'supporting each other through really tough times'

katieowl_2

mcculloch29 wrote: »

Finally if you want something very beautiful to listen to, check out this link. It's the late John Wright who was a regular at Pops' and my live music club. John died five years ago today, five weeks after his marriage.
He had the best voice I've ever heard live, nobody could put a song across like John.
The song is Beth Nielsen Chapman's "Sand & Water" and the lyrics are rather appropriate, given what I've said above.

Sand and water was the song I chose for my friend Hilda's funeral not a dry eye in the house. I tried to organise DD playing it (it was during her year abroad - she was in Russia) but we had to make do with Beth, due to time constraints.

Kate

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Kidcat - sending you hugs. MrsL Your thoughts for Kidcat were put so eloquently - I'm certain everyone here agrees with your post - thank you
Why do funerals seem to bring out the worst in some people? DH is the eldest of 6 and when darling MiL died his brothers & sisters wanted him to arrange everything (even though we live the farthest away) & then proceeded to b**ch about the arrangements - aaargh. They soon shut up though 'cos I did the probate & they all thought MiL had no assets but when they got their cheques - not a peep.
I havn't heard 'Sand & Water' but the Beth Nielsen Chapman track that she wrote for Calender Girls always reminds me of my Mum & makes me cry - I think its called 'I See Your Face'
Monagran Oh I can totally relate to your 'mousie' incident - I really laughed at that - brilliant!
KatieI'm sure if you have a troll round you'll be able to get something much cheaper - good luck

nuttyp

All this talk of funerals reminds of when my dad dies, my mums family were at the wake commenting on the amount of cruises my mum and dad were fortunate to go on. They even asked how much the one was that was unfortunatly the last they could go on together. FTI it was around £40 thousand for the total of 8 holidays. Money well spent i say, they deserved all of them and many more.

I chose a wreath for my dads funeral it had a fork, trowel and a potatoes, carrots, spring onions one primula plant. All attached to a wreath. My brother was horrified, i still remember saying it was stupid. That night i cried, but the next day it was the talk of the funeral. My dad was a farmer, though and through. So when other farmers asked to take a photo, as it made them smile. So there you go, not everything should be just so, different is often better. So im sat here looking at the photo of my dads wreath and through tears i am smiling, because my ddad would have been too.

Take care veryone x

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NUTTY I love the sound of the wreath you had made for your Dad, it is absolutely perfect for someone who loved his garden and veg patch, I just hope when it's our turn to pass someone who knows what we love and care about sends an exact copy to me!!! I think that is really beautiful and thoughtful in a way that just picking flowers isn't, I'll bet your Dad loved it and is still giggling to this day, Well done you!!!! Cheers Lyn xxx.

nuttyp

thankyou MRSL, i know deep down my dad was laughing at me.I was never the normal child!!!! It made my girls smile, and DD fiance and his parents ( our inlaws are lovely, be go on holiday together!!) were there. Theey were the best support ever, and they even took aphoto to show people 'somethign different'. Dad liked flowers but veg were his speciality at growing. On a strange note, the year before he died my dad found on the roadside a rosebush, that had fallen from a trailer going out of a field. He planted it, but came to nothing while he was alive. The summer after he died, it had the most amazing flowers on it, my dad would have been amazed. And they were very fragrant.

Must get my self in gear, work is beconning me. Take care, will pop in late tonight. x

Molly41

elizabunny wrote: »

Morning all!:)


Bit chilly here this morning. Decided to wash the dog blankets and pop them out for a while on the line. I don't know about anyone else with pets, but I seem to spend nearly two hours every morning just getting them sorted out -it's just like having children.

Mine hate having their blankets washed and become most disgruntled and look disgustedly:eek

Kidcat:
I could not attend my Grandmother's funeral and sat in my local church remembering her at the time of her funeral. A very kind vicar noticed and came and sat with me and we spoke the words of the funeral service and lit a candle. It was very comforting.

People behave very differently when in pain as I leant to my cost. My advice would be to keep a dignified and low profile and remember your uncle in your way.

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NUTTY perhaps that is your Dads way of saying thank you for giving him such an individual send off present?

ginnyknit

nuttyp that wreath sounds exactly perfect and I agree your dad would have loved it. Its often the personal details that are the best.

Im just having a fight with my bank, they sent my account to the collections department today - for no reason at all:mad::mad: I actually got through to someone on the phone with a brain and have been put through to complaints :eek: I am shaking with anger. Of course its my respite day, the first one in months and its ruined. This is the second time they have cocked up and its simply because I am 3rd party on my Hubby's account. Just got off the phone and they are launching an investigation as its serious when something happens like this twice :mad:

Right am off to kick something!

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GINNY don't hurt your foot!!!!!! Take a deep breath and have a quiet 5 minutes before you hurt yourself, please? Grrrrrrrrrrrr on your behalf, the faceless and anonymous people in banking seem oblivious to the fact that they are dealing with real peoples lives, I hope someone is held culpable for this, first time you can call a mistake, second time can only be called incompetence, I hope they sort it out very,very quickly and then you can relax, Hugs in the meantime anna grate byg SSSSSLLUUUUUURRRRPPPPPPPPPP!!!!! from Docky xxx.

kidcat

Thank you all so much - had a few more calls today and I am just sticking to the I do not wish to talk about it line - eventually she gives up and goes away.

Ginny- contact the ombudsman too, once is too many times and not acceptable and the fact you have lost your respite day is absolutely to much. Demand a payment for the cost of another respite day.

My friends from group took me to breakfast this morning which I really needed I think, and I was finally able to find a new handbag too - although am still reeling from the price - I usually pay £5 but in the last six months I have had 4 bags, today I have paid £20 and it better last a year for that price

Tried to book flowers to have sent to the funeral but cant get the design I want so am going to have to make a few more calls.