'supporting each other through really tough times'

good_advice

Thank you for your advice so far....
both adult kids have plenty of money, that is what makes it so hard...have asked adult kid 1 says I have told you" you are getting no more money from me" the other is not speaking to me...
No, not kidding they give oh £100 each. It includes food, heating and electric and me doing all washing.

Easy to say throw them out... we cannot.

I shall be claiming the quidco back, so that will help.

The road we live in is flat ground and did flood once a few years back so will need to think carefully over the accidental damage. Will flooding be in this part of the cover.
Luck would have it our house was not flooded as we have a slight rise in the drive. Others down the road were not so lucky...

I think I, on with the least money shall have to pay the £240, I think I get £35 quidco back.
I do not think the kids realise though... paying out will mean smaller Christmas presents this year. I am not borrowing...

nuatha

katieowl wrote: »

I've got a question too... what's the most economic way to ship something to the USA? I used the Post Office calculator and my teeny weeny parcel came to £26!!! I tried to see if UPS was cheaper, but it appears I have to book it before it will tell me the cost. Anyone do this regularly and have any tips?

Fanks!

Kate

I use the calculator at Parcel2go which should give you a range of options and prices.
I've found that I get better prices from the Post Office from the actual post office rather than online - but it may be that I have a particulaly helpful postmaster.
Generally under 1Kg then the Post Office generally comes out ahead, over that then unless its bulky but light (post office again) then one of the courier brokers will give me a better price. P2G is who I've found cheapest for stuff to US.
HTH

kidcat

good advice - I think unless you get tough you will never get anywhere, I agree saying throw them out is easy, but actually doing it is hard. Can you simply stop buying them food, and washing for them - they are not paying enough to cover these things so they dont get them. Also if they do not contribute more then gifts at Christmas should be small tokens - £10 each type of thing.

grandma247

My ds2 is paying £90 a week to live in lodgings and he shares his room so they are both paying that.

I would be tempted to put their stuff in the loft.
I would also be putting a list up in front of the kettle of the cost of all bills and dividing the sum into however many occupants there were and putting that in large numbers so they can't miss it. if they don't like it they can leave. Times are hard and they had better get used to it. I'll bet they aren't saving anything.

elisamoose

good_advice wrote: »

Thank you for your advice so far....
both adult kids have plenty of money, that is what makes it so hard...have asked adult kid 1 says I have told you" you are getting no more money from me" the other is not speaking to me...
No, not kidding they give oh £100 each. It includes food, heating and electric and me doing all washing.

Easy to say throw them out... we cannot.

I shall be claiming the quidco back, so that will help.

The road we live in is flat ground and did flood once a few years back so will need to think carefully over the accidental damage. Will flooding be in this part of the cover.
Luck would have it our house was not flooded as we have a slight rise in the drive. Others down the road were not so lucky...

I think I, on with the least money shall have to pay the £240, I think I get £35 quidco back.
I do not think the kids realise though... paying out will mean smaller Christmas presents this year. I am not borrowing...

Divede by 4 and give your share to oh to pay it from the bill money he gets from them . Why should you have to try to pay from your money when he has the board money?

2tonsils

hunters wrote: »

How about you just start a weather forecast thread rather than duplicating posts over several threads, that way people who want to know the forecast above and beyond what the Met Office give us can read the thread?

Then perhaps people can post what the actual weather is in their area instead of forecasts.

Chilly but sunny here in Fife today.

Hunters I noted that you replied to my query and said you would prefer me not to post on the other thread. But several regulars on here and the other one have asked me to continue to post them on here. So I will continue to do so.

Posting on what the weather is currently like is no use to anyone who wants to prepare in advance just in case. The people who said yes to continuing posting obviously want the forecasts and predictions and not a report on what is happening outside the window.

If the met office in the UK had been more accurate in their forecasts and warned people in advance there wouldn't be so many people in a terrible state now.

Uniscots97

good_advice wrote: »

Thank you for your advice so far....
both adult kids have plenty of money, that is what makes it so hard...have asked adult kid 1 says I have told you" you are getting no more money from me" the other is not speaking to me...
No, not kidding they give oh £100 each. It includes food, heating and electric and me doing all washing.

Easy to say throw them out... we cannot.

I do not think the kids realise though... paying out will mean smaller Christmas presents this year. I am not borrowing...

They probably do realise but (and I'm generalising here so forgive me) but most youngsters (teens upto early 20s) think their money is their money. I know SS does. I've given up cooking dinners he say he doesn't like yet ate the week before or eats half and throws the rest in the bin. Now, during the week he has to feed himself. Weekend I might make an extra portion if I'm doing a proper dinner (roast, chilli etc). I know even though he's not said it he's slowly getting it as he will spend £20 on stuff from Asda and it'll last him 1 maybe 2 days if you're lucky. Yes he buys cold meat, stuff to make sandwiches but then doesn't make them....... Not my problem. He also buys too much then half of it goes off..... again not my problem. As for washing, I do it at weekends. If he puts a wash on but doesn't take it out of the machine neither do I (or his Dad) till the weekend. He got the message on that one. The washing now puts his washing in the machine sometime on friday. He knows he's being selfish as he's got a full time perm job and OH and I are temps. I wasn't working for 5 months of this year and not once did he offer any extra money to bills. What he actually said to me was "Don't expect any extra off me, I'm totally skint". No, he's not. Hence the tactics about food etc. No he doesn't like it but tough. Once his car's paid off OH is asking him to leave. SS wants to take out more finance to get another car (nothing worng with one he's got he's just bored of it after a year..... oh and the bumper to his previous car is still in my garage..... I'm not moving it), I've decided the answer is a definite no. If he can't stick to house rules (that includes no eating in the bedrooms..... and we find plates, bowls etc with half a meal on them under his bed) then no finance he can go elsewhere. Might be mean but if I'd done half of what he's done at his age my family would have kicked me out. He unfortunately doesn't see himself as lucky. No qualifications and he's earning 16k a year....... oh and the job he has? That was thanks to me (sorting his CV and applications and coaching him for interviews).

grandma247

We do our kids no favours if we are soft with them. I and probably quite a few others here started work at 15 and we had to tip up most of our tiny wages.

When I got married at 171/2 i did not go to my mother for any help because her reply would have been "you made your bed now lie on it."
She did do little things to help like buying trousers or other little bits for my oldest but that was her choosing not my asking.

Uniscots97

grandma247 wrote: »

We do our kids no favours if we are soft with them. I and probably quite a few others here started work at 15 and we had to tip up most of our tiny wages.

When I got married at 171/2 i did not go to my mother for any help because her reply would have been "you made your bed now lie on it."
She did do little things to help like buying trousers or other little bits for my oldest but that was her choosing not my asking.

SS never used to be like this. I think he's seen that his sister could get away with murder and got given a council house and money. We've tried to tell him its not that simple and his sister's bubble will burst at some point once she's finished annoying everyone she knows. I had odd jobs before I was 16 to earn money if I wanted to buy something. I went to uni at 17 and although I got a grant I had the odd job and jobs over the summers. Every penny I made squeak believe me. I bought my own house at 25 (the one I'm in now) and OH moved in with me. SS was too young to remember his Dad having a bought house, he only remembers the council house they had to go stay in after his Mum decided she didn't want them (the kids) anymore. Unfortunately even though he's had a job from relatively young he has no respect for anything that isn't his.

craigywv

write a list of ab EVERY single thing that gets paid from your house in a month total it all up and show the pair of them it and say now see how far your 100 quid each goes a month. then say you want more. when i was 16 i was on young training person scheme i got the grand sum of 30 quid which my mum took 15 a week off me i made do with what i had i agree we too soft on our kids these days but they have to learn. maybe im wrong and im sure some of you might not agree with me but thats what we all on here for different views xx