attend court, which dates I would be unavailable due to holidays etc. These details were taken on Tuesday when I went to the station to make a full statement.

Please dont be tempted to back down about going to court. If you back down it will be like a victory to him.

UserName01_2

Police have just been out to see me regarding a different matter, his brother (who was in the car with him when he put my window out) is trying to get one over me saying I have contacted him but it is the other way around (although nothing since the incident last monday). Police dealing with it didn't know about the trouble with my ex partner and that he was arrested for assault. He then said sounds like tit for tat.

I asked if he could give me an update regarding the incident last week so he radioed through to the officer dealing with it. He has been charged with assault and was remanded until he appeared at court. He has been granted bail on the conditions that he does not come near my house or contact me directly or indirectly. The officer appologised that I had not been updated and told me to phone police if he contacts me as he will be arrested.

whitewing

Sounds like the police are doing a good job, even if they could be reassuring you a bit more readily.

I still think you need to talk this through with someone with the skills to help you restructure your life. Who's looking after you?

KILL_BILL

you should get a restraining order if you have not already done so.

UserName01_2

I am not happy with the way the police are dealing with this case.

First of all it took them 5 hours to come to see me, then over 48 hours to go and look for him. I was then told I would be informed as soon as he was arrested but I still would not have been updated had I not contacted them myself.

I still did not know if he was charged or not until today when I have an unexpected visit from the police. I then find out he is on bail and not allowed to contact me directly or indirectly. He is not allowed in my street and can not approach me. If he does then I have to ring the police and he will be arrested. I should of been told all of this before now as I did not know he had bail conditions and would be arrested if he broke them.

It's now 8 days since the incident and I have a visit from the police regarding one silly text apparently sent to his brother (who I have never even met). I was told the text was something along the lines of mistreating his children. I don't even know him nevermind how his children are being treated. I can't get my head around the police actually coming out to me regarding something so stupid.

I now have a warning on my record for something I have not done and if it continues and they can prove its me I will be arrested. Surely they should prove its me before giving me a warning. No wonder it took them 5 hours to come out when I was assaulted if they are too busy visiting less serious incidents to give warnings for stupid text messages.

How did the officer not know anything about this incident last week, he was from the same station (not that it matters) but his brother has the same surname and I am sure he would have looked up my details before visting me to see any recent reports on file.

I have suffered with abuse for 2 year while in the relationship too and have been too scared to report every incident. My own family did not know what I have been/going through (so I have tried and struggled to get through this myself) although they noticed I stopped enjoying myself and lost weight which I can't put back on.

Even when he and his friends have threatened me I thought it would be a waste of police time but if they come out for stupid text messages like that then threats are much more serious so I will report every little thing that happens from now.


Charged does not mean he has been found guilty so I only hope he did have a hand injury or pleaded guilty to assault so the case goes to court. It sounds as though he has only been charged with assault and not criminal damage, it should be both charges brought against him. Hopefully those few days in the cell have shook him up and taught him a lesson.

Caroline_a

This sounds like it's off-topic, but bear with me... A few years ago we had a series of vandal attacks on cars in our local area. The police attended, looked bored, and did naff all. Then my car got its wing mirrors done again... and they chose the night before the area police chose to send me a nice mailshot, complete with a photocopied letter about how wonderful they were from the Chief Constable. It had his email address on it.....:D

I emailed him a semi-tongue in cheek, but pointed letter saying how we'd recently suffered, and how it was a nice area, oiks were using it as a cut-through and we got the brunt of their behaviour.

Cue the whole area police force leaping into action! I had 3 visits from a variety of officers - sergeants and higher! and we had regular patrols from both police cars and also police on foot. It appears (she says touching wood) that it's solved the issues, but it took a word from the top to get them to sort it.

My advice, OP? Put all your concerns in an email and send it to the local Chief Constable!

stormbreaker

The police are not responsible for you remaining in an abusive relationship for two years. Two differant police have been given separate investigations. Had the complaint been made by your ex rather than his brother it may have 'flagged' up as a 'domestic' situation. The officer investigating the text message would have no reason to fully check you out before seeing you, even if he did he would be checking to see if you have any convictions, not to see if you had been a complainer.

Although I fully appreciate that what you have gone/ and are going through is horrendous for you, if this is the first time you have reported him for anything, the police do not know the extent and fuller picture, although it should be fully documented now.

It is up to the court to inform you of any bail conditions although the police are often the messengers.

It is only the court that can find your ex guilty. The police only report the circumstances.

mademoiselle_2

Please check this website for your rights:

https://www.gov.uk/your-rights-after-crime

My advice would be to start thinking about your personal statement, and get it written down while the incident is still fresh with you.

If the allegation that you sent a malicious text to a relative of the perpetrator is totally untrue, include that in your statement as another example of harassment.

However: if you did send a text to his relative, I think you need to know that this will not be ignored. It could be treated as harassment in return. The most sensible thing to do is not to retaliate.

stormbreaker

I have just noticed in one of your other posts you say you are afraid in your own home. You should ask the police to have an 'occurance' marker against your address which will flag up should they receive any calls to your address which will be treated as 'urgent'. The occurence marker will have any bail details thereon. If you phone 999 from a landline without saying anything the police can trace the call and again it is treated as urgent. If you have used your telephone either landline or mobile to call the police this often shows on a computer screen as the call is being made, both the number that is calling shows and it can be married up on the computer with previous calls.