'supporting each other through really tough times'

Popperwell

Why do people open up to me? A neighbour told me that he is part of a large close family, he works, has a young daughter and...guess what.

Trouble in the home because(and there are always two sides)he would like some time out of the house with friends/family and they could take their daughter but...OH doesn't like him out alone but won't go with him.

There has to be give and take/compromise. So I can understand you wanting some outside interest/social contact Fuddle. Alarm bells rang when he said he feels that his OH is trying to change him...I listened and said nothing.

FairyPrincessk, Great idea...have to admit I have sinned today and shopped again but...its all good stuff(vegetables, sliced meats, fruit, cheese)all with long expiry dates and it means lots of meals(salads, sandwices, rolls that do not need cooking)during our so called summer.

I've plenty of yogurt and milk too. So I may break even financially or be better off in the long run and my diet will be as healthy as it can be.

I can mainly do cooked meals on the cold days/when we get nearer to the next season, it will be here soon enough.

Considering I disliked tomatoes once, I think it is now my favourite salad item. I am 75% vegetarian and 25% meat, fish dairy eater.

Speaking of salads...

http://www.ivillage.com/simple-summer-salads-side-dishes/3-b-360268?nlcid=fd|06-14-2013|&_mid=1228534&_rid=1228534.5803.513

Some interesting variations I've not thought of before...

shegar

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

SHEILA I know you're a funny old lot, He Who Knows was born and raised in Saxmundham!!!! You're also the salt of the earth and the best people I know, on the other side of that particular coin.

GQ take 5 and rest up a bit, the housework, allotment and ironing will still be there for when you feel better, but to feel better you are going to need time out from life , so take it!!!

POOKY you have so much that you deal with uncomplainingly and loyally, it is no wonder that other folks problems are a bit of a burden, heavens pet, it's hard enough coping with your own let alone being there for others, be kind to yourself and don't let them get under your skin, wish them well, but let them sort it out thierselves, better for you??? Cheers Lyn xxx.

Lyn , your not telling me you were born in Saxmundham are you.?????, did you use to live this way,my father was locally famous , did you know him, im intriged , tell me more please, how exciting ....Sheila

kidcat

Evening toughies

((hugs)) fuddle

OH has been signed off work today and been prescribed ADs and sleeping pills - I get the idea of the ADs but not the sleeping pills because he s hardly awake, if he sits down for ten minutes he goes to sleep!!

Its been so busy these past few days and I am feeling the weight of responsibility, I effectively am now a full time carer for three and then have two daughters too.

I was in the neighbouring town for an appointment on Tuesday and called into H@meb@se for a nosy, only to discover racks of reduced veg plants, I was thrilled to get carrots, cabbage, cauliflower and butternut squash.
Weather is awful here, very heavy rain but incredibly hot too.

Popperwell

Interesting that Kidcat,
Because I recognise certain medication in Mum's final weeks they gave her both sleepers and AD's and she had no trouble sleeping and ocassionally if left to me I would avoid giving some of what I saw as un-neccesary dosing up.

In hindsight you can sleep a lot due to depression, so you'd think when the AD's kick in the sleepers will not be needed. Or the sleep will be a different type with or without the help of sleepers. Good to see that the medication was accepted and not refused.

Wishing you all well in the coming weeks...I know my mild AD's have helped me. I don't feel as tough I am not in control and feel like always have and can take an interest in things and any morbid thoughts are soon let go of. I wouldn't care if I was on them for the rest of my life.

mardatha

Can I ask who it was on here who was into low carbing? Please PM me!

kidcat

I think it was Mrs VP - because I am almost sure she sent the recipe for the egg and bacon low carb breakfast muffins which were gorgeous and I have since lost the recipe -

GreyQueen

alfsmum wrote: »

GQ, I'm always overwhelmed by the amount you seem to do, working, prepping, allotmenting, sorting out bikes, so I'm sure you've earned a lie down with a trashy novel (as long as it's not about TEOTWAWKI :rotfl:).

Bless your heart, I do spend a fair bit of down time laying on the sofa, a necessary part of managing life with ME. And I'm reading urban fantasy with !!!!!s and spooks and vampires, no danger of intellectual over-stimulation there.:rotfl:

Allotmenteering can be absolutely maddening at times, you're away from it for days and something inexplicable happens (WHY did a dog gouge huge holes where my runners were planted?!) and you're left feeling a bit :mad:. I don't have personal outside space at my flat so my lottie is my garden, although it's over a mile from home.

I'm falling-on-my-face tired atm due to being woken at 4 am by The Couple from Hell, eviscerating their relationship right outside my bedroom. They staged a re-run at 5 am, in case anyone had missed it. Honestly, why can't ppl row in the daytime hours when I'm at work? Should be a law agin it or summat.

kezlou, your auntie sounds like one helluva woman and brave and funny to the last.

fuddle, please don't beat yourself up over the ADs. If it helps, take them; you're in good company.

My own Mum has had serious mental health problems, caused by a difficult early life, then post-partum psychosis (8 weeks in the mental hospital after brother was born) and struggled when we were young children. She was scared to go back to work but we desperately needed the money. We were 9 and 7. She psyched herself up to it by telling herself that she'd try it (a part time job at the end of our road) but we wouldn't rely on her earnings. So if she had to quit because of her nerves, it wouldn't be the end of the world.

It was fine. And it got even better over time, until she worked full time as we were older. I think time out of the house, once the children are past that highly-dependant stage, is important for a woman's wellbeing. Less time to think about stuff is helpful, I think.

Anyway, you must do what is best for you and your family and only you can know what that will be. Best of luck and ((hugs)) with whatever you decide to do.

Today I have made the effort to inch the stove away from the wall and clean its sides, underneath and the sides of the cabinets alongside. It was looking a bit grungy and getting me down. I also washed the floor (big deal, there's about 3.5 sq feet of floor accessible) and am running a washload. Will make the effort to do a few chores over the weekend, just a couple of things a day, it all adds up.

Right, tea is needed. NURRRRRRRRRRSSSSSEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!

ETA lol, why does MSE think "gh0uls" needs to be !!!!!! out? Is this some kind of swear word and no one told me?

shegar

Thanks for pm Lyn how very very interesting.......

FUDDLE...Dont beat yourself up over taking AD s, I couldnt live without mine , and I have tried several times, they are a prescribed drug and safe.......

Been so nice and sunny here today , woke up at 4.20 with the best sound in the world in my ears , the blackbird singing away happily, so I got up , walked the garden with a mug of tea, and it was just so peaceful and beautiful......
Its really is the best time of the day , im not sleeping too well this lately.......

Dont know where today has gone , but it as, ive still got the doors wide open , beautiful evening.........

I did give my pond a bit of a clean and my net kept coming out with loads of small newts , so at least they are breeding , that pleased me no end......

My foxgloves are out in full bloom all pink, the bees love them................

Im doing a bit of charity for "hounds for heroes", hope to raise a few quid for the injured soldiers, it costs £60 thousand to train a dog , but as tesco says every little helps...:D.....Got an event on July 6......Where my son is doing a charity disco................Sheila....

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SHEILA we've got two foxgloves in the front garden that have done something I've never seen before, the bottom flowers are bright pink and the top of the spire is cream, not a shade of pink, but cream almost white and it's not just one spike there are several of them all the same, it's pretty but definately odd!!! Lyn xxx.

Mrs_Chip

I've got foxgloves this year - no idea why they have suddenly decided to grow in the garden, I have tried loads of time to get them to grow - once I gave up they just came :rotfl:.