'supporting each other through really tough times'

ginnyknit

Pooky, I adore your cats but Tallulah has stolen my heart, she is so beautiful.

Thrifty :T:T:T on Oh's new job, thats fab x

Craigywv, Docky is so clever he actually gave me medical advice on my sciatica, I know its frowned upon at MSE but the boy cannot help it and it was good advice, rolling in the mud in the back garden really eased the pain :rotfl: But he never sends me e.bikkits

My DGs shouted 'Manma' (grandma) last night and I cried, he stopped speaking much a while ago and is being a bit more generous this week - he used to say ' I want my manma' when things werent going his way. We are all working hard to encourage him to speak more and its obviously working. he said Thank you to his grandad today too.

Mardatha walk away from the turkish delight....

I wish there was a smiley for a raspberry!

mardatha

I think I want some!
I have a problem and I not sure what to do. One of my neighbours is on his own, his wife left him a couple of years ago. He's a lovely gentle cultured man, was a cancer research scientist but was in a car accident that triggered epilepsy. Had to stop work, started to drink, and life went gradually downhill. Was recently diagnosed diabetic and started to have a lot of falls. I think he isn't eating properly and thats causing it. We keep an eye on him and he's now got a Care Alarm thingy linked to our phone.
But the problem is that twice in a week his smoke alarm has gone off and hubby has found him in a smoke filled house fast asleep with the frying pan on the stove. Then last week his car had a rear wing all bashed & scraped. So he's now getting to the stage where he might endanger himself or others, and I'm wondering what we should do about it, if anything... What do you all think?

meme30

ginnyknit wrote: »

Pooky, I adore your cats but Tallulah has stolen my heart, she is so beautiful.

Thrifty :T:T:T on Oh's new job, thats fab x

Craigywv, Docky is so clever he actually gave me medical advice on my sciatica, I know its frowned upon at MSE but the boy cannot help it and it was good advice, rolling in the mud in the back garden really eased the pain :rotfl: But he never sends me e.bikkits

My DGs shouted 'Manma' (grandma) last night and I cried, he stopped speaking much a while ago and is being a bit more generous this week - he used to say ' I want my manma' when things werent going his way. We are all working hard to encourage him to speak more and its obviously working. he said Thank you to his grandad today too.

Mardatha walk away from the turkish delight....

I wish there was a smiley for a raspberry!

Ginnyknit:- Your story about your DGs made my heart swell, how lovely for you. It's the small things that are so precious aren't they?

Cheapskate

mar, what a lovely neighbour you are! Do you think it may be just lack of food causing the falls, car bumps, etc., or could there be something else going on? Maybe early stages of dementia, or mini strokes causing the falls? Only speaking from experience, though, older members of our family have had similar. Do you have contact with his family or GP, whom you could ask for advice, or Age UK? Would your neighbour be cross/upset/embarrassed if you spoke to him or others about him?

We only realised how bad my grandma was with her dementia thanks to a nice neighbour who spotted her wandering and brought her home, then rang my mum - I'd be relieved if someone did the same for me or mine.

HTH

A xo

Pooky

Ginny - yay for your DGS :T As for Lulah, she's stunning and knows it. She's almost identical to one of our other cats, George, another long haired fluff ball....I do love them fluffy (oh er missus)

Nargle - that cakes sounds immense!

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Anty Ginny Iza sori vat Ize neva sendid yew er E bikkit, cos yew iz mine frend, so ize sendin yew a hole pakit of vem, wot iz lyke likkle bonzes cos veyz mine favritz!!! Mumi sez vat messij bout yer likkle DGS isz makin hur kry coz iz sew luvli - Luv frum yer frend Docky xxxxx.

craigywv

ginnyknit wrote: »

Pooky, I adore your cats but Tallulah has stolen my heart, she is so beautiful.

Thrifty :T:T:T on Oh's new job, thats fab x

Craigywv, Docky is so clever he actually gave me medical advice on my sciatica, I know its frowned upon at MSE but the boy cannot help it and it was good advice, rolling in the mud in the back garden really eased the pain :rotfl: But he never sends me e.bikkits

My DGs shouted 'Manma' (grandma) last night and I cried, he stopped speaking much a while ago and is being a bit more generous this week - he used to say ' I want my manma' when things werent going his way. We are all working hard to encourage him to speak more and its obviously working. he said Thank you to his grandad today too.

Mardatha walk away from the turkish delight....

I wish there was a smiley for a raspberry!

aaah thats lovely xxxx just had visions of you or what i think looks like you rolling in the mud............hilarious!!!!!!!

shegar

mardatha wrote: »

I think I want some!
I have a problem and I not sure what to do. One of my neighbours is on his own, his wife left him a couple of years ago. He's a lovely gentle cultured man, was a cancer research scientist but was in a car accident that triggered epilepsy. Had to stop work, started to drink, and life went gradually downhill. Was recently diagnosed diabetic and started to have a lot of falls. I think he isn't eating properly and thats causing it. We keep an eye on him and he's now got a Care Alarm thingy linked to our phone.
But the problem is that twice in a week his smoke alarm has gone off and hubby has found him in a smoke filled house fast asleep with the frying pan on the stove. Then last week his car had a rear wing all bashed & scraped. So he's now getting to the stage where he might endanger himself or others, and I'm wondering what we should do about it, if anything... What do you all think?

Get social services involved and stand back, otherwise they will expect you to keep looking after him, seen that happen about here twice this year already, and its dam hard looking after ill house bound folks...........Espeically when your not related to them........

thriftyniftyme

Mardatha, epilepsy can cause behaviour not unlike drunkenness. I wonder if his epilepsy might be the problem? I am surprised he is even allowed to drive if he is epileptic as well. Also, epilepsy and diabetes can each make the other worse, so it could be a combination of them, or the meds.
I'm not sure what the solution is, though, regardless of the cause. Could you speak to social services? If they're not the right people they might be able to point you in the right direction?

Edited to add: Oops sorry post crossed with Shegar's. I take too long to write!

Possession

unixgirluk wrote: »

If she makes a smart comment again say "really? Funny that i support my local charity shop as its a worthwhile cause and big retailers like M&S, Debenhams, Tesco, Principles donate stock (new by the way) to help stock these shops"...... honestly watch her face fall. I worked in a big name CS for nearly a year in total and we got brand new stuff in from all the big shops as well as donated items.

I remember when I was at primary school (my dad was deputy head and my mum reception teacher) they would get in LOADS of seconds, mostly from C&A. We were allowed to buy stuff for pennies really, and the money went to charity. All this kind of stuff goes straight to the charities now.

Nargle - that's got to be some impressive cake!