'supporting each other through really tough times'

shegar

SAVING QUEEN , will pm you some details, thanks very much its appreciated......:D

BANK OF MUM AND DAD, A definite no no.......My father had a very successful business up until his death just over a year ago....But me and my 2 sisters and one brother never got a penny given to us, if he knew we were short on dosh hed say , "go get a job"........He always made sure we had good grub, clothes and a clean house, but he said he had to work hard to get where he is and we shall have to do the same...........

On that we never asked or expected a penny, and ive brought my 2 sons up the same and they are good boys and have respect...........

Its certaintly made me very OS.......We never had pocket money either, didnt need it, wasnt anywhere that we could go and spend money back then , didnt have mobiles, computers etc, as long as you were fed and clothed nothing else mattered.........That was in the 70 s........

Im looking into ways to help relieve my personal problems , but nothing works quickly, see how things pan out in next few weeks......In the meantime im grabbing every few mins I can to get rest if possible.........

But tomorrow I have an appointment private to get some acupuncture for these terrible headaches, I cant keep swallowing pain killers like this as they no longer have an affect on me.........I do have to pay but if money will buy me a little health then so be it.........Sheila

silverwhistle

nuttyp wrote: »

thanks guys, I hope we can all meet and talk eventually. I have told them that I wont be helping financially any more. I feel bad, but I really cant afford to be paying for them.

You certainly shouldn't feel bad, even if you were in a comfortable situation yourself. I don't know how old they are but I didn't get my first car until I was 28 and it was a very old banger the colour of rust (in fact...:D). My parents did help out by lending a bit of money at the time of buying my house but it was all repaid within two years.

I've never hinted or asked for anything since, but my mum has offered to help a bit with a few costs when I move back to the UK shortly; I know she's pleased to be able to help. She knows the move is mainly because I want to be nearer at her age, but I make more of the fact that I've had enough here and work has dried up.;) Maybe later on you can be in this fortunate position when everybody is a bit more settled.

Popperwell

FairyPrincessk wrote: »

Oh Mrs LW, what a poor doggy! I hope he has rallied after his walk and is feeling better.

Pops--I've read that some interpretations of dreams can reflect things we're working on, so your dream might indicate that you're moving away from loneliness. As for if dream interpretations are hokum or not, well if you find something meaningful in an interpretation that helps you in your daily life--either through reflection or thinking about things in another way or inspiring you, well then I think that is pretty legitimate, backed up by science or not.

Moving a bit slowly on the work today. Rhubarb is done, just cooling down now, clothes on the line and lunch just finished. Going to make a cuppa and get back to it. Just a bit more to do and I can mark the first thing off my list.

That's a fair point FairyPrincessk and most of my reading has always been mainly health, food and spirtually based and I do believe there really is more than we can imagine in Heaven and Earth that has an influence on our lives and I am not the kind to dismiss things that seem potty without lots of research or study.

And in the end as you say if it works for you than it has a purpose. In my loft I have(must get it down sometime)and look at it again, a part works series in three large binders called "Zodiac" Most of the bookmarks on my computer are links to sites similar to health and well being.

Rhubarb, not something I have had much but I have been having quite a few things of late and giving them a try, earlier last week I ate my first Danish blue cheese, I don't know why but I never thought it was something I would and now I would do so again.

Its funny I'm not a picky eater and avoid very little but once I hated tomatoes and strawberries, they are now favourites of mine. Though not a big meat eater I have also started eating small amounts of beef and corned beef again after not doing so for many years.

PRINCESSX87

So finally we have the bright orange thing in the sky!! :j
Well, Just, I know its dying to just tip it down.

Spent the morning doing my first ever batch cooking. Ok, So its only for 3 meals but i never knew how a 500g of mince meat can create 3 meals.

**Tonight we are trying wraps
**Tomorrow OH has chilli & i have mini style spag bowl
**Then weds, OH has asked for more chilli, If he dont, Its a portion for the freezer.

The Neighbours behind us is driving me mental.:mad::mad::mad:

All weekend from 8pm, They have been blasting out music until the early hours, Then around 3/4am it stops.
Well today she's deciding to bang and shout, throwing rubbish out her side window. ect.

Her dog over the weekend has knocked a fence down that my OH put up. Is there no common sense and respect these days?

Fair enough during the day - By all means be as loud as you like, But considering me & my OH are up every morning from around 5am, i truly dont think its fair and i'm extremely grumpy because of lack ZZZZZ

Oh well, Thats my daily rant. Hope everyone is having a better day!! x

VJsmum

Hello all

I've been keeping up with the reading but not contributing much lately. Sorry people are having a crappy time. Whilst I am a bit fed up at the mo, it isn't anywhere near as bad as others' problems and i do feel for you all.

I was going to have a short rant but compared to others' problems it is nothing really - widowed SiL is taking advantage yet again palming her kids off on to us. i don't mind helping out but it is always us - the kids are really difficult and don't really want to be with us. cos we tell them off I think, but I can't have one rule for my kids and no rules for them. It is things like putting their feet on the dinner table or walking round the house eating. The week before there are many of us having a holiday in Wales and I think I'm going to get lumbered with catering for them - to the point where I don't really want to go now. I feel such a b!tch for moaning when her situation is so awful, widowed with two young children. It's not that she takes the biscuit - she takes the whole ruddy tin!

Anyhoo - I have made soup so already the world seems better and I have one whole red strawberry that OH and I are going to ceremoniously eat later I have a house to clean and ironing to do, but can't be [STRIKE]ars[/STRIKE] bothered. Ooh and I bought shedloads of rhubarb from Ald! as it is on offer and that is stewed ready for the freezer. I have one crown in the garden but it only went in this year so can't be picked. This lot will see us through a few puds. i also made some jam.

I really should mop the floors before DS gets home to dirty them again

fuddle

Hello everyone.

Just time for a quick catch up as I'm just back from a day with Kezlou, yes a day! We met at 9.25 and I hopped on the bus at 2.05 to go home. Car was parked outside of the girls' school but i've called home to let me dawg out. DH will have to take him out for a walk later as I have my childminding course in a few hours.

Kezlou laughed and put the world to rights. We like much the same thing, especially our danish pastry in the oldy worldy teashop. We've decided that if we should get a windfall we're opening our own afternoon tea shop, complete with vintage setup and bunting

Like long lost friends today and understand where each other is coming from. it's really nice. I got my monthly primark treat in too red spotty plimsoles for £3

My moan for the day is the neighbours have parked in my space so now worried as DH is going to park as I have to park on the drive. I'm getting so upset at inconsiderate people parking outside my house. But if that all I have to moan about then happy days huh?

Enjoy the evening everyone and hopefully no more thunder for Docky

Popperwell

Sounds like a lovely day. I'd quite like to run an establishment like that or open a place selling extra special items produced by local food producers as little is on sale in this part of the county. I think it could be done but would be difficult. I guess location is the main reason for success or failure.

Going to make the effort soon...

Thinking...salad roll.

Some fruit.

A proper meal(vegetables, potato possibly with a pie of some kind)

Perhaps a desert of some kind that I put together but I have some nice tarts in the fridge that were reduced and need using up.

bunbun2

hello! please can I join? I found this thread from the "what are you making for dinner?" thread and have lurked for a while. I thought it was time I delurked.


I have noticed a few north easterners on here and I am one too from County Durham.

at the moment my life is ticking along with OH and ds14 and ds12. however...OH is off sick from work with anxiety and depression. he is a teacher and has said he does not want to go back his plan is to do a year's supply and then train to be a vicar. So our life could be totally changed in a few months time.

I am looking forward to becoming a part of a very caring, helpful and supportive thread/group.

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FUDDLE I've got bunting, I can send it for the opening!!!!!

Well it seems as if the whole world has become an inconsiderate place, PX87 I would be on the ceiling if my neighbours were that noisy, mine were when their children were in thier teens, motorbike mad boy and all his friends blowing up the garage regularly at 1.a.m not good, and letting the dog knock down a fence is unnecessary. Howsomever, your batch cooking is brilliant and such a good idea to do, I sometimes add in beans of lentils to mincey dishes to stretch them even further, but we both like beany things so we're happy to have them that way. It's a really good start pet, well done you!!!

VJsMUM It's a difficult situation for you, but don't get taken!!! I understand that your BILs passing was traumatic, but that doesn't mean you have to keep carrying the pieces round forever, if your SIL has other siblings they ought to be supporting her too, and as for the behaviour putting thier feet on the dining table and walking round the house when eating, well my lovely it's YOUR home, so it must be YOUR RULES, I don't see why the sympathy and support you so obviously give and feel for them should extend to thier acting unacceptably in your home space, you wouldn't allow it in your kiddlers so don't let them do it either, that's not unreasonable is it???
Can I suggest a small possibly unethical wheeze for getting out of the catering for the holiday, have a 'sprained wrist' for the first couple of days and let the others see how well they can cope, by all means talk them through cooking if they need it, and when they find they can cook, encourage them to continue to the end of the week, not totally honest I know, but might get you off the hook as it were?
I'd moan in the same situation, maybe you could not be available a couple of times when asked and see how they cope, I'm sure there will be others to ask, it shouldn't always be you, Chin up, Cheers Lyn xxx.

Hello BUNBUN2 welcome to the thread, it's always nice to have new friends join in, we're all a little eccentric in our ways, but it's always a lot of fun and very useful, Lyn x.

nuttyp

hi everyone, well DD came this morning and had a chat with her dad (he rang in sick to work this morning) Both got to say their sides of the discussion, and she did say she hasn't appreciated everything. She also said she didn't realise how much we had spent, and when all added up its quite a lot!! It was mutually agreed that from now on no financial help will be given. She then went to her fianc!s work place and he returned with her so speak to my OH. I was in bed with a migraine, and its still here now. He appologised profoundly and said he had been to harsh In what he said. OH apologised too but has said they are now on their own 2 feet, as they say.

Youngest DD has gone to her boyfriends house for tea, she said to her sister that we did too much for them. SO maybe things will be better, who knows. I just wish we hadn't all argued like we did, as its never nice to have happen.

Take care everyone, im off back to bed for a rest.