'supporting each other through really tough times'

Jennie_2

I'm going to liken you to an onion... in the nicest possible way. Your first post indicated that you didn't have much to worry about really but as we have travelled down the thread and you have peeled back your layers, you've clearly been through a lot, especially with your son. My own daughter was diagnosed as chronically sick six months ago and although outwardly I look to be coping (she needs us to be strong and brave) I am struggling.

You should go and see a doctor, hopefully one at the surgery who is understanding as you do seem to be suffering from anxiety, which can lead to depression.

As you can see from the thread there is lots of support here and if you scratch anyone's surface you'll see we all have our worries and insecurities.

Let us know how you get on.

kezlou

welcome owntoown and middy.

Good luck with the inerviews and tests uni and mrs vp.
Hope something comes up with for mr vp.

We were very naughty last night, i went to my visit friend who i haven't seen for a few months. OH encouraged me to visit her as he knows she won't let me walk or do anything. DS2 went to his friends house to play. OH went to leeds to do some stuff and ds1 was at school.

Lets just say it was 7pm and i was so exhausted, i had walked from my other friends house, school, home and then 1/2 mile to pick ds2 up. DS1 said man shall we go to the chip shop for tea. So we were very naughty and spent £6 on the three of us for tea. Worst thing was it was foul, ds1 said were never going there again.

Insurancr company are taking and are saying they won't be paying for a new mobile phone as we did not say how the phone was broken.. So i absolutely balistic and said what do you mean so i've demanded them to reassess and call me back.Fuming isn't the word.

Saying that the third cat hasn't left alone since i went out for the day. She started shouting at me when i went to pick ds2, funny animal.

No snow as yet:(:(. were supposed to get some.
Fuddle good luck with the car

Uniscots97

Morning All, got to the bottom of OH's mood (apart from his job stuff) it was the fact that the sight was going in one of his eyes! He had an op a few months ago on both eyes and he's had problems in the other eye. Well we ended up back at the place this morning (we were up at the crack of dawn to get the train). Its an infection that was reducing his eyesight. They gave him antibiotics and anti-immflamatories. His sight is now only a few hours after the appointment starting to stabilise and the pain starting to ease. I wish they'd given him a better check up to begin with as then we would be £15 in train fares each time. OH paid it this time and bought us a burger (as we hadn't had time for breakfast) and we stopped off at Mr M and he bought lemon squash, brazil nuts (both for me, i love brazil nuts) and a cake to go with coffee at home. I'm guessing he's now realising how much I'm freaking out about not having any money and its his way of saying sorry.

Own_My_Own

Thank You for all the supportive replies.

I think part of my problem is that I feel I have always had to live a lie, and I don't any more.

For years I was made to feel like a bad mother with a naughty child. Everyone just decided I was a single mother that had no idea how to bring children up.
I don't have many friends as none of them liked their children playing with my son.

I didn't have many friends at school either, as I could not bring anyone home with me. It was easier to be a loner than have my peers discover my Mum was always drunk.

In the last couple of years my son has been diagnosed and I have (just recently) broken contact with my Mum. So the 2 big worries in my life have gone.

My life is easier now than it has ever been. I no longer have to take abuse from my Mum, and home life is quieter now Ds feels comfortable asking if he doesn't understand something.

It is as-though I am just waiting for the next episode to start. I have never had what people would call a quiet life, although I have always prayed for one.
Now it seems to be here, I don't feel the comfort I thought I would. I just keep thinking something has got to go wrong.

Because I have nothing else to worry about, I have started worrying about money.
We have enough, but I feel we need to save more for this unknown disaster that is round the corner. Even though it may not be there.

Possession

No snow here either. It's 2.5 outside and has been raining so even if it did snow it wouldn't settle.
Got our car back this morning at least, can you believe it has taken since 20th December to basically replace a broken bumper?! I'm presuming it has only taken that long because the third party insurers are paying for it.
Unixgirl glad OH's eye is being sorted. He sounds about as good at communication as my OH though...

stiltwalker

Not been posting for a few days but been keeping up. Had the most rottern awful cold and spent large amount of time either in bed or curled up on the sofa under a blanket. Not right yet but I do feel vaguely human today. Feel especially guilty as it was DH's birthday yesterday and I pretty much left him to it to deal with the kids and even to make his own dinner while I went to bed. Have promised him an official birthday in the week when I'm better enough to look after him properly. Had a really busy week in and around the coughing - did DD's parent report for her statement, took DS to his big assessment meeting and got all his therapies sorted out, went to DD's parents evening and were delighted to be told that 'considering her mobility and speech challenges' - she is actually not very delayed at all in any areas except mobility and in many ways she is an above average, bright, inquisitive and extremely kind natured child. And that once we can truly get to grips with aiding her communication to be clearer then she will truly shine. This is what we have always believed and health have always underestimated her and her cognative abilities because of he verbal difficulties and because she takes a while to open up. So fantastic to hear what we have always thought from a non related third party!

In less fantastic news the poorly car turned out to be terminal - so long Leon the Laguna - your posh comfy seats and high spec interior will be missed! Yesterday we bit the bullet and bought a Citroen Berlingo - plenty of space and practical - and high so we can get the kids in and out more easily - it did feel like the real final acceptance of the kids disabilities though as it is not a car we would have considered otherwise

ETA : Sory, meant to say hugs where needed as there seem to be a few who need them at the moment. Unix - glad you got some explaination and that OH's eye probs are now being sorted.

kidcat

unix - that must have been really scary for him though

No snow here either but its so cold, I have got the outside tap all covered up and insulated just in case and I am shopping this afternoon which will mean we are covered.

My back has really kicked off again - clearly I overdid it yesterday but am really grumpy with it as I have run out of pain killers and obviously the doctor is closed until Monday!

ETA -Stiltwalker - sometimes its the seemingly small things that hit us, I know we have to have a car with sliding doors and it limits us alot. ((Hugs)) hope you feel better soon and well done for little miss getting a good report!

I have ordered my camera today OH is not impressed but I still have some of the money left over which will go into the regular kitty, as I ended up paying less than I expected too

sillysid

I feel the same way, there seems little to be optimistic about just now, just more of the same...I know it's wrong, I have loads to be grateful for, but feel worn out trying.

I think it comes from big life changes, when they occur you cope, somehow, maybe not well, but you do, and while all this is happening, and you are stressed, silly wee things that would have bothered you before, seem so unimportant in the big scheme of life, but at some point, you pick up get back on with the big and little things, till the next catastrophe occurs.

Before too long, as sods law, there's never just one dripping tap, more of a flood than turns into a swollen river, and after that, you find yourself seeing everything as a catastrophe. Things would never have bothered you half a dozen years ago become fraught with uncertainty and you've lost the resilience button somehow.

Chronic stress or chronic glass half empty! Less able anyhow, there are loads of remedies - if I could just get off the couch to do them!!!

good luck

stiltwalker

Kidcat - yes, our new car has sliding doors too. Strangely although it felt a bit odd buying a car with disabilities in mind - we were actually ok with it. And TBH after driving MIL's tiny pergeot around for the last week - any car I can actually fit stuff into will be wonderful! Not that it wasn't utterly lovely of MIL to lend us her car.

Aria`s_Tail

Afternoon everyone. I'm just south of Manchester, no snow here yet but wind is icy. First flurries at home this morning though apparently. Took my client to do her shopping before, she will not entertain the idea of getting a few extra bits in in case the weather is bad. Her answer is that she has a car and me to drive it so she will still go to mr T every other day. :mad:. This job is really starting to get to me, I feel so miserable being away from home and treated like a skivvy, I had a good cry last night, really missing my OH and my animals. Was going to stick it until the summer but might start looking for something else soon.

Sorry, enough of my maudling, my finger are crossed for Mrs VP this afternoon and for everyone else waiting for news.
Unixgirl, i'm glad you got to the bottom of things.