'supporting each other through really tough times'

fuddle

Cheaps you know where I am if you need a shoulder to cry on re: your families finances. I got a t-shirt that'll fit. There's not a lot I don't know unfortunately.

Give me a shout, don't struggle with it on your own x

shelley_crow

Angel_Jenny wrote: »

This thread moves way too fast for me! I only read it yesterday tea time and there are pages and pages more now!

Chilly here! Off out for tea for a birthday meal tonight - looking forward to that although one of the ladies going really hates me so I will be walking on eggshells! Even though she has been retired for 2 years so we rarely see each other she is still awful to me.

Little things just seem to be getting to me at the moment. I am just so over sensitive. I bought a top at a charity shop (I like buying clothes there or on eBay as I can't afford to spend much) and when asked about it at work was honest about where it came from. This lead to dig after dig from another lady about dirty clothes and how she would NEVER EVER consider wearing second hand clothes. She is on more than double what I earn and her husband has a really well paid job.
Things like that just upset me. I am not well off nor am I counting every penny but it bothers me when people make snap judgements about people who do shop in charity shops.

:rotfl: I must be super ratty today! Off to go make a birthday card and figure out how to wrap a candle!

I know it's hard but don't take her !!!!!iness to heart. Some people will find any number of silly things to pick on. The self righteous normally have further to fall. How about, 'Well i would never waste x amount of money on x thing, i suppose it shows how different peoples priorities are'.

missrlr

Angel_Jenny wrote: »

This thread moves way too fast for me! I only read it yesterday tea time and there are pages and pages more now!

Chilly here! Off out for tea for a birthday meal tonight - looking forward to that although one of the ladies going really hates me so I will be walking on eggshells! Even though she has been retired for 2 years so we rarely see each other she is still awful to me.

Little things just seem to be getting to me at the moment. I am just so over sensitive. I bought a top at a charity shop (I like buying clothes there or on eBay as I can't afford to spend much) and when asked about it at work was honest about where it came from. This lead to dig after dig from another lady about dirty clothes and how she would NEVER EVER consider wearing second hand clothes. She is on more than double what I earn and her husband has a really well paid job.

Things like that just upset me. I am not well off nor am I counting every penny but it bothers me when people make snap judgements about people who do shop in charity shops.

:rotfl: I must be super ratty today! Off to go make a birthday card and figure out how to wrap a candle!

I always just say the brand name e.g. Jaeger M&S so on. Stops the assumptions which as we all know are the mother of all whatsits ...
Some people are just worried you will catch them out shopping there too, bit like L1dl or @ ld1 shopping used to be taboo

Usually such people can e considered oxygen thieves :cool:

maryb

Redruby, yes it is sad when there is a spat but it will blow over. I'm really not sure why you say it was not unexpected. If you do lurk regularly you must have seen that this is one of the kindest threads.

redruby

mardatha wrote: »

Not seen you posting before, redruby ? Are you new?

No not new, been lurking for ages, would it matter if I was though ? I thought anyone could post, perhaps I am mistaken ?

savingqueen

Hello all,

I am been reading all the posts today concerning the online bickering. I have tried really hard to bit my tongue and not comment at all at the risk of inflaming things but I'm sorry I can't.

I feel very, very upset reading what I have. No one on this thread or anywhere else - myself definitely included - are perfect. We all have different personalities, different backgrounds and experiences, different strengths and weakness but we are all essentially the same - human beings with our good and bad sides trying to cope with what life throws at us. Yes we all get things wrong, say things we didn't mean or with the wrong words, yes some of us moan, some of us say things about subjects we don't understand, some of us inadvertendly take our own problems out on others. All of us on here though have said things to help others, to support, to empathise, to advise, to comfort, to inform.

I have to totally agree what a couple of sensible posters have said (sorry forgotten names now) - please please lets at least forgive if we can't forget, lets not get bogged down with the petty and lets "support each other through really tough times". I do not come on here to read through pages of other's people's arguements - personal comments of that nature should be confined to personal messages - though I would not want to be on the receiving end of any so I will not send any myself whatever I think, I will keep it to myself. To me it sounds like some posters are trying to score points when really they are probably just having a hard time. Letsbe kind to ourselves and to each other as best we can.

I think I will bail out for a while, maybe just lurk a bit but not post. I hope everyone - each and every one of you are feeling ok. I will be thinking of you all.

take care
sq:)

fuddle

Please, don't. It's a sad day and I'm one of the ones to blame. I am so sorry for turning this thread into an unpleasant place to be today. I should never have gotten drawn in. I'm thoroughly upset with myself, more than any of you could be, and annoyed that I have let myself down in front of people whom I look up to and admire.

[Deleted User]

redruby wrote: »

No not new, been lurking for ages, would it matter if I wsa though ? I thought anyone could post, perhaps I am mistaken ?

Oh I would LOVE to see you post, it all helps when people add something positive to the thread. We all, well almost all, have something that we can share with others. Something that will help lighten the load

thriftyniftyme

Jenny I know it's hard but try to ignore her. She is probably jealous and insecure. There's a saying - I would rather you laugh at my economies than weep at my extravagance. If she really cares that much about what you wear and where you get it she obviously has huge issues!
I get a lot of ribbing at work about my outfits, most good-natured, some not quite so. I have a few retorts, some of which are also more good natured than others:
1) do you really think that outfit you bought was new? Do you not think twenty sweaty ladies might have tried it on before you bought it? I hope you washed it before you wore it the first time...
2) Ah well, first time it goes through the washing it becomes second hand anyway
3) Well, if you put all my clothes side by side how would you know which I'd got new and which was second hand (trick question! Only new stuff I own is bras, knickers and tights!)
4) I've got far more important things to do with my money than waste them on a bit of fabric and a few buttons!

I've got a gorgeous LK Bennett dress from a CS. One of my colleagues told me I should just pretend I bought it new. I told her I am not ashamed to by second hand, but if I had wasted £200 on a dress without getting married in it, I should be disgusted at my wastefulness.

Uniscots97

Angel_Jenny wrote: »

Little things just seem to be getting to me at the moment. I am just so over sensitive. I bought a top at a charity shop (I like buying clothes there or on eBay as I can't afford to spend much) and when asked about it at work was honest about where it came from. This lead to dig after dig from another lady about dirty clothes and how she would NEVER EVER consider wearing second hand clothes. She is on more than double what I earn and her husband has a really well paid job.

Things like that just upset me. I am not well off nor am I counting every penny but it bothers me when people make snap judgements about people who do shop in charity shops.

:rotfl: I must be super ratty today! Off to go make a birthday card and figure out how to wrap a candle!

If she makes a smart comment again say "really? Funny that i support my local charity shop as its a worthwhile cause and big retailers like M&S, Debenhams, Tesco, Principles donate stock (new by the way) to help stock these shops"...... honestly watch her face fall. I worked in a big name CS for nearly a year in total and we got brand new stuff in from all the big shops as well as donated items.