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UserName01_2

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

And if you get followed again, drive straight to the nearest police station - not down a cul de sac!

You must have missed my first post where I stated I did not know where I was going. I did not want to be stopped at the tragic lights ahead knowing he would get out of car as I know what he is capable of. I wanted to get away, it was dark, I did not know where I was going so I ended up on a Cul de sac. He blocked me in so I could not drive away. Next time I will make sure I know where I am going and not end up in a dead end. I think the safest thing was to keep driving not stop at traffic lights it was just unfortunate I ended up at a dead end.

pixelation

Have you been able to contact Victim Support? They will make the calls for you and the Police will tell them information they cannot tell you.

Caroline_a

I would suggest if this happens to you again, hit your horn and keep your hand on it... it will attract people's attention and may prevent him doing anything stupid again.

rpc

Yorkie1 wrote: »

There is no requirement in law for independent witnesses. The medical evidence provides corroboration, although none is required in law.

OP does not say where they are - corroboration IS required under Scots Law.

To the OP - the police are probably busy and keeping you updated won't be high on their prioirty list. It won't be due to a lack of sympathy towards you, they will be busy concentrating on the bad guys! Have you had contact with the DV unit?

Do you have a mobile phone? The next time he starts following you, use it to dial 999. And drive towards the nearest police station (or even a hospital, shopping centre or some other big, busy public place if you don't know the way)

19lottie82

Could you invest in a rape alarm to use, if your ex approaches your car again?

UserName01_2

Caroline_a wrote: »

I would suggest if this happens to you again, hit your horn and keep your hand on it... it will attract people's attention and may prevent him doing anything stupid again.

I thought of that after he drove off. Everything happened so quick and I was in that much shock that I couldn't even remember the new 101 number for the Police.

Hopefully the next time I see him is in court, not behind my car.

Caroline_a

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, eh? I'm sure that he will be locked up but in the meantime could you take out an injunction to stop him coming anywhere near you? I have no experience of such things, but I'm sure a good lawyer would sort it for you.

sassyblue

What about Womens Aid? They would hopefully be a help. It's terrible you have lost your confidence because of him.

Stay strong OP and keep calm when his ugly mug appears, there's safety in people so make sure you stay put if you're in a busy street.

xxx

jen007

UserName01 wrote: »

I thought of that after he drove off. Everything happened so quick and I was in that much shock that I couldn't even remember the new 101 number for the Police.

Hopefully the next time I see him is in court, not behind my car.

Yep, if it happens again and you're in an area you don't know, do not dial 999. Dial 101. When I go hacking out on my horse this is the number which I would use as they can directly find you via your mobile, where as 999 need to contact your mobile operator. (random bit of information but it could come in handy for me if i'm ever up the Moors and in trouble with my horse)


At least this is what i'm told and what is circulating my local horsey world

UserName01_2

A neighbour asked why I didn't dial 999. To me it wasn't serious enough, it wasnt an emergency and he drove off so the crime wouldn't have been happening when I phoned. 101 was the number I needed but I couldn't remember it with being in that much shock. I also wanted to get away from the scene and find a place of safety, either the police station or home which is what I done. I couldn't have waited at the scene for 5 hours.

Anyone know what will happen regarding the police. Are they likely to update me with details (this week) if he has been charged or will the next thing I hear be a date to attend court if it goes that far which I am hoping it does.