'supporting each other through really tough times'

katieowl_2

I'm going to join and and say I think that sounds like a stress reaction too...I get it from time to time, a kind of niggling background dread feeling that all is going to go the shape of pears.

It's not very pleasant is it? I'm a lot better off than I used to be but I'm not on the home straights to lala land either, and like you as far as she can, I'm sure my DM wouldn't see any of us go without...

Medication can take the edge off it, but plenty of people don't want to go down that route. I think you also get 'fatigue' from being careful all the time, and having an eye out over your shoulder for the next thing that's going to broadside you.

Nothing constructive to add...but you are not alone!!!

Kate

krlyr

An understanding doctor can really make such a huge difference. I suffered from a chronic health issue for years and in the end you just feel like its not even worth bothering with another appointment as you'll hear the same old thing. I was told my sinusitis was allergies, migraines, etc., referred to the hospital a couple of times and fobbed off by consultants, over and over for 3 years before I asked for a referal to go private (thankfully someone had offered to pay for me as I couldn't afford it at the time!) and the GP did one last-ditch NHS referal where I thankfully saw a totally different consultate due to the other being absent and he actually put a camera up my nose and diagnosed the several causes (deviated septum, inflammed nasal lining, overgrown turbinate tissue, etc. - so all very real, treatable issues, certainly not migraines!) and I got the surgery I needed. After 3 years of really struggling, not just physically but the mental effects of that pain and being told it wasn't that big a deal, or it wasn't curable, or I just needed to take antihistamines, or follow the proper regime with nasal rinses etc. (which I was doing to a tee, because I didn't actually want to be in pain!) it really was such a relief for someone to tell me that there was a real cause for it, and even moreso to get treated.
I would say perservere. See if you can switch your GP to the one you're children are at, perhaps, so you can start afresh without going in immediately feeling like you're wasting your time.

MiddyMum

*Joining this thread*

x

Popperwell

Hello and welcome Middymum:)

Popperwell

OMO,
There can be physical reasons for anxiety, depression and fearing the worst. There can be others who cause it in our lives. That can be family, so called friends or outside forces be it the news that we keep hearing of people losing their jobs, changes in benefits, austere measures, prices rising often on essentials and income staying static/reducing...

And then you can have such feelings for no reason at all, even when all is well.

The DJ from years ago Pete Murray, his solution was to ignore all the news. He stopped watching and listening to it. Or reading the newspapers. I'd like to and I was at my best living in my own world but now I have to know because of the changes that will affect me, a problem when you need to accept help from the state. Even though you know it will always be bad news and you are happier not knowing.

The person behind some of the most popular TV programmes(usually comedy)had it all(as he said on Desert Island Discs recently)the cars, the homes, the children, lovely wife, success and then found he could not cope and had to go through lots of soul searching and get help. He also realises that people are more important than "Things" and most of all...kindness.

A major event happens like the loss of a loved one or they take seriously ill can change things.

As my dear Mum used to say "They are all natural thoughts that most of us experience, its whether they stay at the forefront of your mind or you are able to let them go"

I am afraid that as we grow older they are more likely to come more dominant because of events and the realisation of all the time that has passed and how little time there is in the future.

But hopefully that apprehension is temporary. if you are fortunate to have understanding people around you then you are blessed. Make the most of them.

And as others have said if you feel you need help from the medical profession don't be afraid to ask, it is not admitting defeat. Quite the reverse. I know if I would not be too proud to seek out help. I may surprise myself and manage but I suspect a time will arrive where I will be asking for help.

I am fortunate that I still can eat and have not lost interest and I am managing to sleep reasonably well. Sometimes a little too much perhaps:rotfl:but if that is what my body needs to repair itself and heal the mind so be it!

As you can see so many of us have similar feelings and many will be having a pretty austere future even when we retire, it seems wrong. It is wrong that we are struggling to keep warm, feed ourselves and keep a roof over our heads and it is not always something we can control but those who know me keep saying it will turn out OK and I have to try and believe that to keep sane, even if my life is pretty basic.

You will get plenty of support I am sure...and we'll make the best of our situation...

Wishing you well...

Thriftkitten

Morning all, just to report that the interview day is finally over. I came home around 7pm last night due to rush hour and was totally drained.. there is only so long one can sit up straight and look interested lol!
I'm not sure how I did, the 10 min one on one interview/talk was a little hashed as there wasn't much structure to the questions, they wanted to know what I knew about recent NHS news, which I politely informed them I don't watch an awful lot of tv due to having so many assignments ongoing from college, however, I did inform them that having spent almost 25 years in the care sector I had a good work ethic and had staying power yadda yadda yadda! I think the decision is made based on the interview, personal statement, and 2nd reference, so who knows, maybe I'm in with a fighting chance.
Due to location here in barren cornwall I have only applied for the Truro Knowledge Spa so that lessens my chances as some have applied for 5 uni's, being a single parent I am unable to relocate or travel more than 60 odd miles per day. The knowledge spa intake is 55 people per september for the 3 year degree course, and 250 have applied, so I have a 1 in 5 chance!:eek: Hey ho, you never know!! I have to wait until at least April now before I will find out if they have sent me a conditional offer, Its a long time to sit on the edge of your seat. Hope all are ok, its noticeably colder here, although I dont envisage any blizzards down here unfortunately!! Hugs to all that need them.

meme30

Well yesterdays thrown together Burrito Beef was wonderful and there's enough left for another day.
Freezer food today (HM) because I must tackle my ironing mountain. It's been a week since I looked at it and the box is full.:( I can only iron for twenty minutes at a time because of my back problems, so it's going to take up a lot of the day.

Elizabunny:- :grouphug: You have my sympathy, it's so frustrating having to wait for people to do stuff for you.
Katieowl:- It's so appalling the treatment that you and your DD have had. You have made the right decision to leave, the poor hours, poor pay, and suffering the ineptitude of that woman must have been incredibly stressful. Yes, it's going the be tough for you both but having more control in your working lives will be worth it.

GQ:- I am jealous of your 31 apples! I have remembered I have some Rose Hip Syrup in the freezer that I am going to add to apples to make an Apple and Rose Hip Jelly. Totally forgot it was there, just waiting for the apples,:rotfl: Thanks for the memory jog!

I have not come across the wave and pay cards yet, they will not sit well with my low-tech mind . I am still sending my texts to the last person who text me because I can't remember that this new phone needs an extra page to choose the recipient first. My DD got the most random texts yesterday and until she phoned me I had not realised none of my texts had gone to the right people!

fuddle

Good morning, welcome middy mum

Quick question: I have eggs that are around 6 weeks old. Too late to use them up?

Thriftkitten

fuddle wrote: »

Good morning, welcome middy mum

Quick question: I have eggs that are around 6 weeks old. Too late to use them up?

I have chooks and the way I test mine is to fill a cup of cold water, drop egg in if it sinks its good, if floats then discard. hth xx

CH27

Own_My_Own wrote: »

A lot has happened lately.

I changed jobs in Dec and housing haven't told me my new rent payment yet. Although they did say ut would not be a lot different from the old amount.
And I finally broke contact with my mother on Christmas eve. she has a drink problem and has always been abusive. She phoned on CE drunk and I just snapped and told her to leave us alone.

As weird as it sounds, I think some of my fears are from being on here. So many people going on about Universal Credits and the price of utility bills etc. I normally just take things as they come, but so many threads get you thinking the worse. Which is daft as I know worrying won't change anything.

Try to stay away from these threads & concentrate on the upbeat ones. Keep reading them will fuel your anxiety.