'supporting each other through really tough times'

fuddle

You leave it there monnagran. Don't ya touch it. It needed saying, you said it and now I hope you feel a little bit better.

Aw gawd (sorry) or as Eldest DD would say 'oh poop, you need a scoop'

It isn't good when my rocks quiver but quiver you shall. Hey, Monna, you're only human. Think of this and have a laugh 'don't you just wish the people who drain the life out of you would take some fat with 'em too?!'

katholicos

Monnagran, i empathise with you. (((Hugs)))

Cheapskate

Oh monnagran, have a dodgy hug, hun! :grouphug: It's NOT selfish at all to think as you do. I have similar thoughts about my older 2 children for lots of reasons (including but not limited to lying, verbal bullying, severe money problems, relationship issues....!) so know exactly what you mean. I used to get so upset and guilty about feeling that way, and it's taken about a decade to realise it's not me at fault, but them, and we've bent over backwards to help so many times.
You are NOT despicable, and we all love you, you always come across as so good to the less fortunate in your community, and have a good sense of humour and compassion. None of us has a perfect family, so please don't beat yourself up - I did that for years and it's contributed in a major way to my current mental un-wellbeing!

Sorry to waffle, dunno if it's helped, but keep posting even if it's just to let off steam! Chin up, love.

A xo

fuddle

Lyn I'll be asking you all more cookery tips! I only know how to make a few OS meals well.

If anything I should feel worthwhile. It'll do me good. I just wish I had the first few days over with and settled.

elona

Monnagran

You need to put yourself first or you can't help anyone else and you do not need the drama or anything else.

Nasty side of me wonders if you replied what a wonderful idea, how you needed his help and support, how many things he could be involved in when he moves etc etc. - then you would not see him for dust.

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MONNAGRAN - the solution that offers itself to me would be for your DS and the others who ended up injured to insist that the council removed the new neighbours tout suite!!! If they were moved in next door I assume it is because of just such an incident in thier past tennancy, and it is not unreasonable to insist on thier removal now. If you could suggest this to your DS along with the idea that 'why should he move because of thier actions', it might just get you off the hook!!! Forgive me for being devious I have your interests at heart here, Cheers Lyn xxx.

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FUDDLE you feel free to ask me anything you need to know lovie, I'll always help if I can, Cheers Lyn xxx.

kidcat

Monnagran ((hugs)) I think you may need to do a little digging and find out who your DS should complain to and what the housing officer can do then drag your DS along to get it sorted. Realistically why should he move because of this - its not on.

If that doesnt work I like the other idea of relating to him all the many things you will have him doing for you and how you would appreciate his being at your beck and call 24/7.

Possession

Also Monnogran you can't have him turning up there because of the vicar etc etc, and you're committed to the homeless activities. And if he does come he'll need to make himself useful etc etc. Sorry he was injured though.

JellyBox

Gosh, Monnagran, what a horrible situation to be in. I can't offer any helpful advice, but just sending hope that there is a resolution to be had.