'supporting each other through really tough times'

kezlou

What a nightmare fuddle sorting out those files.

Monogran it is most definitely not your fault. You have helped so many people in such dire situations. Take solace in how mia is growing up, she sounds so lovely.

well I spent all day st my bio mums house sitting in the sun. Been chatting with my siblings, then collected little man from school.
I couldn't be dealing with my moody oh.

Just waiting for eldest to come home from school.

fuddle

I need an ethernet cable for the laptop to connect to the router as wireless connection keeps dropping. PC W0rld - £13 Amaz0n £1.19 inc delivery. No wonder the high street is straddling deep water at the moment.

Can you blame consumers? I don't at all feel bad for buying a 'made in China' item for a lower price, especially as I suspect the high street version has the same origins.

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POOKY I've always reckoned that for every bad thing that happens to people in life there are many, many small and 'missable if you're not looking' good things that happen to redress the balance of the world. It's just that when we are hooked up in the problem we're often too absorbed in trying to find the solution to look out and see the small things. I met a couple of old friends today as I took the boy for his afternoon perambulation, one of them is 92 and the other in her 80s both widows and very independent people and they had just been to the funeral of a 93 year old friend from WI and were making thier way home. They had been to the pub to drink her health and were just mooching home when we caught up with them. I didn't know about the funeral and just asked them why they hadn't had the forethought to bring the cauldron as 'we three had met again!'. This led to the 92 year old laughing her head off and having to hang on to a lamp post. Which in its turn led to a hearty rendition of 'Leaning on the Lamp Post at the Corner of the Street' from the other two of us. Funerals are BIG things and jokes are small things but the two kind of balanced each other out and made them feel better. My 92 year old pal, having been told that she wasn't to think of departing the world just yet or we'd go and fetch her back again said' Oh it's OK, I've been to the gates lots of times, but they've always been locked' which says that St Peter has a great deal of common sense, he obviously knows what he'd be getting!!! Next time there is a sadness, take time to look round, there will be something small that will touch you and make that little difference, Cheers Lyn xxx.

Popperwell

Perhaps I should feel guilty but as I know something will happen to mess things up at a future date, I am having a day of doing virtually nothing whilst it can be done.

Thinking cap on...If the weather is ok and I feel up to it I may go to Darlington South Park on Thursday or Friday. It holds memories of childhood, picnics with Mum and Dad, in later times car rides taking Mum there, in recent years it was upgraded and improved. But I haven't seen it. So I don't know how much of it is the same or different.

I'll pack my rucksack with some snacks and drink, there is a bus that goes past the park which will save me having to walk. There is a caf! in the park so who knows, I may have a tea and perhaps an ice cream as a treat.

I have also discovered that there is a free proms in the park on July 6th starting at 7pm so I may take a blanket and cushion for sitting on, something in the rucksack to eat/drink. Take some photo's and video's.

Taking part are:

The Royal Signals (Northern) Band
Hurworth Concert Band
102 Battalion Reme Pipes and Drums
405 Squadron Air Training Corps of Drums
with guest vocalists PLUS The Last Night Party Colours and Standards Sunset Ceremony(depending on the public transport situation, I may miss the last part of the event)

nuttyp

Lynn that's such a lovely story, I personally think you should be on one of these agony aunt style boards. yours words are wise and to the point but not harsh or unkind. I am grateful for your and others input in what was a distressing time. Thankyou profoundly for your advise, I for one have taken your ideas on board.

I bought a few perenials for the garden and was going to plant them. Then the heavens opened so resorted to having a cuppa and chatting on here!!

Have a good evening all x

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NUTTY petal, you're happy again and your DDs and OHs are happy again, so the world is back on course for you all, what could possibly be better than that, smile and enjoy it all of you, just a blip in the great plan of things, all sorted and finished. Book that holiday girl, you deserve some sunshine!!!!! Cheers Lyn xxx.

PRINCESSX87

PX87, I can see how being pregnant at that age might cause her mum to be worried. I was a teenage mum, and my dad was disgusted at me. After my daughter was born we did make up, and he always ensured she was well cared for - hence why I think things happened over the weekend. Maybe we have given her far too much - I can see that now.
Maybe a nice letter to his gf mum, explaining how he feels and how he plans to support both mum and child (when born would be a start.


I'm sure hoping this is the case, But i believe all ties have snapped when it comes to my brother & the MIL.

boultdj wrote: »

Yes, and you can use tub's, empty compost bags turned inside out or even bags for life, and if you wanted to have a go for this year and you'v got a sheltered spot, see if you can get some first early seed potatoe's, planted now you should be lifting them at the end of september.hth

Thanks for the tips, Will sure give it a try!!

RAS wrote: »

Princessx87

Can I suggest that the mother sees your son as a cash cow? For someone so young he is stumping up to the plate in a way few youngsters that age could manage. Maybe a contrast to her experience of men???

For the future, perhaps you could refer him to the local www.freegle.co.uk group or freecycle; there is usually a lot of baby gear, furniture, bedding and kitchen gear on those sites. He needs to get some saving behind him rather than spending money on new stuff.

The MIL's other problems may be that if her daughter leaves, she faces a substantial loss of income from benefits? She might prefer two lots of housing support etc?

This is how my brother is seeing it & its causing alot of stress to both my brother, SIL and baby. x

PRINCESSX87

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PX87 I've been thinking of your post all morning while I was wandering the shops, I wonder if your brothers girlfriends Mum is having a reaction because she thinks they are just too young to be in the situation they are in. I expect she's not wanting to blame her daughter for getting pregnant and in her head that makes it all your brothers fault. It might not be that she's anti him so much as anti her daughter becoming a mum at such an early age and it wouldn't matter who it was that was the father, her reaction would be the same, probably dissapointed , hurt and worried for thier future which makes for a grumpy outlook doesn't it? It sounds as though your little brother is being so very responsible and adult about it, how many 18 year olds would buy a pram and find a home for them, and try as hard as he is to make a success of things for them? It might be that when baby arrives and the Mum in law sees that they can cope and are coping, she might calm down and see it in a different light. At least he has you batting on his side pet, they are going to need support, I'm really glad you're giving it, Cheers Lyn xxx.

I can understand that, In fact when i first found out i went completely bonkers at both of them. But, When "they" sat me down and explained they dont drink, go out partying, Spend cash on clothes ect, I did wonder if i maybe come down on them too hard (My parents did also)

But looking at just how much more they both as a younger couple have grown in this past eight months is shocking.

They've been told that the baby might not last her last 6 weeks. She is already set & down enough to come within the next 2 weeks. This has my brother in pieces when i see him today. He's stressed that she's being born to early, And also worried that they haven't got their home finished yet.

The MIL's reply is,

That baby can live with me then, (That doesn't inc my bother or SIL!! :mad:)

RAS

princessx87

get the pair of them on freegle/freecycle then (when he is not fixing the house).

And remind them both that the baby needs a roof over its head, walls and windows to keep the rain out and its mum to feed it and that prettiness and frills are completely irrelevant. As long as the place is basically clean the niceties matter not a jot.

Maybe sit down with brother and prioritise getting one room sorted?

The_Dragon

If the bathroom, kitchen and a bedroom are okay then the house can be lived in - everything else can be sorted afterwards!