'supporting each other through really tough times'

fattybumble85

shegar wrote: »

Pops can you not leave that argument buried, we thought it was put to rest days a go, whats done is done, and you cant change it.............Dont keep harpering on and on it crazes people..............

Did I miss the apology for this?

kidcat

fattybumble85 wrote: »

Did I miss the apology for this?

Oh please dont stir it all up again, not today, we are all so down and need to just be there for each other pulling together not ripping each other apart.
I dont want to be rude but lets please let it be buried now.

Please sit with us, and lets get through this incredibly hard week together

Aria`s_Tail

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

ARIA - A lady living in our road has adopted an spanish ex-coursing greyhound this year. He is absolutely georgeous and just what she needed as she lost her husband a couple of years ago. He is very wary of men and quiet natured, very gentle and loves his mum to bits. My DH has had quite a time in getting him to come near, they meet in the mornings when he is out with our boy. Last week , the new boy actually let my DH touch him and took a treat from his hand, a real breakthrough for the dog. He is becoming more confident with time and good handling and will actually come forward to me now and ask for a cuddle. It's so lovely to watch him open up to people, like a flower gradually blooming. He is a lucky boy and his mum is a lucky woman, it's a happy story!!!!! Cheers Lyn xxx.

Aww. so nice to hear of a Galgo finding a good home. I hope they have many happy years together.

meme30

Thank you everyone for your hugs and good wishes. It was nice to be able to rant and to know it was ok to do so here. I have woken up feeling better for the 'good cry' and the DH hugging.:)

Life will go on and yes, we will cope as we always do.

unixgirluk:- Your problems are just as important as everyone else's. To be honest a systematic campaign at work to discredit you must be incredibly stressful, and that's on top of everything else you are coping with. :grouphug:

stiltwalker:- I'm always amazed at your patience, it feels like you are at the beck and call of some very thoughtless people and it makes me feel like kicking their backsides, so goodness knows how you feel.

Smiley:- Poor Tess and poor you. It sounds like a bug, ours used to get hot and pukey and not be good at controlling their wee's. Let us know what the vet says please.:grouphug:

Sevenup01:- What a lovely Mam you are. Thank goodness your daughter could talk to you and you could help her.

Kidcat:- Please feel free to use my large size 8's to kick that useless so and so! The sheer volume of folk intentionally not helping people staggers me! :wall:

Aria`s_Tail

Kidkat. Don't take this the wrong way but why don't you have a social worker? I know a lot of them are a waste of space (there are also some great ones!) but these days you don't seem to get any help without a referral from one.

kidcat

Aria`s_Tail wrote: »

Kidkat. Don't take this the wrong way but why don't you have a social worker? I know a lot of them are a waste of space (there are also some great ones!) but these days you don't seem to get any help without a referral from one.

Because we are seen to be coping! The trouble is that I know the rules around Direct payments and its supposed to be that we can ask for a SW assessment and then be appointed one, however in order to access it we need the person I was just speaking to put us forward and we need them to support the application. CAMHS have already offered to support is but I need to get through the door first - and its firmly closed.

Thanks all of you, am calmer now, just knowing someone gets it I think helps.

stiltwalker

kidcat wrote: »

Please sit with us, and lets get through this incredibly hard week together

Well said kidcat - and (((((Hugs))))) sounds like you are getting the same raw deal as I am - the thing that gets my goat is that if we were !!!!less idiots they'd be falling over themselves to help us but as we are competent, intelligent, excellent parents who just need a bit of support to make our lives that tiny bit less difficult we get told where to go at every turn. Not in quite so anglo saxon terms though - even SS have some limits!

Lyn - I say it as I am as sure of the type of people we are as you are. Also why I shared some of our big day photos - you've got to have the good times too. Once I have a time and date for the next meeting I'll PM you my address and I'll borrow that pointy stick sharpener if I may?


ETA: Aria's Tail - same deal here too after the last assessment I got a report to say what a fantastic parents we were and how well we were 'meeting DD's needs' and that there was nothing they could 'offer us' at this point in time (code for not in crisis so no need to bother!), I am desperately trying to get the Disabled Child Team at SS to take us on and appoint a SW for DD (and DS too once his referrals are sorted) but they are major league buck passing and insisting that Integrated Services (big step down) can provide all that we need, despite the fact that they have no remit to help with equipment etc and their respite services are so restricted that there is nothing suitable they can help with, seems to be mainly geared towards support for attending after schools clubs etc and neither of mine are old enough for school!

Aria`s_Tail

kidcat wrote: »

Because we are seen to be coping! The trouble is that I know the rules around Direct payments and its supposed to be that we can ask for a SW assessment and then be appointed one, however in order to access it we need the person I was just speaking to put us forward and we need them to support the application. CAMHS have already offered to support is but I need to get through the door first - and its firmly closed.

Thanks all of you, am calmer now, just knowing someone gets it I think helps.

AAArgh! Any chance your doctors could shunt through a referral?
(Sorry if i'm sounding a bit thick, I only do adult care so don't know how it works with children).

kidcat

Aria`s_Tail wrote: »

AAArgh! Any chance your doctors could shunt through a referral?
(Sorry if i'm sounding a bit thick, I only do adult care so don't know how it works with children).

Its like Helen says with kids its a buck passing exercise and also a major guilt trip it seems, in some ways though (and no offence Helen) its good to hear its across the board and not just here.

7_week_wonder

Oh dear, there are so many folk I would love to just give a huge cuddle. Unixgirluk, kidcat, stiltwalker, meme (and now I'm feeling guilty cos I'm sure I've missed some folk out). It just seems like today in particular is unendingly tough.

I don't have any practical suggestions, but I can promise that tonight I will light a candle and, as I go for my second attempt at crochet, I will send you all the positive vibes I can muster.

Take care of yourselves everyone and treat yourselves gently.