'supporting each other through really tough times'

stiltwalker

Happy Birthday Rosie - Hope you have a good one.

Had the lovely chap come to do the special needs buggy assessement this morning - it's huge!!!! but will be so much easier to use and so much better for the kids. Filled in the online application for funding from a local charity for it as soon as chappy had gone, there is no way we can afford it. I'd psyked myself up for it to be expensive before he came but it managed to be even more expensive than I'd bargained for - nearly 3 grand!!!!! Good job I was sitting down is all I can say.

boultdj

Glad your feel better today savingqueen, and I know with what me and my freind's have gone through, that it is important to keep in touch, how we do it is by going out for meal's for birthday's,xmas and chiness new year, because the date's are known we can save up for them, but if something come's up and we can't aford to go then that OK, cause it's only another couple of month's till it's some one else's birthday, that way if we all do manage to get together it mega party time, and if there's only a few of us it's quiter.


Heavenleigh, how you multi quote, next to the quote button at the bottom of the post is 2 speach bubble's, you press that,then go on to the next post you want to quote and the go to the post reply button. The most you can qoute in 1 post is 3 diffrent one's hth.

Molly41

meme30 wrote: »

Help
The children's school has asked parents to cook cakes for Comic Relief and they will sell slices to raise money. Now, I have a thing in my head that tells me I cannot make sponge cakes! Not at all!:(
I cook everything else fine but this is a real brick wall for me. Does anyone have a fool-proof recipe I can try. Bearing in mind this will be fed to live subjects,:rotfl: I will need to practise it a couple of times to make sure it's edible.:D Oh and it has to look funny! A novelty cake! I need to concentrate on not producing a 'brick' first!!

Weigh eggs in shells.
If they weigh say 200 g then weigh up 200g of SR flour,
200g of butter or st0rk,
200g of caster sugar. I also a teaspoon of baking powder to 4 0z of Sr Flour.

I then cream butter and sugar together.
Ads flour and baking powder (sieved) and
crack in eggs - mix until combined.
Put in cases or tins but make sure the tins are big enough to take mixture.
Cook at 170/160 fan.

westcoastscot

Jem apologies, I never intended to make you uncomfortable. I'm going to try again to be more selective in my reading and posting as I really don't want to lose the companionship of the OS board.

savingqueen

We shouldn't all have to agree with each other at all. Heck, much like the average community, we don't even all have to like each other. But surely we can agree to live and let live, ignore if we must, skip posts we can't contribute to and support where we can.

Softstuff wrote: »

I'd been sitting stewing over whether to say anything. Generally when there is a ruckus here I keep my mouth shut, but I regretted that once and feel that if I keep my mouth shut or just continue to post as though it hasn't happened then that would be, for me, as bad as if I posted something negative.

I hope you'll forgive me for meddling in your business Pops or making assumptions about you if they're not true, but the posts I've read against you speak differently about you than how I feel about you and I wanted to post my view, which is contrary to those statements.

The way I see it Pops is a decent chap who has cared for his Mother for many years and doesn't have great health. When his mother passed he's been left in a situation where he's suddenly alone. And this is alone in a way many of us haven't been and would hope not to be. As such, he's trying hard to deal with grief and comes here for comfort and supporting chat. He's occupying his time puzzling over diet, curtains or whatnot, because all of a sudden he has a fair bit of time on his hands to do so and felt he was in a safe comfy place where he could vocalise his puzzling. He's maybe overthinking things, because despite having time he has less energy and physical ability to do other things.

Having too much alone time also means he worries and tries as best he can to assuage those worries by preparing for what he fears might happen any way he can. Just like a lot of us do.

When I see criticism of his heating issue, I worry about him being cold. But at the same time, if I was alone suddenly, after a lifetime of not being, I question would I rather spend the money on being toasty and alone at home, or would I rather spend it on a bus and a beer out in some company, whilst wearing a wooly hat indoors.

I appreciate this isn't necessarily how it is Pops, but it's how I've viewed things, but most of all I've thought that it's up to you what you choose to do and whether or not I agree, or whether or not I think you're doing what I would do, I want you still to get the same love and support we all come here for.

What a well thought out post softstuff. I also agree with what you are saying. Couldn't have put it better myself.

I do not want anyone to leave the forum. I also do not want to listen to nasty comments from anyone about anyone. We all at times, feel annoyed or outraged by others on here and in real life (personally much more so in real life). Sometimes those feelings have real basis but often they are a reflection of our own vulnerabilities and fears. A lot of anger is being expressed and directed to just one person who is not responsible for the injustices of the world in all their shape and form. Whether I choose to spend my spare cash on plastic tat for my children, a worthy charity, save for the future or buy 10 pairs of green shoes will have no direct impact on posters here. I do not expect to have to justify my choices either.

I just don't get the nasty comments on a support forum. I am on the verge of leaving the forum too. We all have enough on our plates to add further upset. I am starting to feel this isn't the right place for me and I don't belong

sq

maryb

DD1 passed her exam:j:j (First of many, unfortunately, she's got another three years of this)

One very relieved mummy - she found out that professional exams are a whole different ballgame to university. Speed and accuracy under time pressure, never mind all that displaying original thought nonsense:rotfl:

Next exam not for another three months and with luck we won't have snow then - surely?

She has taken a real liking to a very expensive ginger beer from Waitrose. She has always loved ginger beer ever since she read the Famous Five as a child! I have made ginger beer before now but it's a bit of a hassle and takes a few days. I'm not organised enough to have a batch on the go before it's needed.

Anyway I looked at the label for this mega expensive ginger beer and realised it's not actually ginger beer, it's ginger cordial mixed up with sparkling spring water.

A quick look on Google and I was amazed at how easy it was to make myself.

the peel of one lemon, no white (easy to do with a potato peeler)
150g sugar
250ml water
2tsp cream of tartar
a 3inch chunk of ginger peeled and finely chopped.

Lob that lot into a saucepan and boil for five minutes. Add the juice from your lemon, bring back to the boil and strain through a J cloth and pour into a sterilised bottle - I used an old wine vinegar bottle. The recipe says it will keep for a couple of weeks in the fridge (if it gets the chance)

I just mixed some up with fizzy water and it's pretty good. The recipe will need tweaking to her taste. I think it will need two lemons and a bit more ginger (it was a thin three inch chunk and maybe should have been a fat one) . That or leave it to infuse for longer before straining.

The ginger cost 15p, the lemon 20p from a street stall 5 for £1, the sugar was 12p by my calculation. Cheapo fizzy water and she can have as much as she likes. ONE bottle of the Waitrose stuff was over £2:eek: For that price difference, it will repay experimenting to get it right

elizabunny

Really heartbreaking story on the news this lunchtime about this bedroom tax. :( It nearly brought me to tears -so sad. I am sorry I do not know about this situation very much, but was shocked when I listened to the news....

Molly41

jem132 wrote: »

I am starting to feel uncomfortable been on this thread with people arguing. Every one has a right to say what they think about things. Some people are childish I would rather not been a part of that, after the last spat I decided I would not use the thanks button as much witch made me feel bad as I don't always post but liked to thank people after reading a helpfully or interesting post. I shall no longer post on this board you have all been I great help to me so thanks for that love and good wishes to all.

Come and join us on the OS daily board. No nastiness or cliques to contend with x

meme30

Heavenliegh:- sorry to hear about your bad start to your day I hope everyting is ok.
WCS:- I don't think you should leave either. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but no one should feel that it's alright to attack someone else.

It has alternately bemused and bewildered me that there has been so much debate about Popperwell's heating.
I can see that the advice is meant well but if someone had started to tell that I had to change things in my house they would have been told where to go! People make their own choices in their behaviour and if someone chooses to live in a cold house it's up to them.
I have to say Popperwell that my image of you is rather like Alistair Sim in A Christmas Carol sitting in bed wearing fingerless gloves burning one piece of coal in the grate!:rotfl: Sorry if you are more like Brad Pitt, please feel free to put me right:)

I understand that people get angry if advice is ignored, as a paid up member of control freaks anonymous i can't tell you how many times I have ground my teeth and threw my toys out of the pram. I understand that we will not all agree about other peoples lifestyles and I think thats fair enough. All I ask is that we are civil.

fuddle

There's absolutely no reason for anyone to leave. I knew I was in the wrong typing what I did this morning and that was why it was gone quick sharpish. No-one would have been any the wiser had it not been quoted.

I have to say that what I wrote this morning was not nasty, was not childish and I was not being petulant. It was surmising, guessing what someone's intentions were and I had no right to do that I was very much in the wrong. I didn't want to cause this ruckus which is why it was gone.

It's also why I said I am having a few days break because I was beginning to feel the anger emotions regarding what I was reading and I knew I was getting all het up. I don't want to be falling out with people on here and I don't want to rail road the thread again. I need to remove myself from it and not get involved no matter how much I don't agree or do agree with people.

I found out that to put the girls in childcare before and after school while I am at work will cost me £38 per day term time... I would only earn £43. I cannot go for that job or any other job that offers minimum wage or just above. I'm upset and I'm angry. Sometimes it doesn't matter how hard you try, how determined you are in life to make it on your own you just can't and it's frustrating and upsetting. Like I say I'm emotional but that doesn't excuse rudeness. I just wish no one had seen it but I did press submit and I do have to take responsibility for that.