'supporting each other through really tough times'

tina_malteser

Own_My_Own wrote: »

I don't normally suffer with anxiety. I have always made lots of lists and like to have things organised well in advance, a little OCD maybe, but never felt like this.

I am normally a fighter, who won't let things beat me. I try to look at everything as a challenge. I love beating my budget target.

I have a decent stock cupboard, and put money away in different tins for different events.
I safe food stamps and do nectar adpoints every week.

I just can't think of anything else to do. I have cut back as much as I can and it worries me. Where do you go if you already buy the basic brand.
Every time I go shopping there seems something has gone out of our price range. Last week Tesco basic grapes went from 99p to £1.75. I cannot afford that.
I worry that if it carries on like this, we will not be able to afford any food. Which I know is irrational, but still worrying me.

Really i could have wrote that myself, as im sure could many here, i would really love to spill the beans on my life but for some stupid reason(prob being judged) i don't, not on os by the way but some stragglers mite add their tuppence worth, if you feel like pm ppl then do and ppl if you feel pm op then do xx Take Care

meritaten

hun this sounds like anxiety to me - could be the beginings of depression so perhaps a trip to the GP is called for? at the very least you sound stressed and sometimes this seems to happen for no reason at all!
Nip it in the bud now! see your GP and get help, maybe just 'talking therapy' will help or you may benefit from medication!

Own_My_Own

Byatt wrote: »

I think your anxiety is a normal reaction to this worrying time, but like you say you have options, maybe focus on those options and when the worrying thoughts come into your head, change them in some way, using yes, but I can do a, b, or c...

what is the worst that can happen?

I recently reached a stage where I had no money for rent, no options left or so I thought as my income had dropped drastically. But although I suffer from anxiety I am a fighter too and somehow pulled myself out of this desperate straight. It's surprising what you can cope with when you have no other choice. I know the grapes were just an example, but instead of grapes get in season fruit, veg etc...I don't buy grapes anymore because they are so expensive but I still have fruit. As this is a new feeling for you can you pinpoint a trigger for it?

A lot has happened lately.

I changed jobs in Dec and housing haven't told me my new rent payment yet. Although they did say ut would not be a lot different from the old amount.
And I finally broke contact with my mother on Christmas eve. she has a drink problem and has always been abusive. She phoned on CE drunk and I just snapped and told her to leave us alone.

As weird as it sounds, I think some of my fears are from being on here. So many people going on about Universal Credits and the price of utility bills etc. I normally just take things as they come, but so many threads get you thinking the worse. Which is daft as I know worrying won't change anything.

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I wish I could share how my kitchen smells with you at this moment, I found the best part of a kilo of skirt steak in the reduced section or Mr.T this morning for £4.30 and I've had it simmering away for about 3 hours with onion, celery, carrot and a bag of frozen mushrooms which surfaced from the depths of the freezer. It's got some cooking wine, stock cubes herbs and spices too and it smells wondercrump!!!!! I've got some puff pastry left from christmas in the freezer too so I'll make separate pie toppings from that tomorrow and that will be main meals for us for probably 4 days, bargain!!! 50p a go I reckon and I'm using the oven to cook an entire bag of jacketing potatoes at the same time to reheat during the week for our suppers and I got 13 potatoes for £1.99 from A*di in the pack. We have veg in the garden to go with it all so I've the best part of a weeks worth of meals for under £8.00 this week, can only be good, Cheers Lyn xxx.

tina_malteser

And I finally broke contact with my mother on Christmas eve. she has a drink problem and has always been abusive. She phoned on CE drunk and I just snapped and told her to leave us alone.

id love to this at times...:T

Popperwell

Sounds lovely Mrs L...I have to say sounds from your description:)

I still have my chicken casserole to have but am quite pleased with my mealplan(I have had my calories for the day)slightly more if I am honest:p

Over the day, Toast and jam...salad in a wholemeal bun, coffee, orange juice and some yoghurt plus a couple of Belvita Youghurt Breakfast biscuits(on offer otherwise I probably would have not purchased them)

So I'll not come to any harm...I'll listen to the radio and perhaps watch a little TV later...A better day than it started off...Hugs to those who have not had such a good one I know from what has been posted.

I so want this year to be an improvement but really its only a number and things just continue from day to day...

Possession

Sorry to hear about Mr VP's job. I hope you're both OK.

GreyQueen

I'm a happy bunny tonight.

Toddled down to the Magic Greengrocer and for £2 got the following; 4 butternut squash, 31 cox apples, 5 oranges, 12 satsuma, half a melon (ex-melon, just eaten it) and a tomato which happened to be sitting there all lonesome. Oh, and 2 heads of broccoli.

Unaccountably, I seem to be missing a partridge in a pear tree. I'm going to make a curry featuring some of the BNS but does anyone have a soup recipe they could recommend, also? TY.

Went to work. Came home again. All is going well except my new bank card is one of these wretched wave-n-pay thingies. Oh, I mean contactless technology. I do my purchases for cash and have no need or desire to be able to wave my bank card of a contactless card reader to spend up to £20 without entering a PIN.

Ghastly idea. Whatever happens if a villain gets hold of your card and starts waving it at any card reader that strikes their fancy?

Gonna see if there's an opt-out version. Anyone encountered this before? I think it's a blimming cheek sending me one of these without so much as a by-your-leave just because my debit card has come up for renewal.

Right, I need tea. Nuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrsssssssssssssseeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!

Own_My_Own

I am going to empty both the freezers tomorrow, and re-pack them.
I can make a list of exactly what I have while I am doing it.
They started out in some order, but as I bought things reduced or on offer, I just squeezed them in where I could. I have enough food in them to last a couple of months, if only I could find it.

By changing my working hours, I now have more time to prepare and cook meals. I am not a great cook, but I do try. My dd calls me 'Cant Cook, Can't Cook'
Luckily both the kids have plain tastes in food.
I think that may have something to do with being bought up on my cooking.:o

karren

well done on admitting it and sharing,
It really sounds like anxiety a delayed reaction to everything that happened and your way of coping, you sound like your an amazingly strong person to have managed all you have, a huge hug.

We all cope with things in very different ways and families ccan be so controlling and hurtful.

Gp is best bet ans low dose on anti depressant will help so so much, and if your fobbed of, change doctors,
there courses out there called cbt that help too.

There are lots and lots of help around.

As wonderful as sites like this are if your feeling low and read about peoples problems sometimes they do drag you down,

net mums is good to as shows free activities in your area and i used to bundle my 2 up and go out when i felt i was being dragged down, no matter the weather we would go for walks or libraby etc and friends are fab, they can be virtual or real.

A massive massive hug xxx