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Am I being unreasonable?
iammarmite
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In June my mum brought a a car- I was insured on it based on me paying £150 towards insurance and petrol a month. I was fine was this as I was desperate to get back on the road after living with no car in the middle of nowhere for 9 months.
Before she even got it we agreed I would be able to use it for 3 days a week- one day I need to go to Work programme, the other day physio and the third day would only be every fortnight for signing on. Obviously I have used it other times to- mainly running to the supermarket for her, taking her dry cleaning to the dry cleaners, picking various things up for her from town. I have only twice used it for personal use- once to visit a friend in Chester who was in hospital and another time to see a friend for birthday drinks.
I have paid for EVERY tank of petrol (bar one or two) that has gone into that car since we have had it despite the original agreement that I would only have to contribute the £150 a month- its working out about £150/200 a month on petrol alone. Somehow we have done 4,000 miles in just over 3 months. I have shown both my parents my bank statements back to the day we got the car how much money i've spent at our local shell garage.
I have looked after the car- I wash it every Saturday, make sure I don't eat or drink in it (or anyone else), I don't smoke in it.
I think I have been more than considerate and generous. I know I am incredibly lucky to have access to it- but all the money I have spent on petrol (plus the £35 bottle of Scotch and £10 bunch of flowers as a thank you) is obviously not enough for her and she has told me she is taking me off the insurance tomorrow because "i'm taking the mickey"
I should also probably point out- every week I have to fill up that car. She was away for three weeks and the tank was still 1/4 full when she came back. Thats how much I use it.
What can I do to get her to see sense? I don't think i'm being unreasonable at all by being a little miffed that she can't even appreciate that she has had to spend about £100 on petrol in the last three months, that I look after her car and ALWAYS let her have priority plus running errands for her.
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Before she even got it we agreed I would be able to use it for 3 days a week- one day I need to go to Work programme, the other day physio and the third day would only be every fortnight for signing on. Obviously I have used it other times to- mainly running to the supermarket for her, taking her dry cleaning to the dry cleaners, picking various things up for her from town. I have only twice used it for personal use- once to visit a friend in Chester who was in hospital and another time to see a friend for birthday drinks.
I have paid for EVERY tank of petrol (bar one or two) that has gone into that car since we have had it despite the original agreement that I would only have to contribute the £150 a month- its working out about £150/200 a month on petrol alone. Somehow we have done 4,000 miles in just over 3 months. I have shown both my parents my bank statements back to the day we got the car how much money i've spent at our local shell garage.
I have looked after the car- I wash it every Saturday, make sure I don't eat or drink in it (or anyone else), I don't smoke in it.
I think I have been more than considerate and generous. I know I am incredibly lucky to have access to it- but all the money I have spent on petrol (plus the £35 bottle of Scotch and £10 bunch of flowers as a thank you) is obviously not enough for her and she has told me she is taking me off the insurance tomorrow because "i'm taking the mickey"
I should also probably point out- every week I have to fill up that car. She was away for three weeks and the tank was still 1/4 full when she came back. Thats how much I use it.
What can I do to get her to see sense? I don't think i'm being unreasonable at all by being a little miffed that she can't even appreciate that she has had to spend about £100 on petrol in the last three months, that I look after her car and ALWAYS let her have priority plus running errands for her.
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Let her get on with it, it seems to me that you will be better off financially by not using it. She, obviously will be a lot worse off.
Could yu not just buy yourself an old banger
Be unavailable when she want 'running' somewhere. Or running errands for her.
She will need you before you need the car sort of thing.make the most of it, we are only here for the weekend.
and we will never, ever return.0 -
Just buy your own car. Or get a scooter.
I bet their version is different to yours.
Added son/daughter onto car insurance and they want to use it more than me.
They claim they put all the fuel in which is only fair as they do more miles than me.Censorship Reigns Supreme in Troll City...0 -
Just buy your own car. You could of done easily with what you have contributed towards your mums.
It's not going to be anything special but it will be yours and no arguments.
Job done.Society always tramples down on those that are different. Abnormalities are smoothed over. I strive to be a wrinkle.0 -
oh no parents who think a cars is an object to be admired on the drive not to be driven on the road.
dont bother fighting the decision and let them do as they wish with the insurance, put the same amount of cash away for getting your own car, then youll have the freedom you required.0 -
Give up the tabs. I work and I can't afford to smoke. Instead of setting fire to it, put the cig money to one side. You'll have the cash for a car in no time.
5t.What if there was no such thing as a rhetorical question?0 -
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Sgt_Pepper wrote: »Don't be stupid, its a given right to anyone on benefit to smoke.
My mistake. I thought that was the 50" plasma tv from Brighthouse.
5t.What if there was no such thing as a rhetorical question?0 -
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How can someone who signs on once a fortnight afford all that petrol and be able to smoke?
None of my business of course0 -
Is your Mum still planning on taking you to New York for your 21st?
She doesn't sound unreasonable to me.The birds of sadness may fly overhead but don't let them nest in your hair0
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