'supporting each other through really tough times'

westcoastscot

Ok some insightful posts here - I wouldn't have called it an attack, more a statement of my opinion.
My only mistake is in not just walking away,since by staying I feel I am condoning behaviour and opinion that I find offensive.
Honestly didn't wish to make others feel uncomfortable or unwelcome; no-one has to justify their lifestyle, but neither should they continue to complain if they ask for and receive advice which they then chose to ignore.
I never implied that one individual is responsible for all the injustice in the world - not sure where that came from.

Going over this is obviously making some regular posters feel unwelcome and insecure, so I shall not post again, and am perfectly content with that.
SQ and Softstuff I agree with the sentiment of your posts, and since I don't feel able to offer support to a particular poster who is very prolific and much quoted, then I shall vote with my feet as I have no wish to discourage others from posting.

Right, I'm going to go and tidy up the garden ahead of planting time.

WCS

lyrolee

fuddle wrote: »

There's absolutely no reason for anyone to leave. I knew I was in the wrong typing what I did this morning and that was why it was gone quick sharpish. No-one would have been any the wiser had it not been quoted.

I have to say that what I wrote this morning was not nasty, was not childish and I was not being petulant. It was surmising, guessing what someone's intentions were and I had no right to do that I was very much in the wrong. I didn't want to cause this ruckus which is why it was gone.

It's also why I said I am having a few days break because I was beginning to feel the anger emotions regarding what I was reading and I knew I was getting all het up. I don't want to be falling out with people on here and I don't want to rail road the thread again. I need to remove myself from it and not get involved no matter how much I don't agree or do agree with people.

I found out that to put the girls in childcare before and after school while I am at work will cost me £38 per day term time... I would only earn £43. I cannot go for that job or any other job that offers minimum wage or just above. I'm upset and I'm angry. Sometimes it doesn't matter how hard you try, how determined you are in life to make it on your own you just can't and it's frustrating and upsetting. Like I say I'm emotional but that doesn't excuse rudeness. I just wish no one had seen it but I did press submit and I do have to take responsibility for that.

Fuddle, surely you would get the chilcare element of tax credits towards this. I think it is about 70% of your fees.

fuddle

Childcare element? So tax credits pay a proportion of your fees? I'll look into that, thank you!

Byatt

juliettet wrote: »

Byatt, I used to work for a water company and they have huge pipe cut offs. Even if you approach workmen laying or repairing new pipes the might give you offcuts. They will think you are nuts but aren't we all![/QUOTE)


Ohhh, thank you, what a brill idea :T, will it be stalkerish for me to start roaming the streets for workmen?

RAS

fuddle wrote: »

Childcare element? So tax credits pay a proportion of your fees? I'll look into that, thank you!

They should pay a percentage (I think upto 85% up to a maximum amount) of childcare costs as long as you use a registered child minding service

Byatt

Just found this for SW water people...http://www.defra.gov.uk/news/2012/11/27/south-west-water-bills/

Also a reminder that power companies may have in place a scheme for those in "fuel poverty", always worth checking as if you use more than 10% (?) of your income on fuel they may give a reduction...plus of course the £130 for those on certain benefits. I'm with ED£ and on their energy assist tariff.

Popperwell

I don't know whether to comment. If I do I may inflame matters, if I don't it looks wrong too...

Lots of assumptions about me(mainly wrong)I like Meme30's take on me. That brought a smile to my face. I've never ignored advice or the support given. Its all taken on board. I'm not complaining...heck there are plenty on here with problems of their own(as great or more so than me)but I try not to judge or assume things about others as I know only too well, I will probably be wrong. I don't see my situation as suffering either. It is the hand that I have been dealt and in time hopefully things will not be as bad as feared or I can make it better in some way.

I am to some extent in limbo not quite knowing where I am or will be and that will become clearer in the next few months. I'll take criticism but equally don't like seemingly having to defend myself and so usually don't or do so...just a little bit.

Nor do I expect to be liked by everyone...but I do follow the adage(sp?)"Walk in someone elses shoes!" I seem to cause reactions without meaning to. Well either way I guess I am noticed and not ignored though it looks as though I am going to be by some.

I am doing all I can not to be an Alistair Sim(I wonder how many remember or know him:rotfl:)and I wish I was a Brad Pitt:p

I think the worst insult is being told that "I am offensive" but saying that gives that person perhaps satisfaction that they have got to me.

It hurts because I have cared and helped many over the years(family, friends)and done lots of voluntary work too. I avoid arguements and would walk away rather than engage and fuel things further. I don't want praise but am a sensitive person. I don't intend to cause such a negative reaction.

But I am big enough to take it(I hope)and move on...

[Deleted User]

Hey guys, what makes us a strong community is more the differences we have than the samenesses. Please don't anyone feel they are not able to comment freely, for heavens sake we are all entitled to an opinion, we don't all have to agree every time comment is passed that is not how life and people works. There are however ways of saying you don't agree that are not upsetting and hurtful and I don't for a second think anyone either posting or commenting on posts sets out deliberately to cause friction. We are all individuals, with different experiences that colour who we are and how we think and react. Please, just keep reading and post when you want to, no one should feel hounded out for passing honest comment, we need you ALL!!!!!!! You are my friends each and every one of you and I care that you stay here and continue to be so, you are part of life and I need you all, be happy, please stay, Cheers Lyn xxx.

nuatha

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

Hey guys, what makes us a strong community is more the differences we have than the samenesses. Please don't anyone feel they are not able to comment freely, for heavens sake we are all entitled to an opinion, we don't all have to agree every time comment is passed that is not how life and people works. There are however ways of saying you don't agree that are not upsetting and hurtful and I don't for a second think anyone either posting or commenting on posts sets out deliberately to cause friction. We are all individuals, with different experiences that colour who we are and how we think and react. Please, just keep reading and post when you want to, no one should feel hounded out for passing honest comment, we need you ALL!!!!!!! You are my friends each and every one of you and I care that you stay here and continue to be so, you are part of life and I need you all, be happy, please stay, Cheers Lyn xxx.

Very well said.

katieowl_2

Blast. I got back from town, and the yellow ball has entirely vanished...it's now freezing, with sideways rain and screaming wind. Please will someone return yellow ball immediately as Roxie wants a walkie. (They won't go out in this - even if I get them in the car they won't get out!) They are being really naughty because they are bored. I better get some treats out.

My tattoo is done survived - like a big girl - I'm far too old to regret anything like that now! I do like a bit of meaningful ink. Didn't tell OH or DS - wonder if either of them will notice. I doubt OH will. Like a lot of people here it seems that these days we merely live in the same house. Sad, but wasn't my choice. I want more from a relationship than he's prepared to give.

My Book People package came today, that was quick! So now to get to grips with a hairy diet, and a bit of home smoking. I've had a go before, and I loved the results. If we have a bit more Yellow Ball I could really get into it - not good for the hairy diet though I'm sure.

Play nicely please peeps...there's too much trouble in the world, and I come online to get away from it all. It seems to me that lots of communication things are going mammary glands up at the moment, not just here, but on other forums and in RL too. Probably Aries retrograde, in conjunction with Uranus or something.

My online life is what keeps me sane - well what passes for sane anyway if no-one tells my secrets.

Kate X