Nice people thread part 7 - a thread in its prime

michaels

Generali wrote: »

I'm looking for some ideas for a slightly lucrative sideline, something I can do in the evenings. Thoughts?

Quick win for a few k - matched betting - Ms K is a world expert.

Longer term - 'publish' something online that when read will encourage readers to click on advert links and buy something (Your economics 101 lecture notes and specific economics text books?) then ensure that when someone wants to find out about said topic and Googles for it your page comes top of google - PN is a world expert.

I have also tried market research, doesn't seem worth it. Haven't tried mystery shopping, online coding, online essay writing, online translation services etc.

misskool

I'm looking for someone to summarise my lecture information if you want?

resistance to breast cancer endocrine therapy is up for grabs.

LydiaJ

SingleSue wrote: »

I agree about knowing the truth, although it was a hell of a shock at the time,

Oh yes. I know. It was for me too. I wish I could send a cyber-hug to your younger self.

SingleSue wrote: »

it has turned out to be the best thing that could have happened for the children..things could have been an awful lot different if the marriage had continued (James has said he would not be living at home now if their father was still here - their father is not keen on the boys, or anyone for that matter, not agreeing with his point of view)

Awesome that you can see it that way.

LydiaJ

michaels wrote: »

ON a serious note I am daily amazed at what some of the NP 'suffer' through without complaining, I can't contemplate how I would cope with LIR or Sue or many others daily challenges and yet you all seem to rise to them without complaint. I sometimes wonder if we are actually quite well equipped to handle stress and adversity and it is actually not having to deal with problems that can lead to stress as we try and create things to prime the fight or flight response from life's trivialities. For instance Mr G can put his entire life on the flip of a coin whereas I can agonise for weeks over whether I should pay £80 a month to fix my mortgage for 5 years.

On a trivial note, I have failed to order a shoelace during the hols and so now need to find one for tomorrow - any thoughts on which shop (open today and nearby) is likely to have a 100cm round black shoelace?

Fascinating thought. It is true that when your life falls apart, you just stop worrying about a lot of the things that were previously engaging a lot of your attention. Concerns about what exactly my kids were eating, for example, or whether they were watching too much TV, went out of the window when I was on the verge of losing my marriage, home and income (although of course I still made sure they were fed and weren't watching stuff that was too grown-up for them). But when you get through the nightmare and life becomes OK again, you have energy and brain-space to devote to less important issues, and you find yourself doing so again. Maslow's pyramid of needs says you will put your effort into the most basic one that you haven't got. If you've got the lower ones, then you will put your effort into the higher up ones.

wageslave

LydiaJ, you were always a nice woman. Somewhere along the line you have become a very wise one too.

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

You must have been unlucky.

As always

I wasn't even mistreating it at all; always careful sitting down on it and moving around. Treated both gently.

silvercar

PasturesNew wrote: »

As always

I wasn't even mistreating it at all; always careful sitting down on it and moving around. Treated both gently.

That was your mistake

PasturesNew

LydiaJ wrote: »

Maslow's pyramid of needs says you will put your effort into the most basic one that you haven't got. If you've got the lower ones, then you will put your effort into the higher up ones.

I'm always scrabbling around in the lower layers.
Red: Got that 99.99% of the time
Orange: Got some of that most of the time
Yellow: That's the NP's bit
Green: Struggling often, but usually bobbing about in this bit
Blue: I know that bit's out there.... just never really get to it as the other parts further down the pyramid need attention.

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

I really don't want anyone to feel sorry for me. I took a risk.

If someone said I'll bet all the money you have plus your job against £20,000,000 on a flip of a coin. You choose the coin then what would you do? I made my choice and I'm good with it.

I worked for the most brilliant man that I've ever met, he was amazing. One day a deal came in, not connected to the fund. He made perhaps a dozen calls and got a dozen or more back. He raised $100,000,000+ in financing which was amazing. Seeing stuff like that raises the bar; it makes you realise what's possible. It kinda made things harder after I lost my job but by crickey did I see what could be done.

Not red down the thread yet, but ...

Whose saying anyone feels or would have felt 'sorry for you'. Love perhaps, for others fondness, friendship, my, oops, their own selfish desire to help. Compassion for your kids,hope one day you would be able to pay us all back tenfold......:D

Gen, get a grip man! It's not about pity, it's about friendship and humanity.

lostinrates

michaels wrote: »

ON a serious note I am daily amazed at what some of the NP 'suffer' through without complaining, I can't contemplate how I would cope with LIR or Sue or many others daily challenges and yet you all seem to rise to them without complaint. I sometimes wonder if we are actually quite well equipped to handle stress and adversity and it is actually not having to deal with problems that can lead to stress as we try and create things to prime the fight or flight response from life's trivialities. For instance Mr G can put his entire life on the flip of a coin whereas I can agonise for weeks over whether I should pay £80 a month to fix my mortgage for 5 years.

On a trivial note, I have failed to order a shoelace during the hols and so now need to find one for tomorrow - any thoughts on which shop (open today and nearby) is likely to have a 100cm round black shoelace?

I don't think I can ever be accused of not moaning!

I often moan here because I NEVER discuss this with family other than dh. Ever. I learnt quickly how fair weather lots of my friends were, and tbh I am not sure that's a fair word, they were friends with the old me, this me is something different. I am not sure I would have been friends with her either :rotfl:


My stupid right leg is really not helping today. It's not terribly painful at all, it just keeps 'disappearing'. It's weight bearing best when bent, so I have a really odd one bent leg walk today.

Supper tonight is mint tea. I cannot look at another leftover. For the others it's easy peasy risi e bisi with hopefully the last of the ham. It's delicious but.....enough already.


I might feel like fruit salad soon. I have all the makings for a lovely fruity pavlova for NYSE, but the idea of the sugar and cream repulses me. I suggested vegetable and lentils then a minty fruit salad to dh and he looked like he might cry.