Nice people thread part 7 - a thread in its prime

LydiaJ

chewmylegoff wrote: »

we will move out soon whether they sell it or not - they are trying to sell vacant possession (they did try to sell it to us first!). we will probably start looking to buy early next year i expect.

it is inconvenient when the flat you are renting is on the market - we have to accomodate 1-2 viewings most saturday lunch times for instance.

however, whilst this can get a bit old, it also means we've been on a rolling contract since our 12 month fixed term expired 18 months ago, and our rent has not gone up since the day we moved in 2.5 years back - so it's worth the extra hassle i think as it is cheaper than moving and we are not locked in.

Oh cool. I hope you'll be telling us some of the ups and downs of the house-hunting. I love other people's house hunting stories.

And yes, I know what you mean about rolling contracts. I was on one when I was looking to buy, and it was great to have the flexibility. I was in my last rented house for five and a half years with two kids (and a dog for the first few years - although he caused negligible wear and tear compared with the children) with no redecoration, so it was looking quite tatty by the time we left, but keeping the same rent from July 2005 to Jan 2011 was nice. I didn't have to put up with viewings, though. The "water feature" in the hall (aka huge stains on the ceiling where water dripped through every time the shower was on) meant that they decided they'd wait for me to leave, then fix it, and then start showing it. :rotfl:

I should add that the water feature wasn't operational the whole time I lived there. It had happened a few times and some kind of fix had been bodged each time, and then it started happening much worse just after I gave notice, at which point we all agreed to leave it until I was out, and then they were planning to take up floorboards etc and try to sort it properly while the house was vacant.

LydiaJ

chewmylegoff wrote: »

no, i have no plans to either. i'm giving some slight consideration to just getting a pair of wedding rings for us to wear instead of getting married though, as a symbolic thing, although not sure how she would react to that.

So, if you're happy to commit to buying a house together, and to wear rings to symbolise the relationship, what is it about actually getting married that doesn't appeal to you?

sss555s

chewmylegoff wrote: »

no, i have no plans to either. i'm giving some slight consideration to just getting a pair of wedding rings for us to wear instead of getting married though, as a symbolic thing, although not sure how she would react to that.

I think you must just love it when she gets angry

chewmylegoff

LydiaJ wrote: »

So, if you're happy to commit to buying a house together, and to wear rings to symbolise the relationship, what is it about actually getting married that doesn't appeal to you?

well, if we buy a house together with a joint mortgage she'll have to sign a division of sale proceeds agreement first, so it won't be that romantic, but she seems happy with that.

i just fundamentally have an issue with getting married, i can't see the point of it, it creates no legal obligation that houses and children doesn't and just costs a load of money that i'd rather spend on something else. also, we can't come to an agreement about where to do it that we are both happy with so it's better not to do it in my view; having a wedding that pleases one party and upsets the other is the worst possible alternative.

LydiaJ

I see. I can understand that. Totally different from how I feel myself, but it takes all sorts...

If they offered to sell the flat to you, and you turned them down, then presumably you'd like to buy somewhere rather different from the flat that you're renting. What sort of place will you be looking for?

purch

Why would a 52yo man, who can easily afford to pay a Garage to repair his car, spend 4 hours over the weekend replacing his discs and pads ?

The poor bloke is in agony at the moment and can hardly move due to a stiff back. :mad:

What a dope :eek:

sss555s

purch wrote: »

Why would a 52yo man, who can easily afford to pay a Garage to repair his car, spend 4 hours over the weekend replacing his discs and pads ?

The poor bloke is in agony at the moment and can hardly move due to a stiff back. :mad:

What a dope :eek:

Slow learner?

lostinrates

chewmylegoff wrote: »

well, if we buy a house together with a joint mortgage she'll have to sign a division of sale proceeds agreement first, so it won't be that romantic, but she seems happy with that.

i just fundamentally have an issue with getting married, i can't see the point of it, it creates no legal obligation that houses and children doesn't and just costs a load of money that i'd rather spend on something else. also, we can't come to an agreement about where to do it that we are both happy with so it's better not to do it in my view; having a wedding that pleases one party and upsets the other is the worst possible alternative.

But it also offers a protection for spouse and potentially children that only it or civil partnership can.

I am not opposed to not getting married ( not being religious I was very content with a civil ceremony). We got married when we did, how we did both because stress/ health meant the big wedding being planned did not appeal and even though dh was my nominated nok it was not working like that. In an emergency I am grateful, grateful grateful we are married. It cuts through all the carp.

chewmylegoff

LydiaJ wrote: »

I see. I can understand that. Totally different from how I feel myself, but it takes all sorts...

If they offered to sell the flat to you, and you turned them down, then presumably you'd like to buy somewhere rather different from the flat that you're renting. What sort of place will you be looking for?

i wouldn't buy anything smaller than a 3 bed house with a garden. i'd prefer 4 bedrooms if possible. no point paying £15k stamp duty for a £500k flat and then needing to move again a couple of years later.

we can probably afford about £600k so that means that we need to leave this area to get 4 beds. thinking of going further out into surrey, and probably around to the south a bit. perhaps claygate sort of area. gets us away from the aircraft noise as well hopefully.

sss555s

LydiaJ wrote: »

I see. I can understand that. Totally different from how I feel myself, but it takes all sorts...

Would you get married again Lydia?