'supporting each other through really tough times'

Molly41

katieowl wrote: »

Well I thought I pulled yet another rabbit from the dwindling hat, by conjuring up a pretty fine dinner, using what was knocking about in the fridge veg wise, and making some cheese and olive scones as there was no potatoes, thereby not driving to town and going shopping when I didn't need to, and what do I get, do I get thank you, nope I get this piece of aubergine is really hard...poke poke. Never mind that every OTHER piece of aubergine is cooked, or that the rest of the plate is tasty...

I really despair sometimes! The odd kind word would go a long way ....He's too bl**dy used to being well fed. It makes me so angry, because some days it's a really a struggle and there is never a thank you :mad: Venting here cos' if I do it on FB the kids will see it!

Kate

When my eldest son was about 16 I placed a perfectly adequate meal in front of him. He exclaimed that it looked liked muck.....the table fell silent - all my other 3 were eating it.....I got the tomato sauce bottle and squeezed it over his head and all over his meal. The kids eyes were like saucers and my husband burst out laughing. Oldest DS fled up the stairs mortified. Never, ever has one of my kids moaned again.

There was also the time when said son was stropping around (age 13 I think) and he kicked my beloved dog - only lightly but he was doing it deliberately. My God the mists descended and somehow I manhandled this 6ft youth out of my house into the pouring rain and locked the door on him. He had to sit in the garage for four hours until his father came home and let him in (Again 3 kids peering over the bannisters with saucer eyes). That was the one and only time and my eldest son is still ashamed of his actions to this very day.

Sometimes you have to bring out the big guns to solve a problem!

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KIDCAT I'm so very,very glad that you got to see your uncle,well done and bless you for making him smile and feel peaceful, difficult times, but not as difficult now for you as they might have been. I hope his son arrives in time to have some time with him too. Thinking of you all, Lyn xxx.

sevenup01

Good morning all and thank you for the giggles over the meal time mishaps!
KIdcat i am really pleased you got to see your uncle and even better that your visit ended with a smile. I hope he is able to hang on for his son.
I have just hung out eldest daughters laundry that was left in my washing machine overnight. Hopefully it will dry but if not she has a clothes horse to put it on when she comes to get it. I have 3 loads and possibly 4 depending how much the children are hoarding in their bedrooms.
One set is my bedding that i only put on fresh yesterday and youngest decided to coat with WD40 last night. I think she thought it was room freshener or something?
Does anyone have any ideas for getting it off my velour fabric headboard please? It reeks of the stuff and i have woken with a headache from it.

SDG31000

Morning all

kidcat I am so glad that you got to see your Uncle. My thoughts are with you and the rest of the family.

Katieowl I know exactly how you feel. I finished work on Friday and had no idea what to make for dinner, so I phoned DH and DS1 and DS2. When asked what they wanted their responses were "I don't know" I was tired and dizzy and fed up, so just came home. I told them that as they didn't know what they wanted to eat and not one of them could be bothered to think of anything they were on their own. Queue them following me into the kitchen when I started making food for myself and my ending up cooking chick pea curry for 4. To say I was fuming at the end of it was an understatement. Like your OH my lot are used to being fed good food and take it for granted, which makes me feel completely unappreciated.

Heavenleigh (Hope I spelt that right) I hope your DS is feeling better and that the headmaster has taken notice.

As I have mentioned before my black dog is very close at hand and I haven't been feeling good at all. We were meant to be going down to visit my DPIL this weekend, but my DSIL isn't well and is staying with them instead. I'm sorry that she is ill and really hope she recovers quickly, but I needed this weekend away. I needed someone else cooking for me or helping me to cook and someone just thinking I looked tired and making me a cup of tea. I know I sound selfish, but I was counting on this to keep going for a while longer. DH cooked me packet tortellini with jarred pasta sauce yesterday lunchtime and DS2 made chinese dumplings for dinner, but he underestimated the number of wrappers in the packet, so I was making and frying turkey spring rolls at 9.30pm. I've come downstairs this morning and the kitchen was chaos. Plates, dishes, paper towels everywhere, the dishwasher hadn't been put on and the washing up was still sitting there. I could sit and cry.
At some point the rest of the family will surface and I'll cook roast chicken for lunch or dinner. I also need to make a birthday cake to take into work tomorrow. I got a silicon flower mould from Lidl yesterday, so might make a cake in that to try it out. I'm not sure what sort yet.

That's enough whining from me.

Take care everyone xxxx

kidcat

Oh SDG ((hugs)) its not selfish at all, you sound like you really needed the break, I am sure we can all appreciate that. I do hope you can get a small break soon.

elona

SDG

Go out for the day or at least for the morning and some of the afternoon.

Leave a note saying you need a break and that if you come home to a tidy clean kitchen with washing up done and have some help then you will make a meal - if not you will go out again!

You sound close to breaking point so please give yourself a break.

mardatha

Go to somehwere lovely like a museum with a tea room xxx pet

shegar

katieowl wrote: »

Kate

That caption is so funny its really made me smile this morning..:D:D...Little things and all that spring to mind.......:)

Had a frost last night , got a thin layer on the birds baths, and tiny bit on the pond, ive just put the pumps on the pond to circulate a bit of water...........Its very cold , windy , and sunny..., did notice some lovely new leaves trying to open on the rose bushes, also have plenty primroses in flower and the wallflowers now have buds , sure sign of spring not too far away.........

Im really hoping and praying for some frogspawn in my pond, its a wildlife pond , about 12 x 12,I havent got any fish so I do stand more of a chance of the frogspawn staying there .............Also got plenty of newts so id like them to spawn too........

The birds in the garden are looking into all the nesting boxes, which is lovely to see, hopefully they will again this year take up residence...........Off to get some milk before more jobs need doing....Sheila

sevenup01

(((hugs))) SDG. That is awful and your family should be taking more care of you. Please dont clean up after them - its their mess and they need to deal with it not you! xxx

Cheapskate

Re the meal mishaps, I remember one Christmas when I'd have been about 10 and my sisters 9 and 7. We'd spent much of the day in petty arguing and my mum was fed up of it. She went to heat up a few mince pies for after lunch, came back in the room to us still at it, and proceeded to throw them at us, one by one, with brilliant accuracy! :rotfl: This from a very calm, patient lady who never swore and rarely smacked us or got properly cross! Needless to say, we tiptoes around for the rest of the day, washed up without being asked and generally were little mice, at least that day.

(((SDG and others with the black dog))) - I'm so with you, feel much the same most of the time - keep moaning to us, hun, we all take turns in moaning and supporting, your turn for lots of hugs!

A xo