'supporting each other through really tough times'

FairyPrincessk

Morning everyone. I did read along last night but was too tired to muster a reply. I made it to the gym, but a few minutes in a woman wearing a large quantity of perfume decided to occupy the machine next to me. When I get colds, my asthma plays up and today was the first day back after one of those nasty colds with chest problems. Needless to say, my lungs did not appreciate her scent. Still, I did my best and hopped off to do some yoga as well. A bit sore today but feel much better for it.

Made some Rhubarb crumble with a bit of what I stewed in the sc. OH liked it, I thought it probably needed a bit more sugar or perhaps some apples or pears to sweeten it. I just guessed how much sugar to add. It was so easy, I'm thinking of popping back into Ald! before they change over and getting another batch to put in the freezer.

This afternoon I'm planning to get some compost and start some more seeds--mostly salad, but also a few more herbs. I'd like to do some spinach in containers, but won't be able to do that until the beginning of July and from what I've read, it is too late. Any of you seasoned gardeners know? I'll definitely do some Asian cabbages and carrotts, but we do eat spinach frequently but not in large quantities. I'm forever trying to figure out how to use up half a bag, so would be nice to be able to grow it.

The slugs are out and about. I was tipping them over the garden wall into the alley last night. I've used some toilet paper rolls cut in half to make little collars around my broccoli seedlings. I was just picturing a slug munching on them for a starter, so hopefully they'll be sheilded until their big enough for some of my other tricks. The peppers seem to be happy--one chilli has buds on it, and the sweet peppers seem to be settling in. I can't tell if they were short on water or if they got a bit of transplant shock as their leaves just looked a little curled in for awhile, but they're putting on new ones so hopefully they'll pull through.

So, its work until around 4, then a play in the garden. Will try and do a bit more washing today as its supposed to rain later in the week so would like to be on top of it before that.

Nutty Glad it worked out well.

jpscloud I know how you feel. I often feel the same way. I was working and supporting myself saving up for my course when they offered to help me. They struggled a lot to pay for their education, something I remember as I was around for parts of it. The way I see it, is that if you're grateful, use what is given to you wisely and with respect, and don't expect anyone to cover your mistakes then it is lovely if you're parents can and choose to help you. It is only a problem if you act entitled and aren't respectful of the resources given to you and the work that goes into providing them.

VJsMumCould it be time for a gentle conversation? Perhaps a chat about how you're happy to help but think the kids might be suffering from not having consistent boundaries, or perhaps you're feeling a bit overwhelmed and would like to continue helping but could do with set days to yourself? I don't know the situation, but it sounds like it is moving from crisis and more into long term support so it might be time to gently set ground rules. Either way, hugs! Would it help to do a bit of YS shopping to see if you can get lots of ready meals for the trip? At least a couple of nights worth so you can have time off? Or perhaps paper dishes?

Bunbun Big welcome!

GQ I think it is you...I've been reading your posts elsewhere on potato blight. Fascinating!

Pops I love danish blue. It is very good IN things, and a little goes a long way which is nice.

Monnagran It is so hard to watch someone be taken advantage of because they have the very steadfast qualities we want to see in people. I do hope it works out. As for the lack of care for the homeless and the tragic death that resulted--all I can offer is hugs.

Princess I've never grown spuds, but I've read that apparently those 99p builder's buckets at B&Q are an excellent container.

Finally...I would love to see that vintage tea shop!

PRINCESSX87

jpscloud

Thanks for the heads up, Might have left it too late in the year to do them now. Going to research a little and start buying the items needed over the winter time hopefully half price

Today is so grey & over cast. But still sticky!

I had one of my brothers here yesterday who seemed quite angry,
He recently left the armed forces & the same week he & his GF found out their expecting their first baby together. :eek:

At first with them only being 17 & 18, It was a shock to everyone and it did cause some issues with both sets of families, However, My family is more laid back and understood, There is much more "worse" things that they could have done.

During their entire pregnancy, My brother has had to try and learn what normal life is like again, He's managed to get all 3 of them their first home, Working temp jobs to make ends meat to keep them together.
The GF mother has been a right nasty cow. She caused issues about telling the GF dad, Which resulted in the dad trying to attack my brother & throwing his own daughter out.

Last week the mother attacked my brother and pulled the metal garage door down on top of his head. Resulting in a lovely lump then whilst my brother was dazed she called the police telling them that he's ex army and putting her life in danger! :eek:


During all of this, My brother only wanted his GF & baby safe, But now the mother is doing nasty things like, Telling my brother he isn't allowed at the birth, He's not to attend any birthing classes ect.
The girlfriend knows this is going on and she says she will sort it out.:(

Roll on yesterday, He used the last of his cash & took his girlfriend to buy a pram.

They spent over an hour in the store choosing one they both liked. Making sure it was safe from birth ect. The agreement was, My brother took it to their place (Which is currently being decorated) so no one has to touch it until the baby is born.

This has sparked a huge row with the GF mother now, Telling my brother hes going to be a useless father & that he has to bring it to theirs so the mother can try it on her baby daughter who's nearly 2.
Maybe i'm the stupid one, But would anyone else do that? Just hand over a brand new pram so that another baby could use it before your own?

I'm hoping to see him today & hopefully he has common sense to tell the mother where she can stick her ideas!

Sorry for the long rant, Just really needed to get it off my chest!

FairyPrincessk

Princess It sounds like tempers are high and perhaps GF mum feels like she doesn't have enough control. I hope things calm down for them, it must be difficult to be pregnant and feel as if you're caught in the middle. Perhaps you can provide a quiet cup of tea and a bit of calm every now and then.

PRINCESSX87

I have done all i can without me now wanting to have stern words with these parents. I feel as parents they are acting like children and whats concerning me is how easy the mother finds it telling such hateful lies.

I suppose one of the reasons i came here and explained is because i'm hoping to take advice from people who isn't close to it all.

I haven't got children, Therefore i dont think i could rightfully advise on something like this x

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Morning Toughies, just had a long phone call from DD2 who was walking in to work having dropped the car off to be fixed, very nice too!!!

MONNAGRAN what a huge load you're carrying at the moment, the poor man on the park bench should never have happened, and I can understand your total shock and anger that it has happened, the one crumb of comfort I will offer is that he had you in his life for the last bit of it, and someone cared about him and helped him, that is beyond price and will have made him feel loved
and less alone. If God notices sparrows in the street how much more must he notice lonely people on park benches!!! Sorry also that your son is going through the tribulations with his wife, whatever has happened between you and him in the past, he is still your boy and you are concerned for him, I hope so much that he will find a new path in his life and be happy again and perhaps be more sensible in his life choices, on the plus side MIA has a tooth....... Wonderful stuff!!!!!

ALFSMUM Ouch, poor Mr Alfsmum, I hope he's feeling better today!!!

Have a good day everyone, me well I'm on the bus to W*itrose this morning for a few bitses I can't get elsewhere, have a good day all, Cheers Lyn xxx.

Popperwell

Morning All,
Some really tough situations going on:(I so hope all comes good asap. I am so tolerant, laid back, forgiving but even I would find it hard to turn the other cheek with what is going on. And being alone now, though problems will come along and few will not have worry in their lives, mine won't be due to emotional troubles brought on by family issues.

Well, I had a troubled night again...perhaps I will give that tonic water a try or the pain killers again...and mention it to my Dr when I see him. I have never had to but he may have a solution. Its more the restlessness/not being comfortable. I don't understand why now that it is daytime, I suspect if I close my eyes I will probably sleep reasonably well and this won't happen.

That's true FairyPrincessk, a very good idea about the Danish Blue cheese, it would be a good ingredient added into a dish and yes a little goes a long way. I was surprised. Not sure what I was expecting it to taste like.

My concession on rhubarb...I found some rhubarb flavoured yogurt on offer so its now in the fridge. Also the fridge is finally in some kind of order and I am getting through the contents. Can't say the same for the freezer but I will get there.

I'm thinking fruit, cereal and milk for breakfast today(strawberries, blackberries, cherries, blueberries, kiwis, grapes and banana)when I make the effort.

I awoke to sunshine but that looks to be disappearing already.

A mug of tea/coffee may help wake me up...

fuddle

Monnagran don't you ruddy well dare allow yourself to be consumed with guilt over what has happened to the chap. Just don't you dare! ALL you do, for ALL around you, ALL you do for those you don't even know. You could not have done any more. You are 1 huge hearted person, not a committee, not a board member, not on the repossession team, not a paperwork collator, not a health professional and not part of social services. You do not feel guilt, guilt eats you up and if I find out your allowing yourself to be eaten up by misguided guilt then this northern lassy will be bashing your lug hole on the phone. I know you will feel grief and sadness and will beat yourself over a catalyst of failiures but his circumstances were much bigger than you. You did everything you could... and let's face it, much much more than any other soul that crossed his path.

Imagine the meet-ups in our tea shop one day when I win the lottery

So funny at help at Mia trying to walk. She sounds so adorable, so eager to learn and remember (and do) what it is she's supposed to do. Little Mia will go far sorry DS1 is having an appalling time of it. This is one of those things that only he can deal with but knowing you are there to listen will be of great comfort. Secretly I hope he has the courage to go work at a nicer life for himself.

Morning everyone will catch up with you all later, I'm off out for a long long walk with the pup to try to source elderflower. I haven't seen any yet!

Pooky

Cor Blimey there's an awful lot of pain and heartache on here at the moment. It makes you wonder how we as humans have the constant never ending (seemingly) capacity to move forwards when so much hurt and angst is caused between us.

Hugs/cups of tea/sticky buns and crochet hooks to all who need them x

When I win the euro lotto this evening I shall fund the tea shop, we'll open one in every town and teach all things OS and make the world a lovely place.

Just been for a haircut, why is it that I keep putting it off but then just love the results? I was resembling a tatty blonde dishmop but now have a lovely short, croppy style that just needs a slick of wax and off I go.

Really warm here today but set for some horrendous thunder storms this afternoon...it's very muggy so I'm sure they'll be refreshing. Good excuse not to get the lawn mower out....it could rain at any time (plus my sciatica is playing up.....oh and my mum sent me some new patchwork templates to play with....their call is far greater than the garden)

ginnyknit

Pooky Doctor Ginny recommends small doses of gardening, no more than 10 minutes at a time and huge doses of patchwork. You must take care of that sciatica, obviously total patchwork wont help the pain so a little work (bad word) will stretch you and keep you mobile whilst the patch work (good word) will help in so many ways

I am doing bits of this and that then we are going to DD's for a bar-b tonight :j 2 chefs can't get it wrong can they :eek:

Planted seeds all over the garden in empty spaces to sort of blanket bomb the crops, as I am having a good year with nicve strong plants thought it may work. This year I planted a lot of peas tightly in pots so I could eat the pea shoots, however they came up so strong I thought I would plant them out - Oh my goodness they are the strongest pea plants I have ever grown. I just took them out of the pot and peeled the plants into a strip and planted them out all togehter in a row. I am going to do this again next year as its worked so well.

savingqueen

Hello everyone,

hope to catch up later this eve, bit manic today chasing my tail.

hugs all round

Sheila, have sent you a PM
sq:)